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  • Should I Say Something?

    4 posts, 4 voices, 897 views, started Oct 10, 2011

    Posted on Monday, October 10, 2011 by Denise Richardson

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      Hi Ladies,

      help me out here with your advice please....
      Ok I have this associate whom I've known for a long time now, and she is a nice person, but just hasn't had great success with jobs. She is a single woman, but dates a guy who is currently living with his woman and children, but not married to her (not that it makes it ok for them to be seeing one another) . He hasn't too long gotten out of prison and has since got a job working and trying to care for her as well as his family where his funds towards her are limited. She on the other hand just seems to not want to put forth an effort to do better for herself, whenever she is in a financial bind she calls me and shares with me her struggles and the issues at hand at the time.  

      Now she won’t come right out and ask me for any money, but the way she goes about her sob stories is a dead ringer that she is looking for charity from me, well I’m not buying into it! Though I know she is struggling, hey! who’s not these days with the economy being the way it is, but what I can’t understand is this...she hasn’t work a job in wow ages, she was getting her money through babysitting for others who worked or what they were calling a child care check, but now thats all changed.  

      Ok so if you know and knew this was coming to an end why are you NOT trying to find means of employment for yourself or go back to school to brush up on your skills to help yourself find work? Ok so anyhow it is getting a bit tired with me, and I love her as a person, but I am NOT Rockerfellow’s daughter nor do I have a money tree in my yard. I have no idea why she thinks I can give her handouts everytime she calls me and trust me it is a handout she is looking for.  

      I have helped her in past-times as well as recently, but I’m all out of charity when it comes to her now, she is too needy and is NOT trying to do any better for herself. She has no small kids at home her children are grown and on their own and she seems to expect others to take care of her needs, so if anything should I say something to her, and if so what is it that I should say? I don’t want to hurt her feelings or seem as though I’m belittling her.



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