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  • What have I done in 40+ yrs, a lot

    27 posts, 21 voices, 1661 views, started Jul 4, 2008

    Posted on Friday, July 4, 2008 by Lenosan

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    • Amethyst
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      I have been to college, got a degree, been a soldier, banker, IT consultant, got a guard card, survived cancer and still going strong.  Right now my career is customer service.  Who know what the future holds.  But I have hope for the future.



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          Felicia H. wrote Jul 6, 2008
        • I’ve gotten a few degrees, given birth, started a business, ended a marriage (a very good thing!), gotten engaged again (see? I’m not jaded), learned to drive a stick, ended an athletic career and fell in love with another sport, run a 10K, survived cancer and FINALLY become satisfied with the person I am today - not who I will become (someday, lol). Looking forward to the next 40 years for sure...



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          Alanda Sikes wrote Jul 7, 2008
        • I have raised three bright and independent children, althought it has been a challenge.  I have learned to love myself.  I have survived and ended two abusive marriages, and finally met and married my soulmate.  I have a job that I truly enjoy and made new friends because of my work.  I have learned the importance of good credit and am currently working on restoring my (no thanks to two ex-husbands).  Most importantly I have learned to trust myself and my inner voice and I have learned how to stand on my own two feet and take of myself and not depend totally on a man.



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          Humming1975bird wrote Sep 10, 2008
        • Well for me it is now 50+ I survived a childhood with an abusive father and a uncaring mother.  Made in on my own on a bank teller’s wages at age 18.  Married a hardworking, dependable man (29 years together now).  We have raised two fantastic kids.  The nest is empty now.  I feel I have only just begun.  It is a new chapter and I’m not sure how to fill the pages.  I’ve just started back to school after a 15 year lasp!  I really feel I need to get this degree (I’m half way through an associate in management).  Other than that life is pretty boring.  I’m really, really tired of working at the bottom of the ladder on a 9-5 job and not being appreciated (by management) for the hard work I put in.  It would really like to find a creative outlet or something that will truly make a difference in the world - helping the homeless and the hungry.  Life is too short and it is slipping by.



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          Cheryl Phillips wrote Sep 13, 2008
        • Has it been 45 years already?? Phew!! In 45 years I’ve gone to college, gotten married and divorced twice, had 5 children. I successfully fought for 6 years to get child support from my 2nd husband who dodged paying even though he is successful and has them means to support his children. I did this without an attorney and was known in court as “Little Miss Pro Se“. It worked but it took determination.

          I’ve worked in hospital administration, advertising and ran my own successful eBay business as a appraiser/reseller of vintage items. I closed the business in May 2007 after I was in a car accident. I’ve spent the last 16 months recovering from injuries and multiple surgeries from this accident and have filled my time with working on two books that I hope to publish soon and working on my goofy blog The Daily Blonde.

          In addition, I’ve gained a son in law this past August when my daughter was married in Jamaica. He’s beyond awesome. My oldest daughter, 23, is now in clinicals for her Bachelor’s in Nursing with a minor in Physchology. My 22 year old daughter completed school in May and works as a phlebotomist.

          In the past 6 years I’ve lost both of my parents. The saddest moments in my life.

          In 45 years I’ve enjoyed great times, sad times, tough times, times when I’ve wanted to give up...and now, the best years of my life.



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          Kimri3 wrote Sep 18, 2008
        • The last 40 years..let's see..I've been singing since the third grade whether in choirs, worship teams, duets, solos, band, and weddings. I married my highschool sweetheart, became a christian, raised 3 children, homeschooled them for 5 years (taught them to read),got 1 through college and married, another through college and in NYC, and my last in college now, worked in administration as a church secretary then at a childrens home in evaluations, worked in a hair salon..then a few years later opened my own salon in my home. Stayed married now for 27 years. Helped my husband direct a youth camp for 9 years where I helped in creative ministries teaching, design t-shirts, design brochures, and other paperwork. I've loved, sacrificed, forgiven, hoped, grieved, believed, trusted, and still keep learning to move forward. Remodeled our home, took up painting,do more traveling. Now..I hope and look forward to more accomplishments (not to mention grandchildren..). I’m still building my business and hoping to get back into singing again...maybe my own band...record...and.....hmmmm.



