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  • oral sex

    16 posts, 6 voices, 1743 views, started Nov 3, 2011

    Posted on Thursday, November 3, 2011 by Steelcat




    • Amethyst
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      My guy sucks at oral sex and he has this hangup about even if i shower a hour before we go to bed and just lay around watching t.v. when it is time to fool around i have to go shower again cause he says i might have sweated or some thing with in the hour of washing it.I say he needs to put on his big boy pants and get over this hangup it makes me mad makes me feel like he does not like the way i taste or some thing i am sick of this.





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          Jane Kiely wrote Nov 3, 2011
        • Hi, you say your boyfriend sucks at Oral Sex, do you make these comments to him.  As this will not help your situation, and will lead to resentment.  The best way to make this situation better, is to encourage him, in what he is doing, if you like something say encouraging words, ie: thats lovely, softer a bit harder, more to the left, guide him.  This will help you and him, the only way he can tell what you like is with practice.  The fact that he is trying to please you, means he cares alot for you, as he must pick up on the negativity, your showing him, but he is still willing to try and learn.  Hope this helps, enjoy x



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          Authorbanks wrote Nov 4, 2011
        • Have you tried using a favored wash? Or maybe a scent in a favor he likes. Maybe over time he will come to think of that taste the same way he thinks of a favorite food. But I don’t blame you for being annoyed. They have no idea about the scents and tastes on them that we put up with!



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          Anonymous wrote Nov 4, 2011
        • get a dog...a REALLY REALLY BBBIIIGGG F“N DOG!!! Penis envy and all that TEEHEE.



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          Steelcat wrote Nov 5, 2011
        • Well i do want him to get better but i think this thing with haveing to wash it every hour is a mood killer and a hangup he needs to get over.I have been with him 25 years how is it he had not figured out what i like and how to do it right.I have said some things to try to give him guidance but dont help a whole lot.And haveing to shout out directions is a mood killer i mean if i wanted to do that i sleep with a virgin



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          Steelcat wrote Nov 5, 2011
        • and yes tried flavor jelly and does not change the quality of the oral i recieve .I think he just hates it and he says he dont.He says i am holding a grudge over him about things in the past.I say he lacks skill and his hangups kill the sexual relationship.We went to conceling but did not help any.He says he loves me more than any thing but if he does why does he not get over his little hanups and get his skill level up.He is a selfcenterd lover and really only seems to care about his own wants and desires and it has been like this for most of out relationship.



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          Anonymous wrote Nov 5, 2011
        • I had a boyfriend like that. He had to be drunk to do it a little bit. I think that after 25 years it’s clear he has a hang up. I’m sorry for you but the bigger picture is L-O-V-E. Is at least that there? He at least tries! Have you tried adult movies? How about reversing the roll? You do unto him as he has done unto you!(during your time of “giving” stop at a crucial moment and request he go wash“IT“)HAHA reverse physcology!! Get a good vibrater and let him see how oral stimulation can cause a mind blasting orgasim.



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          Jane Kiely wrote Nov 5, 2011
        • Hi im sorry youve been together 25 years, and find yourself in this situation.  Maybe you need to concentrate on the things you Love about him.  And just accept that this situation, isnt going to change.  I wish you both the best X happy



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          Vikki Hall wrote Nov 5, 2011
        • Wow!  

          Ummmm hello and welcome to you all!



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          Steelcat wrote Nov 7, 2011
        • Well i love him but dont think i am in love with him.I love us being all together.I dont have money or a great job so the kids live with him in the house they where born in.I could not afford the house payment alone any thing else on my pay so when we divorced i gave him primary custody because i would not have a home for them.Do you believe that you can love someone but not be in love with them some times i think that is one reason why i cant get off but once a month.It is a hard situation because i dont cheat but am so tired of being hard up and not satisfied.Yes last n ight i stoped in a crusal moment for him and demanted he was up he got all pissed off at me.I wish a vibrator would do it for me i hate plastic just not the same thing.I told him i think a big reason why i came back was the kids he says no way i am in love with him and just dont want to let myself believe it.But if i am so in love with him why dont it work i can not live with this kind of no sex life would be diffrent if i was 80 or some thing.Do you believe i could be holding a metal gruge against him for things he has done to me in the past?It doesnt help matters that my ex boyfriend that i was with for the short time i moved out was the most amazing lover and loved to give oral and had no stupid hang ups.Can you not have a great relationship and great sex too?



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          Steelcat wrote Nov 7, 2011
        • oh ya tried movies dont work for me and dont help him with his hangups even though you dont see those girls stoping every hour to wash it again or any thing lol



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          Steelcat wrote Nov 8, 2011
        • why is it so many people read this but only a few will give there input on the subject.I really would like to hear the option of others maybe someone out there can relate to me and give me some sound advice on the subject.



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          Anonymous wrote Nov 8, 2011
        • I wish I had THE answer but you sound conflicted. You had great sex with a boyfriend but still feel a strong bond with the husband.Does he love you? Yes there is such a thing as loving someone but not being in-love with them.  If you can find a professional to talk to it could greatly help you to resolve at least some of the confusion you‘re having. Good luck,my heart aches for you,sweetie.



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          Steelcat wrote Nov 8, 2011
        • my ex loves me he does not want things to end again and says he only wants to be with me.Says if he finds someone eles they have to look just like me.I went to a therpist but they just kinda sit there when you ask them some thing they are tell you that you have to figure out the answer they wont tell you it.I am very torn because i love being here in the home wiht my kids 10 and 16 love being here with my pets and i do like being around my ex husband when we dont fight or he is not being a selfish jerk.He is very selfcenterd when it comes to sex.And he says he likes to give me oral but his hangups and acctions say he does not like it.He says that if the relatioship is mostly good that we can work out the sex thing.But it has been 3 years that things have been this bad sex wise so to me it is not looking good.I wish we had money to see a sex therpist but they are way to costly.Before the divorce i was in love with him for many years and well the sex was a little better think mostly cause i was in love with him then.Also i did not care that much about sex spent most of my life focusted on my kids but now they are older and my sex drive has risen and the sex just aint working with him.Some times i think i should have stayed with my ex boyfriend the sex was amazing he would make love to me not just jump on me lol.But cant change the past and they say every thing happens for a reason right?But i dont want to be sexual deprived forever i think i deserve a good sex life and relationship am i asking for to much?I think maybe i thought if i came back things would change and i would fall back in love with him but alass not happend in 2 years since i have been back do you think with a good therpist maybe there is hope i am going to try to find another therpist we can start seeing again sure it cant hurt any.



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          Vikki Hall wrote Nov 8, 2011
        • Steelcat maybe the reason why you‘re not getting much response is because we are not sure what to say.

          I can’t tell from your writing if this is a sincere problem you are having, or if it’s a joke, or you‘re just venting.

          All I can say for sure is the BEST person to help you solve your problem is the person you are talking about. Being upfront and honest is always a good policy. And if that does not help then maybe couples counseling would help. After all if you are both committed to the relationship then I would think you would both want to do things to make it better.

          Good Luck!



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          Steelcat wrote Nov 9, 2011
        • thanks for your reply back and yes it is a problem who would joke around about such a personal thing.Well i am going to try to find another conseler maybe i will find a better one this time have tried 2 one man one women and was not happy or felt helped by either one.Guess i will give it more time that way if things dont inprove and things come to a end then i will know i did try to fix things and gave it my all it is hard to just walk away from your kids and a 25 yr realtiship.thanks so much



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