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  • Recognizing the Real Deal

    1 posts, 1 voices, 897 views, started Apr 21, 2009

    Posted on Tuesday, April 21, 2009 by Ms-kay


    • Carnelian

      Life is full of a variety of people and, it might not always be very easy to recognize real friends. It is therefore wise to know some of the things that you can do to identify those friends that are good for you.  

      First, let us know exactly who real friends are. They are those genuine people who care about everything that you do. In other words, they do not come with pretense but are genuinely concerned about your life. You might have had different kinds of friends in your life and, we have all not escaped the misery of bad people.  

      However, it is wise for us to be fair when judging others. If you are mean, the saying goes that you get what you deserve. This is to say that if you were not a good friend; there is no surprise at all that you ended up with people who are just like you. We all have our flaws and for this reason, nobody can be perfect.  

      However, we are blessed with good brains to identify those people that are good for us and those who are not. The following pointers will help you identify those friends that are good and those who you should not waste your time with.

      Real friends are those who are kind and loving. Kindness and love are qualities that are best seen while in action. People cannot claim to be kind or loving without the practical evidence. Therefore, keep your eyes and ears open where your friends are concerned. The things they do in this regard will sell them out. There is no way that you can be completely fooled.  

      However, there are those friends who pretend to be kind and the best thing is to take time. After some time, their colors will come out because they cannot put on the act for long. Be keen and really observe whether you have real friends or not. Another thing that will help you identify friends is their attitude. It is pretty easy to know how people perceive things from what they say. You want friends who have a positive attitude or outlook on life. People who are negative are contagious and, this also goes for those who are positive. Nobody wants to hang around people who are constantly mourning about life.

      To recognize real friends, they will help you in time of crisis. Good friends will want to know the problems you are facing in your life. For example, when you are sick, they will be the first ones to comfort you and to reassure you that all will be fine. Friends that are real will have even a greater concern than relatives because your relationship is one that is deep. Many friends will stick closer than a brother and this is evident in everyday life. When you cherish each other and do good things for one another, you will always realize that friends will never fail. Therefore, let the above pointers guide you into indentifying the kind of people you should keep close. With the right search and attitude, you are sure to find friends that are worth cherishing.

      Francis K. Githinji


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