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          Kmarie wrote Sep 18, 2008
        • I have done a lot in the last 40+ years, I have BA degree, two Masters degrees, professional certifications, worked over a dozen political campagins, CalPRIG, worked for politicans, Federal and State Government, private corporations, ran my own firm, worked as real estate developer, ran a nonprofit, recovering from major losses, of home due to floods, struggled with back problems my whole life. Dancing everyting from Ballet to Belly Dance, music lessons, Camp Fire, Sea Scouts, Junior Achivement, ton of activities, hiking, extensive travel, volunteering at churhc and with organizations, long term dating 1relationships, never short term. Traveling to over 211 cities, and 14 countries. Nursing caring for sick, sometimes dying loved ones, Nursing and caring for me too. Loving my dogs, providing a good home, llving a health, some what happy life and rarely letting too many people seeing me sweat.



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          Alanda Sikes wrote Sep 18, 2008
        • After reading some of the comments posted, I am little intimidated.  I do not feel as if I have accomplished alot.  It seems everyone has a very full life.  I did continue my education at a technical college for business and office management and have attended several seminars over the past five years. My employer owes a construction company, a farm, a rental properties company, and is a partner in two additional real estate ventures, and I manage the books for all of these.  I would like to return to school and get a degree in business and possibly teach business at a high school but I am uncertain if this is a good decision.

          Dailyblonde63, my brother had an auto accident on August 5, 2008 and was released from the hospital one week ago.  He broke every bone on the left side of his body but five.  He had multiple surgeries during this time and possible faces one more to release fluid from his lungs.  I wish you the best on any upcoming surgeries as I know the last year has been hard.



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          Naya wrote Sep 20, 2008
        • In the 40 years I have lived, loved, laughed, cried, and still stand tall to smile at the world.  My family uprooted to a new country called America where I had to learn a new language and culture, worked two jobs to put myself through college, earned two masters degree, worked as a teacher for almost 12 years, married my college sweeheart, have two kids.  Now I am back in school earning a doctorate while working full time.  Along the way, I faltered and fell, but in the end, I picked myself up and moved onwards and forwards.  Today, I live for my kids, and I live for myself.  I am grateful for the strengths God had given me and for the beautiful world he allowed me take part in this journey of life.



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          Sunshine68 wrote Sep 20, 2008
        • In my 44 years, I have been loved and have loved.I have been happily married for 22 years,raised three children into adulthood with one more to go (she is 15).I have walked one marathon,four half marathons, graduated from nursing school and been a neonatal intensive care nurse for 21 years,survived two house fires,stayed healthy despite being diagnosed with crohn's at 33. Created many happy memories with friends and family. Been a Christian for as long as I can remember .Read through the Bible once.Been on five cruises,driven on a family vacation across the United States from Tennessee to California.



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          Almostfive0 wrote Sep 20, 2008
        • I have been married for 24 years,(I love him, he’s a great guy, but 24 years is some mean feat!) and have a 28 year old son who is now married and a 22 daughter. I was a hairstylist for years and owned a hair salon for 8 years.
          I left my hometown of Cincinnati, Oh. and moved to St. Thomas, U.S.V.I. and two weeks later lived through a major hurricane. I survived the death of my mother, who was my rock. I wrote a manuscript and song lyrics. I conquered my fear of performing in front of crowds, auditioned and was hired to be the lead singer in a band.
          The year I turned 40 I entered a contest for Heart & Soul magazine, a national health, fitness and beauty magazine and was chosen from over 400 other contestants to be their reader cover model for 2000. I did a photo shoot and interview, was flown to New York (sureal)for the magazine. I was featured in print ads for U.S. Virgin Islands tourism department in Essence and Ebony magazines. I’ve done local television commercials, print ads and sang radio jingles.
          I truly believed that you will get whatever you ask for...so always be ready when it appears.



