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  • Unreliable family...

    4 posts, 3 voices, 1155 views, started Jul 16, 2009

    Posted on Thursday, July 16, 2009 by L. Denise Jackson

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    • Garnett
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      Hello all, so I am taking care of my sister as you have read in my previous posts and I have a question...

      How have you dealt with unreliable family members (immediate family) when taking care of someone?  

      How did you handle it?



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          L. Denise Jackson wrote Jul 19, 2009
        • And how do you deal with meddlers who feel entitled but they are too busy avoiding and trying to circumvent any protcol put in place?



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          Owlmaria wrote Jul 19, 2009
        • See my other post!
          Be firm!
          If you are the person that has the POA or POC then they do not have any rights or entitlements period!
          If they want to argue the point then ask them why they didn’t volunteer to do your job now that you have it, it has caused you grief, you’ve had to put your life on hold to take care of your sister(who it sounds like she wasn’t doing a very good job of taking care of herself to begin with)!
          Families love to complain & intrude themselves on any situation that may bring attention to them & not help where or when they are actually needed.
          I know you love them & want to respect all of their wishes BUT you were asked to be responsible for your sister, not them! Now that you are doing that, they need to respect what you are doing.
          You are in my prayers. Vent, Vent, Vent—that’s what we are here for, YOU!
          Love,  Maria



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          L. Denise Jackson wrote Jul 20, 2009
        • Maria, thank you for all of your support.

          My sister’s stroke was caused by a blood clot so this was not a mistreatment of herself but was really a compilation of stress and her not having her medicine due to insurance.  She would have normally had 2 sets of medicine.

          The family members that are causing a problem...I can take or leave them to be honest.  I don’t talk to them...my sister did and yes, it is very much the thought of, who offered help, who called and was supportive of what needed to be done and been consistently supportive of my nephews.

          Maria I have been sick all night and know that since my father came into town, there have been some strange things going on.  I am glad I have the power of attorney done now because this will give me the legal authority to do what I need to do and protect her progress.

          This message calmed down my stomach.  I appreciate you and all of your checking up on me.  Talk to you soon.



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