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  • QUESTION: Do you allow your teens and tweens to be on the computer in their bedroom or must it be in a public area in the house?

    12 posts, 12 voices, 636 views, started Sep 13, 2008

    Posted on Saturday, September 13, 2008

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      Diamond
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      I refuse to let my girls take the computer anywhere else in the house. We have a wireless network so they can easily take it anyway, but they have to use it in the kitchen. While it is true that I am not standing over them and watching them - they know I can check in at any moment.  

      My girls are still pretty young so they are happy with the webkins and Hannah Montanna sites. I’ve also instilled a healthy sense of “don’t talk to strangers even on the computer” so for now it is OK. When they are old enough to go to social networking sites, things will change again.

      Where do you keep the computer that your children access?
      What kind of rules have you put into place?
      Have you thought about installing website tracking software?



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          Tracie08 wrote Sep 13, 2008
        • My youngest is now 17 and a senior in high school. I never allowed computers in the kids rooms.  There are also many programs out there to restrict access to certain sites.  My kids knew that I could go and check what sites they were on.  As your kids get older they will want to become active on myspace and / or facebook—which I allowed my kids on, with the condition that I have access to check out their site at any time - then I knew what was on there and who they were talking to.  

          I feel that it is our responsibility as parents to be monitoring what our kids are doing.



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          Suburbsanity wrote Sep 30, 2008
        • We have a desktop in the dining room and a laptop with wireless.  It must stay on a desk in the kitchen (highly visible) or in the den where everyone is.  That’s the rule, we’ve always had it, and no one complains because they know we won’t change it.  I also have net nanny just to make sure - I can also easily change the settings with just a click or two to prevent accidental porn sites, etc.



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          Julied61 wrote Sep 30, 2008
        • My teen just got his own laptop but it is not allowed in his room.  I went ahead and added a parental control after a few experiences with my other one going where he shouldn’t.  I even tried it out - searching for porn stuff.  It seemed to work.



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          Mary Clark wrote Sep 30, 2008
        • Ours has always been in our den where everyone was.  It’s now in my office in the house, but still in an open place.  My youngest does have a new one in his bedroom now...he’s 19 and in college.  His computer is a PC where is our other one is a MAC.  He needs his for school...A LOT.  So....we have both now.  I can’t worry about it now...if her were off at school I would not have any say so...and my son is a good kid.  So..I am not worried about it.  I can get on his anytime anyway.   But a centrally located place is best.



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          Scottishrose6 wrote Oct 1, 2008
        • I got rid of the wireless on the laptop so now the kids have to use the laptop in the living room. I periodically look over their shoulders because their IM-ing gets out of hand sometimes and I have to put a stop to it. I also check the histroy to see what sites they're visiting. So far I've not had any problems



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          Danihoney wrote Oct 1, 2008
        • Our only computer is in my bedroom so if the kids want to use it they are in my space where I frequently come and go. They do not have their own computer or TV, and my oldest has a pay as you go cell phone that he has to pay for. They are only 13 and 11 (both boys) and don’t really show much interest in the computer for reasons other than homework and an occasional PC game. We eat our meals together and watch TV together. I like it that way.



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          Daphne wrote Oct 1, 2008
        • I finally broke down and bought a laptop for myself so that the kids could have the PC...which i keep in a traffic area of the house.  They have been told that suspicious behavior will be treated as an offense.  If they reduce windows when i walk by etc., I will assume they are doing something they shouldn’t be doing.  My expectations are high and, for the most part, they are met.  I am fortunate but i am not foolish enough to believe that my children are perfect.  I am not a supporter of computers in children’s bedrooms.  It’s bad enough they have those stupid cell phones to keep them up at night.  I have even resorted to taking them from 10PM-morning.  I hate those things...the texting part, anyway.



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          Kimisesnon wrote Oct 27, 2008
        • My girls, 13 & 17 both have laptops...both use them for homework in their rooms, and both use them with facebook... However, i have access to their facebook accounts and get to call the shots as far as how they are set up and i read everything! I believe that Respect, Trust and Honesty are the most important values i can teach ... so far, I have only had one instance with my youngest that has shut hers down for a week... oh yeah, and I do follow through with my wicked punishment ways!!! I’m lucky though, my girls laugh and share everything with me...even when it’s hard... There is always a lesson to learn, even for me!!!



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