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  • oral sex

    15 posts, 11 voices, 3054 views, started Nov 1, 2011

    Posted on Tuesday, November 1, 2011 by Steelcat




    • Amethyst
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      I love to reciecve oral sex but my guy says he likes it but i think he has some hangups about it and turns me off.Like i can take a shower and then if we go to bed a hour later and i want oral sex he says i have to go wash it.I think that it is stupid i am still clean not like i worked out and am all sweaty or any thing.Makes me feel like he does not like the way i tast and i think he needs to put his big boy pants on and get over this hangup.He also tries to tell me to wear a skirt says it will turn him on and he will do a better job but alass the quilaty does not get any better and i do not request he have to wear a banana hamhock in order for me to give oral sex to him what do you think.





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          Marya1961 wrote Nov 1, 2011
        • Wish I had an answer, guess each man is different.



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          Frannie1964 wrote Nov 1, 2011
        • Like Mary said, every man is different.



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          Jazzyblues wrote Dec 2, 2011
        • Go ahead and ask him straight , Would you prefer not to do it.See what he says.



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          Steelcat wrote Dec 2, 2011
        • I already did  he says he enjoys it but by the quality i am getting and his hangups i dont believe it.Maybe you got to love it to be any good at doing it.



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          Miltygirl87 wrote Dec 18, 2011
        • I think for some men it is a turn on and others not so much, but all men seem to LOVE receiving oral sex. I don’t know why they can’t “get” that women love it too!



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          Steelcat wrote Dec 19, 2011
        • ya what a load of it they always want it but dont want to give it to us or maybe just now and then but they want us to do it to them all the time ya that aint fair at all.Guess next relationship i will have to find one that loves giveing as much as reciveing



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          Ariana2o wrote Dec 20, 2011
        • have you split up with him over this then that you are talking about a next relationship?



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          Steelcat wrote Dec 29, 2011
        • no we are together have been for a long time my kids father and all.I am just saying that if we cant work it out we split up for a few months have been back for 2 years and it has not improved any.So going to keep trying for a few more years and if dont get better may have to move on.I know relationships are not all about sex i get that but i really need my sex needs met and i dont cheat so i really want this to work am going to get some books and hopefully with time things will improve reg sex just dont get me to climax witch is normal for most women or so i have read it.The relationship works rather well except for the sexual side of it maybe you just cant have it all.With my ex boyfriend that side worked wounderfully but long term we would not have made it to many other diffrences.



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          Ariana2o wrote Dec 29, 2011
        • i think sex is really important in a good relationship, but if you are not experiencing orgasm with your fella unless he gives you oral sex (and he is not too keen) then i can see there is a problem

          you say that normal sex doesnt get you to climax? so it seems to me, there are lots of ways you can learn in your own body and mind/imagination to have an orgasm, even if you only normally orgasm in one or two ways at the moment, you can learn new ways

          i would suggest if you dont already have a vibrator, dildo and other toys, you get some and experiment with all the ways you can orgasm, the more you do it the easier it gets - but basically i think a woman is responsible for her own orgasms and ability to have them, relying on men to figure out our bodies and what goes on in our heads, well...we will be waiting for ever.....

          in the mean time, with the oral sex, it might be he is just not sure what to do, what turns you on.  and if he wants you to wear a skirt to turn him on, then go a step further, get some sexy lingerie and stockings, then go take a sexy soapy shower TOGETHER for some foreplay, then get him in the bedroom and do a 69, that way you both have fun  

          you say the quality is not that good....be sure to give him LOTS of praise for what he does do, even if he doesnt get it right first time, tell him how good it makes you feel, even if he only does it for a little while, moan a lot when he is doing it, and give him lots of verbal encouragement, tell him how hot it makes you when he does that and how much you want him - just be sure only to say positive things, and no negativity, he may have had really bad feedback in the past from other women that makes him feel uncomfortable about doing this, or just not very much experience

          the other thing that might help is if you shave or get a brazilian, lots of guys find that nicer when it comes to giving oral sex, and me personally i also find it nicer too, even though it took me a while to try it (i was quite resistant to this suggestion from my bf) but now i will never go back

          you may think you shouldnt need to make all this effort, and perhaps you shouldnt (and maybe in the past you didnt have to) - but if all it takes is some sexy lingerie and shared showers and a bit of imagination and encouragement to keep your relationship together, its not a big price to pay if you get some great orgasms out of it - sounds like a WIN WIN all round to me



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          Steelcat wrote Dec 30, 2011
        • thanks for the advice i do want this to work i have been with him 25 years now and yes he had no experice before me.He says i am holding a metal grudge about the past you know the bad parts it has not been all bad the most was good.Well hopefully at some point things will improve sexually we do get along alot better now so that is good.I wish we had money would love to go to a sex therpist they cost alot.We are going to start going back to couple therapy again didnt like the first therpist we had.To bad i was not 20 years older then maybe would care about the sex part of it then it would not even be a issue.Or if we had a open relationship then it would not matter if he could not meet my needs but we dont and he would never consider that as a option either so i will keep trying and guess see where we are a few years from now hopefully it will improve



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          Nita P wrote Jan 26, 2012
        • he has issues, talk to him



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          Melissa Catron wrote Apr 29, 2013
        • I try to talk to him but he wont own any issues he has just blames me says i am holding a grudge about the past and that is why it dont work.He lacks skill and knowlege he says he is trying to get better but in almost 4 years i have had to nag him and he has only read 4 articles about oral sex.I think that if you call that trying it is bull yet he has no problem spending hours on the computer looking at porn.Come on in 4 years 4 articiles that is one a year that is not trying all at .He needs to own that this is his problem and not mine and that he needs to read more and try to get better at it.I think he is doing like a child does when they dont want to do something they put little to no effort in it so then you get tired of nagging them and having a half ass job done so  you give up and they never have to do it again.



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          Twinssupermom wrote May 1, 2013
        • Have you explained to him what would feel better or what he is doing wrong... I read the book satisfied by the lady from “Sex in the City” Kim ?  It says you should not be afraid to tell them what you like and how you like it...Just a thought maybe you have already done this !
          Good luck



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          Ladiesofwhitelinen wrote May 7, 2013
        • Talk to your man about what you like in sort of a play acting kinda way, maybe watch some porn together. And to ensure your taste down there, eat lots of fruit; think I heard that on Dr. Oz. Good Luck!!



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