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  • They Gotta Learn

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    3 posts, 3 voices, 679 views, started Oct 6, 2011

    Posted on Thursday, October 6, 2011 by Denise Richardson

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      One of my old friends, and yes I can call her a friend called me today chatting about her daughter who is also my godchild. While I have tried on numerous occasions to be a part of her and her brothers life they have chosen to lock me out and its ok! I’m not really locked out, its just that they choose to keep a low profile around me because of their chosen life styles. She is a 21 year old welfare recipient and mother of two with another one on the way, he is a 19 year old w/no kids that goodness drug dealer.
      They both were raised up right by their deceased grandmother, because of the lifestyle their mom led in the time of their adolescent years.  

      Well she shared with me that her daughter has now gotten a job working as a nurse assistant, and is trying, but her issue is with this guy she is currently dating who is not the father of the first two children and I’m not clear on whether he is the father of the baby she is carrying in her belly now. Well her mom is concerned because just like the former boyfriend, this one hits on her as well. I just don’t get it with these girls now adays letting these little wimp, punk-a** boys hit on them. Where are the parents to these kids?

      Like I told my girlfriend, they have to learn at some point that we as parents can only do so much, the rest is up to them to begin to take a stand for their lives, for their children and what they want for themselves as well as for their kids. I told my girls from the get go, I'm not going to be here forever so you'd better grasp all the knowledge that I'm trying to kick to you now as well as grasp life lessons along the way and learn from them because life is not a bed of rose, and when the chips are down thats when you'll see who your real true friends are and who really has your back. "Life experience is truly a teacher."  

      Well now that the daughter has these two kids with one on the way the step grandfather where she is currently residing with has told her she has till the end of the month to find her a place, she has to move out. I’m not mad at him about it, this man has carried this girl, her brother and their mom even before his wife died several years ago and even since she’s been dead, its high time he move on with his life and live enjoy his life how he wants to so yes! she and her brother need to learn that in this life there is no fair games.

      She wants me to try and have a talk with her daughter, not that I have a problem with it, but hey at this point what will she hear from me that she hasn’t tried to hear from me after all these years, and not only that!, she ain’t trying to hear me or you (meaning her mom) so I say let them learn from their own mistakes I just keep them covered in prayer hoping that God will spark something in them to turn from their current states and make a positive change before its too late.

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