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  • Should We Let Them Win?

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    20 posts, 15 voices, 1538 views, started Jun 3, 2009

    Posted on Wednesday, June 3, 2009 by Cynthia Cavoto

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    • Aquamarine
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      How many of you have experienced the feeling of having to let your spouse/boyfriend/significant other win?  

      What about when you participate in a sports game with them?  Are they truly gracious when you win?  

      In a similar situation, recently I was going to buy a new car.  When I mentioned to my husband where I wanted to go, he told me that only the place where he purchased his  truck was a reputable dealer and that if I want to go somewhere else, I'll probably get ripped off. Then he told me that of course it's, "my decision".  What?  

      I can’t be the only one, ladies.  Or am I?

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          L J wrote Jun 6, 2009
        • i hate to admit it, but i let mine win a lot more than i should.. he is very over bearing at times and i let him get his say so and try to let it go and not say what i'm thinking all the time.. now sometimes i get tired of letting him win the verbal war and i put it down quick and he'll finally shut up, but it is very rare.. so don't feel like the only apple out there cause there is another like you too!!!
          god, i feel for women like us! worried



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          Stephanie Lawrence wrote Jun 6, 2009
        • I’m very competitive.... so NO I don’t let him win



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          Frannie1964 wrote Jun 6, 2009
        • Well when we use to play board games together I would always win and then he said one more game, and then one more, he didn’t want to stop playing until he won, so sometimes I would let him win just so I could quit playing...lol



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          Tuliplady wrote Jun 6, 2009
        • I let him win an aurguement now and then just for the sake of his ego.  

           If he were telling me where I should go buy my next car, he’d have a rude awakening!  I don’t tell him where to spend his money, and he better not be telling me where to spend mine.

          Really though, we have similar thoughts and ideas about a lot of things, so we don’t argue often.



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          Cynthia Cavoto wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • Yes, it’s just so hard sometimes.  I feel like it really drains me just to get along with him.  It shouldn’t be that hard, you know?



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          UK Girl wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • Never I’m way too competitive for that ..... always have been - sorry but it’s true I show no mercy



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          Cynthia Cavoto wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • I follow this great blog called The Love Goddess. It’s a created by a woman who is a credible author and writer and posts some wonderful information about women and men.

          She’s pretty interesting ladies... tell me what you think, I think it’s some great advice & it makes a lot of sense!

          In her post she talks about the competition between women and men and some reasons why!

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          Denise Richardson wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • Most times my hubby looks to me to make the final decisions which I think he is so smart in doing so lol.happy



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          Mz. Queen wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • I let him win only when it doesn’t cost me anything, monetarily, emotionally, physically or spiritually hmmmmmmmm
          so it’s quite possible that I never LET him win.

          He just has to be right and that’s the only way he’s winning anythinghappyhappyhappyhappyhappyhappy



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          3sa wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • I live by this quote:

          Would you rather be right or happy?  I choose happy.  

          So would you rather WIN or be happy....please who cares about winning ....unless winning makes you happier then you have a problem...lol

          By doing this I’ve already WON



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          Cynthia Cavoto wrote Jun 12, 2009
        • yes, I see your point. However, some individuals have such strong personalities that it becomes difficult to deal with. Stubborness is a tough trait to live with, and it can be a real challenge sometimes!



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          L J wrote Jun 12, 2009
        • pinkcats you r right ....  

           stubbornness is not easy to live with, i know i live with one and sometimes a tylenol will take away the headache and sometimes it won't!
          men can be total asses when they want to be!!!!
          some of them have to always be right and win!!!
          if you can put up with it/good/ if you can’t you need to find another universe to stick them on!!!!!



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          Saylor101 wrote Jun 12, 2009
        • 3sa your so right!  

          I agree to disagree often - and better yet have learned to just drop some things - - wether i’m right or wrong...

          When it comes to sports - I’m not good at much - but I always give it all I have.

          When it comes to playing “games” - I play to win.  

          But I do “give in” on major decisions or if he really might know better than I happy



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Jun 12, 2009
        • My husband has a very strong personality. And, I agree it’s very hard to live with at times. Makes me tired. Truth be known, it begins to crush a person’s spirit.



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          Cynthia Cavoto wrote Jun 12, 2009
        • Cynthia~

          sounds like you and I have a lot in common!  It does drain me, too.  Should it be that hard to get along with someone?  ugh!  So far, it has not crushed my spirit or my high energy, however, I often wonder how I ended up here! LOL!
          ohhhh



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          Bluerose wrote Jun 13, 2009
        • Men feel like they are taking care of their women by making their decisions for them.  As odd as it sounds, they love us.  I make decisions all day at work.  When I get home, I’m done.  I let him make the decisions cause I’m too tired to & he feels good doing it.  When it came time for me to buy a new car, I let him arrange the meeting with the salesman.  It was a salesman that his entire family dealt with so there was a comfort level there.  I let him handle it.  I got the car I wanted.  He felt good cause he felt like helped me.  (Which he DID cause I don’t have the time or energy to shop around too much, except online.)  It took a long time for me to get to this place mentally - to be able to let things go & let him make some of the decisions.  But wow ... the payoff has been worth it!  I’m more relaxed.  He’s happy.  It’s a relationship I wish I had found 20 years ago.



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          Shopgirl1960 wrote Jun 13, 2009
        • Pink,

          I don’t know why there are some men that need to take control of every situation, or win every verbal battle.
          I have a client who’s with a man that would drive me insane.
          After 12 years I think it’s starting to wear on her.

          I also know someone who has a son like this and the parents are nothing like that at all.  This is a really interesting subject and it makes me want to pick their brains.



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          Cynthia Cavoto wrote Jun 15, 2009
        • yes, I wonder how someone becomes such a control freak like that...

          Why not let others do their own thing?  I can’t figure it out.  I should have been a pychologist, like I wanted to be! lol



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