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          Nini wrote Sep 23, 2008
        • Whew!  What can I say?  

          I don’t want to think about it all.  

          I am getting a Master’s degree in December. I will be singing “Santa Baby” with a whole new twist, hopefully en route to getting a Doctoral degree somewhere. (*The Master’s is en route to the Doc degree.)  

          I went through a period in the early 90s and late 80s that I would almost not wish on my worst enemy.  No car in hot Florida, caught buses and walked too many miles to jobs that were never there.  

          We move on and leave all the abuse behind me.  

          Remember one thing: MEAN JEALOUS BOSSES SUCK AND SHOULD BE PUT OUT LIKE DOGS.



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          Kmarie wrote Sep 23, 2008
        • I feel that we have all accomplished alot in life, more than we all realize, whether great or small, whether our dreams or over coming loss, such as of loved ones, one of my greatest accomplishments is minor really, I gave help money to a homeless person, then gave her a contact. That contact was able to do far more than I and her life is better for it. sometimes it is the little helps that are the greatest accomplishments of them all.



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          Klbusser wrote Sep 26, 2008
        • First of all, never think your accomplishments don't stack up to anyone else's. Whatever you accomplish or overcome in your life to get were you are today, is phenomenal!

          The things I've accomplished so far include: survived life for almost 50 years (November); met and married my best friend (29 years now); raised an intelligent, compassionate and sensitive son (who has brought a wonderful daughter-in-law into our lives) and a smart, independent daughter (still single, she's not done accomplishing on her own yet); traveled to some amazing places for pleasure and career (I've been to India twice); helped friends realize that they were worthy of having a great life and didn't have to stay in an abusive relationship; had (and still have) the pleasure of knowing and loving some awesome people; realized what a long line of amazingly strong women I come from (my sisters, my cousins, our daughters and I are continuing the tradition); opened up our home to our daughter's friend when her own mother threw her out for not having anymore money to give her (hopefully, she's learned how to be a strong woman, she's now in the Army in Afghanistan); was a Girl Scout co-leader, along with my awesome leader, guided the girls to all earn their Gold Awards (the equivalent to Boy Scouts Eagle Award); did the first Breast Cancer Three Day Walk held in San Diego (it was the Avon Three Day then, now it's the Susan G. Komen Three Day); raised a lot of money for various other charities; rescued some very much loved pets (all of our cats and dogs are rescues); put myself through school; trained some very accomplished people at my current place of employment (including some dear friends in India); held many different positions at my current place of employment (been there over 18 years now); help to develop different projects there, as well. The most important of all I QUIT SMOKING 20 YEARS AGO!

          Whew, I think I'll stop now. All that accomplishment made me tired!

          This was a great exercise. I didn't realize that I could fill up that much space with all I've done. There's still a lot more that I haven't listed. I'm looking forward to all that I've yet to do.



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          Tuliplady wrote Sep 26, 2008
        • I was just thinking of this very topic a few days ago.  Thinking of all the things I’ve crammed into 41 yrs of living.  I had a pretty terrific childhood, poor but didn’t know it and happy.

          I got an associates degree in agriculture.  Raised cows for many many years.  One of my great passions in life.

          Married, gave birth four times.  Buried one child.  Buried a marriage.  Lost everything financially in the divorce.  Married my best friend.  Found out shortly before our wedding that he has degenerative disc disease and will never be the able bodied man I fell in love with.  Married him anyway with no regrets.

           Raised up some pretty terrific kids and went thru the heartbreak of letting their father have custody. Gained a delightful grown daughter with the second marriage.  Made wedding cake and did flowers for said daughter’s wedding and made the appointment with the divorce lawyer when the marriage fell apart.  

          Besides being in the cattle business for 20 years, I almost always worked at another part or full time job.  I counted it up awhile back and came up with 22 different jobs.  Everything from nanny to waitress to dog groomer and lots of other things in between. Owned a second hand/antique store for a time.

