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  • Sleeping With the EX

    21 posts, 11 voices, 1453 views, started Dec 22, 2008

    Posted on Monday, December 22, 2008

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      We are divorcing and I'm thinking about giving him one for the road. It's not a one way street because, of course, I'll be getting  one for the road too. lol

      Have any of you continued a sexual relationship with your ex? How did/does it work?



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          Kissalicious wrote Dec 22, 2008
        • Wow!! Bfly I should have tons of wisdom on this subject... scratch that... do have tons!! LoL!!
          Not proud of it but my ex and I have had that type of relationship long after our divorce.  

          He’s on his 3rd marriage (I was his 1st wife and I’m the only wife with his kids!!) so I’m sorry or not.. to say I have always justified my actions.

          On the real, it has not been emotionally good for either of us. He still wants me in that way .... and tries super hard. I am still learning about boundaries after 19 years with this man.  

          I do wonder what my life would be like if I would have closed up shop with him years ago!!!
          Everyone around us can see the attraction & sense the magnetism we have with each other.



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          Mz. Queen wrote Dec 22, 2008
        • I feel BB.  

            My soon to be ex is the best at lovemaking, but I notice shortly after an escapade he calls for some stupid reason, like all of a sudden we get along. It’s just sex I want to tell him, but I don’t cause I like it with him. I am in control of our get togethers though, and I will do what I do until something or someone better comes along.

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          Jenz ~ wrote Dec 22, 2008
        • Oh my God. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!! NO! NO! NO! (lol sorry lol)
          DON‘T DO IT!
          a) Ya don’t want to ‘wake up’ or re-live any of the stuff that hurts or sparks up hope etc... ugh. The aftermath of that is so not even worth it.
          b) Out with the old! IN with the NEW! (Literally. lol!)
          No pun intended... Sorry, I know, bad joke. Was just trying to make you laugh. estatic

          You don’t need one for the road. Ex’s become ex’s for a reason. We‘re all here for you.



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          Kissalicious wrote Dec 22, 2008
        • “it has not been emotionally good for either of us”

          not at the moment...
          but yes we do have one of those “love to hate...hate to love” type of relationships.
          and I realize it has stagnated me in many ways.



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          Jenz ~ wrote Dec 22, 2008
        • I’m probably not the best person to answer this kind of stuff at the present time. lol On 12/25 it’ll mark the one year date of me being single.
          I’m prooooobably not really doing things all that right~ I’m a good listener though. :)



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          Ms-kay wrote Dec 22, 2008
        • If you feel in your heart that it’s what you want to do....then Do It! No one knows of your feelings toward each other...just because it might not have worked out for others...don’t make that a reason for doing it or not! The choice is really yours and any consequences that go along with it.



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          Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Dec 22, 2008
        • Bfly..I’m gonna share something with you...Someone in my family (no..not me..I’d never go there with my ex again..the ex is for a reason..lol) But I do know someone who had ‘one for the road‘..When she woke up the next morning...she couldn’t lift her head from the pillow..She had such a bad headache..I remember this so vividly..like it was yesterday...I don’t know if it was the guilt..or the man’s spirit entering her...Because as we all know..when we lay down with a person..we‘re taking in ALL of their spirits and essences...Good and Bad...I wouldn’t compromise my sanity and soul/spirit to gain someone elses bad aura...Even though the moment might be fireworks and fantastic sex...There’s always another bus coming along that might make for a better ride!!!!



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          Encee wrote Dec 22, 2008
        • I’ve never been divorced, but I dated the same guy for about 7 years.  After we broke up the only thing I wanted to do was move forward and never look back.  I had had enough of the situation and to be honest I didn’t even find him attractive anymore.  

          I don’t think you should stay involved at all with your ex.  It seems to me that it could turn out to be a weight your end up dragging around for a long time.  And then what if he decides he wants to get back together and you don’t?  No, I think you’d only be opening yourself up to problems  you don’t have now.  

          I can see why you’d consider this though.  You know your ex.  You‘re comfortable.  If that was enough though, you might be staying with him.  

          I say keep taking steps forward.  You don’t need to hang on to remnants of the past.  

          All the best to you!!



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          Kissalicious wrote Dec 22, 2008
        • It has on some level, but again most can see the intense emotion between us, physical and otherwise. Although, I don’t think either of us would quantify it as a “fatal attraction” at all.  

          I’m still a work in progress ... doing my best to learn & grow with each day estatic



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          (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Dec 22, 2008
        • My ex cheated on me.  So I had a hard time in bed with him thinking about that - even I had to overcome my sexual need - I rather called BOB and that’s no string attached.



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