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  • UPDATE ON DAUGHTER IN CYBER SCHOOL!

    9 posts, 8 voices, 740 views, started Nov 22, 2008

    Posted on Saturday, November 22, 2008 by Dana Arcuri

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    • Very recently, I had been praying for wisdom in regard to my 13 year old daughter who has been experiencing serious challenges with school.  Yesterday, God poured out His almighty wisdom and it was as if a light switch was suddenly turned on!!!

      God not only revealed to me that my 13 year old daughter, Jenna, has learning disabilities, but God so graciously revealed to me that my teenager has been struggling with UNDIAGNOSED ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER.  I sit in awe at how quickly God sent me to the right people, the right information and the right books to discover this truth about my daughter.  God’s timing is PERFECT timing!
      On Friday, I felt led to contact the Learning Disability Association of America to discuss my concerns about Jenna.  The professional that I spoke with discussed with me that many teenagers and adults go undiagnosed, but it is not unusual for older individuals with learning disabilities to learn to overcompensate.  She mentioned that it is very possible for Jenna to have learning disabilities since her two siblings have already been diagnosed.  From there, I felt led to research learning disabilities on the internet.  Much of the information that I read sounded just like Jenna!  I was able to find specific information that listed symptoms and descriptions of each type of learning disability.  It helped me determine the area’s in which I believe Jenna to have the most difficulties academically.

      While I was on the internet researching learning disabilities, I kept seeing information about teenagers with ADD/ADHD.  There was a website that caught my attention because it was an ADD website for teenage girls with ADD.  I went onto this website and found a self-screening test to take to determine if Jenna has any symptoms of attention deficit disorder.  While reviewing this test, I felt strongly that Jenna does have so many of the inattentive ADD symptoms.  I asked Jenna if she would mind taking this self-screening.  To my surprise, my daughter had 25 out of 35 symptoms for inattentive ADD.  She has no hyperactive symptoms, but her 17 year old brother and her 10 year old sister have been diagnosed many years ago with ADHD, which is the very energetic, hyperactive type.  After Jenna took the self-screening, we discussed all her area’s of concern. Both Jenna and I were not expecting her to have ADD, yet, here she had been quietly suffering for all these years.

      In the book, “WOMEN WITH ATTENTION DISORDER“, the author, Sari Solden, writes females with INATTENTIVE ADD have symptoms of being quiet, very shy, withdrawn, disorganized, with short-term memory loss, the inability to retain information, who are extremely unactive, they have trouble socially, lack a positive self-esteem and struggle academically.  It is almost as if these inattentive ADD girls are “invisible!”  Sari Solden explains in her informative book that girls with inattentive ADD are usually overlooked.  However, she says that eventually these inattentive ADD girls will be discovered at some point when they no longer can overcompensate for all the area’s in life that they struggle with.  

      Throughout the events of the day, God shed the light in an area that I totally missed as a parent. I could not believe that I missed this when I already have two kids with ADHD and learning disabilities.  But once again, God covered me with amazing grace.  What matters most is that God helped me have wisdom and discernment in regard to Jenna’s challenges.  God answered my prayers!

      With the knowledge and information that I have now about Jenna possibly having learning disabilities and ADD, I have made the decision to keep Jenna in the cyber school.  The cyber school has a special education department.  I contacted the special education department and requested that they provide Jenna with a comprehensive evaluation.  We are in the process of having Jenna evaluated for learning disabilities and ADD.  

      My prayer is that Jenna will be evaluated by a professional with much knowledge and experience in diagnosing teenage females with learning disabilities and inattentive ADD.  I pray that she receives a correct diagnosis, is provided with additional learning support and accommodations in cyber school as well as medical treatment for ADD.  I feel confident that once Jenna receives the help that she needs, she will begin to feel better about herself, she will be able to achieve better grades in school and she will lead a more productive life.  Please continue to pray for Jenna and I while we are still in the initial evaluation process.  Thank you very much!



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          Theresa Simmons wrote Nov 24, 2008
        • it sounds like God put you on thr right track.   its all up to you now,and as good as a mother that you seem to be i believe you will do just fine!!!!  God bless you and keep you and yours in his care. you go girl!!!!



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          Dana Hall wrote Nov 24, 2008
        • Hi Dana,

          You are a FANTASTIC Mom! Do not question your judgment, or the fact that you did not recognize the possible ADD in Jenna. After all, you are not a professional, and your experience with children with ADD is your two who present differently. You couldn’t have known. And, I doubt seriously if most Pediatricians would suspect ADD, in a child who doesn’t have the typical symptoms.

          Hang in there. You‘re on the right track.
          I will pray for you.

          Hugs,
          Dana



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          Dana Arcuri wrote Nov 24, 2008
        • THANK YOU FOR YOUR ENCOURAGING WORDS AND PRAYERS!

          HUGS,
          DANA



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          Jacquie6363 wrote Nov 24, 2008
        • Jenna is so blessed to have you as a parent, and know that God reveals to us at the opportune time.



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          Dana Arcuri wrote Nov 24, 2008
        • Thank you, jacquie6363, for your lovely comment.  Yes, God’s timing is PERFECT timing!



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          Coachmombabe wrote Nov 25, 2008
        • Dana, I know how relieved you and your daughter must be! And yes, His timing is always perfect. I will continue praying as you suggested, for a quick professional diagnosis and an effective plan.

          Blessings,
          Cindy



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          Felic41 wrote Sep 11, 2009
        • Hi Dana,

          How has your daughter been doing since her diagnosis of a learning disorder?

          I just wanted to let you know that when I read your post, something clicked inside about the ADHD that made me read the book “Women with Attention Disorder“. I also read another book called “Scattered Minds” by Gabor Mate that sheds an interesting angle on what he believes are contributors to ADD/ADHD. After having done this, I was able to get to confirmed diagnosis of ADHD for myself. While reading these book, I saw so much of myself in the pages, there must have been a reason for me to see your post. I hope your daughter succeeds in school.



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