          I’ve been a sunday school teacher, a Head Start volunteer, a mentor to many wonderful kids besides my own.  

          Currently I am employed part time with the postal service. Am finishing up at a restaurant job that has lasted too many years. Write a gossip column once a week for the local newspaper.  Decorate cakes, do a lot of interior painting.  Contemplating some major career changes.



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          Tuliplady wrote Sep 26, 2008
        • How’s the getting over the fear of flying going?
          I did it myself last year. For years and years I was terrified to get on an airplane. Wouldn’t go anywhere that I had to fly. Last spring I had the once in a lifetime opportunity to meet some dear friends in Chicago and take one of my daughters with me. But flying was my only option because I couldn’t take enough days off work to drive. So, after 40 years of being grounded, I got on a plane and flew. My 15 y.o. daughter thought it was a great adventure, and I was petrified out of my mind. But, I’d do it again. It’s still scary, but now I know I can do it.
          If I can, you can!



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          Tuliplady wrote Sep 26, 2008
        • You’ll be fine.  If your family is anything like my daughter they will tease you forever about the finger imprints you leave in the seat cushion from hanging on for dear life.  LOL!  My daughter claims my fingernails cut right thru the paperback cover of my book from gripping it so tightly.  She exaggerates tremendously!



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          Michelle Bodycombe wrote Sep 28, 2008
        • The most important lesson I have learned in 41 years: love is all there is and only love is real!!

          I have learned that:

          Ideally...all human beings should be born two times in one lifetime; first physically and then spiritually.
          Our physical birth is when we come out of our mother's womb. As babies our parents are responsible for our care. As we grow we experience the world through our five senses; we see, we hear, we smell, we taste and we touch. This is how we learn. Unconsciously we develop boundaries and learn to limit how we experience life. This is based on the way other human beings live (namely our parents and others who were physically born before us). We exist and live by “their” views of what's “right & wrong” & “good & bad“. However, we all still have a burning desire/longing for “something“. A void that needs to be filled wiht “something“...The question is WHAT???
          Our spiritual birth comes out of this “burning desire“. When things like; the perfect job, marriage, children, money, the dream house, the expensive car, nice clothes, status and the like do not fulfill that desire, if we want that “something” bad enough...we will stop and ask our self some questions. We will examine our “needs“. We will find that to be truly happy, we need one thing, and that is LOVE. To be truly happy, joyful and to feel genuinely fulfilled in our lifetime, we must have love, to get love, we must give love (unconditional love like Jesus gave when he walked upon the earth).
          The first person we should give this love to is our Self. When we can forgive our Self for the mistakes we made while experiencing life the only way we knew how. When we can love our Self and know that we are neither good nor bad, then and only then we can make a conscious choice to be what we truly are, and that is LOVE. When we KNOW that we are love, we are born spiritually - this birth has nothing to do with time, as we know it, this birth can come at any age.
          When we are born spiritually we know that we are responsible for our self and the choices we make. As we grow we learn, through our inner wisdom, knowledge and understanding, that Love is all we can give. We begin to experience our life as it unfolds. We let our past be just that “our past“. We do not worry about the future. We know there is a power greater than we are; we also know that we are a part of that power. Instinctively we know that when we follow that power (which leads us from within our self) we need not fear nor worry. No matter what happens, everything will be ok. We will find that we knew all the answers to our questions, but because our parents and those who were physically born before us taught us to do things “their way“. Unconsciously we believed that the wisdom we were born with did not matter.
          It matters, for without it life...as we experience it...would not exist.



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          Almostfive0 wrote Sep 28, 2008
        • Be still ad know that I AM....!

          “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is to love and be loved in return”
          Peace



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          Songbird wrote Jan 20, 2010
        • Nothing much - just learning about myself and transforming from an ignorant human to a useful, happy, joyful, peaceful one.

          Also travel extensively - to 17 countries and 68 cities.



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