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    1 posts, 1 voices, 571 views, started Jul 29, 2009

    Posted on Wednesday, July 29, 2009

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      Amethyst
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      I hadn’t been to my blog in a while and when I saw the wonderful comment and the invite I came over right away and had to join! estatic

      I know there are a lot of single/divorced Mom’s here so I’m hoping I might get some advice too.

      My ex and I have been separated 3 years.  Our boys, 11 and 14 lived with me for the first two years and then asked me if they could “try” living with their Dad.  He had moved about 2 hours away when we separated because he lost his job and had to go live with his Mom.  She passed away and he inherited her house and a lot of her money.

      I never asked for anything from him.  Just wanted my boys to be happy.

      I agreed to let them live with him for a year because at the time my job was so stressful and I thought maybe he could give them more time and hoped he was thinking of their best interests.

      Silly me for trusting him?

      A year later I realize that it was all about him and not wanting to pay child support (most likely).

      A couple of months after they moved in with him I found out he’s in renal failure and going to need a kidney.  He’s on dialysis 3 times per week and was leaving the boys alone a lot.  In Jan his girlfriend moved in with them, but prior to that, he announced to me that he would no longer meet me halfway so I could see the boys on weekends.  I had to either pay him or go down there to get them, which is what I’ve been doing.

      Now he wants to marry his GF and move to another state and I filed for custody so he got a lawyer and had my case dismissed locally and is suing for divorce and custody in his current town which means I will have to go two hours (each way) to appear in court.

      Obviously I need a lawyer.  I recently left my job, had another offer which fell through so now I’m unemployed, trying to find a job, and trying to figure out how I’m going to afford a lawyer to fight him.

      Would it be foolish of me to show up in court without a lawyer?  I’m waiting for him to serve me with his papers, which according to the judge who dismissed my case on Monday, he has to do by Friday, July 31st.

      Any advice would be appreciated.  I was a fool for trusting him, I know... live and learn...



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