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  • What do you find most rewarding and challenging as a later in life mom?

    17 posts, 14 voices, 1069 views, started Mar 10, 2008

    Posted on Monday, March 10, 2008 by Rgnewman

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    • Amethyst
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      I adore my son, but sometimes find it challenging to maintain my patience level.  I often feel like I’m racing the clock and get burnt out.



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          Nadine Laratte-Belk wrote Aug 26, 2008
        • I absolutely love being a mother and wish that it could of happened sooner thus allowing to possibly try having more.  Everyday is a challenge because I realize that I no longer have the energy of a 30 yr old.  I’m totally exhausted by the end of the day but I would not change a thing.  My son gives me unconditional love and that alone allows me to find the patience and energy to care for him on a daily basis.



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Aug 26, 2008
        • I never was blessed to be a mom but I married a man with a 20 something daughter and am now a grandma of a 3 year old. My step daughter lives with her mom. They are only 5 minutes away. We have a great relationship. But the real treat for me is, I’ve been a big part of the baby’s life since infancy. Right now I take her to art classes and once that is finished, it will be another activity, maybe swimming lessons and maybe tumblebear, who knows. But, actually, I have her a lot so I feel almost like I’ve had a child. I’m 47 and I love all the activity with her but must admit that after she goes home, I’m exhausted. I commend over 40 moms! It’s a big job albeit a labor of love!



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          Cheryl Guy wrote Sep 7, 2008
        • I turned 40 this year and my husband wants to have a baby! We just got married 3 years ago and after 1 year of trying I got pregnant but had a miscarriage 1 week after finding out. We put the idea on hold because we made a big move from Chicago to Phoenix but now that things are settled he talks about it again. I have a 15 year old son from a previous relationship & a 9 year old step-son who lives with us. I don’t know if I want to “start over again“. And then again, I know I would love the baby beyond belief if we do have one. I don’t know if I am being selfish by liking my “alone time” & not wanting to give it up? I have wonderful, quiet hours during the day when my husband it at our shop & the kids are at school. HELP!



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          Gina Sorensen wrote Sep 8, 2008
        • I always desired to have children but was unable to conceive so we adopted a little boy from Guatamala 4 years ago.  Kai is 4 years old and the joy of my life.  I find that with age comes wisdom so we believe we are more equipted in our forties than we would have been earlier in life.  Kai keeps me young and fit!



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          Theresa Simmons wrote Oct 21, 2008
        • wow,that sounds like a big challege,but i feel in my heart of hearts you can handle it. Im sorry to hear about your mother and gradmother,i lost mine last oct also.(mother)i can feel your pain there. you WILL make it.God bless you.



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          Hsj wrote Oct 26, 2008
        • I married in my 30’s and having a baby did not fit in with my job positions at the time in my career.  When I was ready, Mother Nature did not cooperate.  I had my daughter via IVF four months prior to my 40th b-day.  She is the joy of our lives.  I find it challenging to keep the energy up at times.  Sometimes I just want to sit around on a Saturday morning, drink some coffee, and leisurely read a magazine.



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          Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Oct 27, 2008
        • Well...being a mum of 6 and being a new mum at 40...(an 8 month old now) and a homemaker..I would say that my challenges are not having enough time for me and not getting enough sleep..lol

          My reward is however, happy healthy, well adjusted children..I wouldn’t have it any other way!!



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          Raquel2526 wrote Mar 17, 2009
        • When I had my kids at age 34 and 37 I had already lived quite a rich life.  I got my bachelor’s, began my career, got my master’s, got a condo, dated, traveled, sang in choir, hula danced, and then got engaged a marvelous man.  With him we had a grand wedding, had an exotic honeymoon and bought a big custom house.  All of this was done on my and then our money alone.  It wasn’t our time to have a baby.

          To be a mature mother means I have more to give because I gave to myself first.  I can be truly selfless and be at peace with that.  The challenges are the same as with any other parent, no matter what age.  I can happily accept them as well.  All in all - what a blessing parenthood has been!



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          Mair21 wrote Apr 1, 2009
        • I had my first baby one month prior to turning 40 through IVF and adopted a little boy at 42.  I love my boys more than anything in this world but trying to keep up with them at times can be very challenging.  The perimenopause mood swings don’t work with a 6 and 3 1/2 yr. old either.  On the plus side I feel like I did alot in my younger years so I’m really not missing much. I love to be home with my children when alot of my younger friends what to go out and have a good time.  I’m too tired for that!!!



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          Heidi Saxton wrote Apr 7, 2009
        • Hi, Luvin:

          Have you ever thought about going the foster-adoption route? Adopting an older (school-age) child enables you to skip the bottle brigade, and provide a home for a child who might otherwise never have one. There are more than 500,000 in the U.S. who need temporary or permanent homes ... and 30,000 of those are adoptable TODAY.

          Unlike private infant adoption, foster-adoption doesn't have the large price tag ... In fact, you often get benefits for the child such as insurance and even a monthly stipend to defray expenses (childcare, clothes, etc.) If you'd like more information, check out my blog for foster-adoptive moms, the [Link Removed] 

          God bless you!

          Heidi Saxton


          Heidihesssaxton, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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          Raquel2526 wrote Apr 11, 2009
        • Hi Heidi, I’ve been thinking a lot about foster adoption lately.  I am definitely going to look into it - right NOW!  Thanks soooooooo much!  happy



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          Blook711 wrote Mar 2, 2010
        • Okay, I’m not 40 (yet) but I’m almost there.  I’m 38, have a 5 month old, and have been married for a year and a half. I love my life!!  Of course, in my 20s I was envious of those in relationships/getting married.  And in my early to mid-30s, I truly began to think I wouldn’t ever marry and was considering being a single mother.  I realized that once I became comfortable with myself and confident that I could do whatever I wanted and did not “need” anyone to be happy, satisfied, and content with my life, that’s when my husband showed up.  Funny how life works that way.  I’m so glad now that I married late and am starting my family late because it afforded me time to become who I am today—which I’m proud of.  My only regret is that my son, and future children (hopefully), will have old parents.



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