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  • What age did your preteen start washing dishes

    30 posts, 23 voices, 3452 views, started Jan 26, 2009

    Posted on Monday, January 26, 2009 by Renee P

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    • Amethyst
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      Hi ladies how are you!! I just wanted to see how many of your daughters are washing dishes and at what age. I got into a friendly debate over this about my daughter (who doesnt wash then yet) with my Aunt. My Aunt is appalled that I dont have my daughter washing dishes yet. She thought I should ve started her washing them at 8.  

      I was going to start her at 12 anyway. Just so she knows how to do them. You never know, I might get ill one day or anything.

      What do you guys think? And what ages?



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          Bluerose wrote Jan 26, 2009
        • Mine started washing at 10.  I paid her a dollar.  Sometimes more if there were a TON of dishes.



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          Robinesque wrote Jan 26, 2009
        • Monica started at 11 and Victoria, 9, and just loves to wash dishes!



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          3sa wrote Jan 26, 2009
        • Well, she learned to load the dishwasher at 11 years old.  She doesn’t wash anything by hand, except maybe a pan or pot.  I don’t wash by hand either and I haven’t since 1983 so I guess it’s my fault.



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          Ms-kay wrote Jan 26, 2009
        • Thank God my daughter has been helpful eversince she was little.  

          As young as 6 yrs old she was ready to get her little hands soapy to wash dishes. I think she just loved the fact of playing in the suds but that chore is not a big deal because she has been used to it for so long and she’s 13.



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          Wittymom wrote Jan 26, 2009
        • My daughter started washing dishes at 9. No big pots and pans, just dishes.



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          Saylor101 wrote Jan 26, 2009
        • I have boys 7 & 10 - and they both help with EVERYTHING!  Neither of them hand washes dishes, but they load and unload the dishwasher.  The 7  year old loves to do windows and tho it is 1/2 a—job, this last year he’s really started learning how to do it better!  They vacuum, bring firewood in, feed all the pets, and put their laundry away, the 10 year old has been helping me cook (his request) for the last few weeks.  I will say their rooms are a mess and they have NEVER made a bed....but overall I’m thrilled!!  

          They are gonna be GOOD boyfriends and husbands!! - Training by MOMMY



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          Renee P wrote Jan 26, 2009
        • Thanks ladies I just loved to hear all your comments. I think I am alittle behind on the dishes I better get a move on. Like I said she will be 12 soon. But she does do laundry and sweep floors. wash tables and dust and of course her room has to be tidy almost always. I think she will feel more responsible too she is already very independent.



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          Tuliplady wrote Jan 27, 2009
        • I’m sure mine were all washing dishes at 6, including sharp knives.  I showed them the proper way to wash a knife right to start with and we never had any mishaps.

          My son loved fried eggs when he was little and started frying his own when he was about 6.  His sister let him do this when I wasn’t home, but since there were no disasters, I let him continue.  You should have seen the pride on his little face when he showed me how he could do it.

          I’ve worked as a cook for many years and I have to say it’s very frustrating to me to have teens come to work in my kitchen who have never been taught at home to do dishes, use a sharp knife or even peel a potato.  I’m not exaggerating here either.  I had a young lady, 19 yrs. old that I had to teach to peel a potato, she’d never done it.  Another 19 yr. old was terrified to death to use a chef knife to cut a sandwich in half.

          Please, please teach your kids to do the basics before you send them out in the world.



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          Laurabeth wrote Jan 27, 2009
        • My daughter just turned 12 and she washes dishes on occasion. She does, however, load/empty the dishwasher, clear the dish drain (so I can fill it again), laundry, help cook dinner, clean her room and other rooms when I ask for help.  I don’t push her to do the dishes, because she does do so much else.



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          Renee P wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • I loved all your comments, well my daughter11 years old is finally starting on hand washing the dishses. So I feel great about that!!!



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          Carolnphil wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • Umm, my children are now adults (25 and 23) and male BUT I had them washing dishes when they were small enough to stand on a chair in front of the sink.  My mom did the same when I was a small child.

          They had to make their beds, dust the dressers and vacuum their room.  They also fed animals and helped with dinner, cut firewood and brought it in for me.



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          Martha Perez Torres wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • My daughter started at 8 but she has been doing them more frequently now.  She also helps around with other chores around the house.  She just turned 11 on Friday.  My twin boys (7) help around the house, keep their room clean and they help to unload the groceries.



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          Anne Lyken-Garner wrote Jun 5, 2009
        • You have to get in there early with kids, so starting them with chores as early as possible is a good thing. This way they expect to be asked.

          The family is a unit which becomes disabled if all the members do not take up their rightful roles in helping. If we wait too long, research has shown that it would be too late and the child would’ve grown into thinking that the responsibility of chores lies only with the parents.

          My first child started doing dishes (not knives, pots, or pans) at 11, but before this, she had been cleaning the bath tub as her weekly task (from 6). After this, she graduated to sweeping the playroom, then to washing dishes as well (Mondays and Tuesdays). it’s possible to let your daughter pick two days in the week to do this job as a starting place.

          My daughter always asks why she has to wash dishes when we have a dishwasher and I tell her that it’s part of her education. Every skill she learns makes her a more confident individual. She learned to make a cup of tea for guests when she was 10.  

          At the end of the day, there is no set time or age. I’ve noticed with my own kids and the ones I work with, that maturity varies from individual to individual. The older sibling may be ready at 10, but this is not to say that another child from the same family will be. The parents make the decision because they know the kids best.
          Anne



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          Mztracy wrote Jun 5, 2009
        • Well, my kids started doing dishes as soon as they could reach the sink and laundry etc. This is thanks to my MS. It used to bother me that they had to learnt his so young. My one dd said, look mom when we go to college and out on our own, we are gonna rock!! lol



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          Mztracy wrote Jun 5, 2009
        • Oh and i must add, my dd shelby is an amazing cook at 13!!



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          Carolnphil wrote Jun 5, 2009
        • Uh, I started helping with dishes when I was around six!  I stood on a chair in front of the sink.



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          Mz. Queen wrote Jun 5, 2009
        • I don’t quite remember at what age my three children did dishes but I’m sure it was around the age of 13, the same time they no longer wanted me to iron their clothes.



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          Susan Dahringer wrote Jun 5, 2009
        • I started washing dishes at age 6,and my children didn’t start doing until they were 8



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          Maryann13090 wrote Jun 6, 2009
        • This may sound unorthodox but I don’t think we can put an age to helping with specific chores.  I think as moms we just know when they are ready.  

          I started something a few months ago that has worked wonders.  Every night, about 30 minutes before it’s time to start getting ready for bed, we go through the living space of the house and I explain to them what of theirs needs to be picked up, put away, moved, etc.  We did this for about 2 weeks and then they began to know what needed to be done.  Then, much to my surprise, one of them started doing this picking up way before bedtime.  When I asked about it, she said, something about doing it now so she didn’t have to do it later.  

          I was amazed!  Point being, no one knows our kids better than we do ... we just know when it’s time to start instilling more responsibilitiy for them.



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