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  • what to do when i grow up....

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    17 posts, 11 voices, 766 views, started Nov 11, 2008

    Posted on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 by Vikki Hall

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      I have worked for 2 companys in the past 25 years with only a 2 month break between them. They were both jobs that I loved and grew with. The 1st one I grew with them to a level that would not allow anymore growth. The 2nd job was the best ever. It allowed me to use what I learned from my 1st job but also taught me about working with an entreprenurail (sp?) spirit. The company I worked for was bought out bu a larger one. Unfortunately they are a do as I say and does not encourage “owning it“. So I decided it was best for all involved for me to quit. I’m not complaining tho especially since I get to see those trained by me excell and grow.
      The question is what do I do now? Since I loved both of my former jobs I am not interested in working just for the sake of working. I want to work at something that will grow me and also allow me to grow others. But being over 40 how long will I be marketable? What have others done? Any suggestions on what to do when I grow up?
      ps.... I am enjoying the down time too

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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 11, 2008
        • I read somewhere that when women get into their 40’s they have more of a desire to work at something that gives them meaning rather than just a paycheck. I don’t know if it’s true for everyone but I believe it is for me.

          I can’t imagine getting up in the morning and doing something for work that my heart doesn’t get any joy from. My work is a creative endeavor but with two incomes in our home, mine is not really necessary so I have the luxury of playing at my work. When we find something that makes our heart sing and then are able to make that our income it just seems like bliss to me.

          If you take stock of your strengths and your interests and combine them with your marketable skills, my guess is something will come into your life you can wrap your heart around.

          I did a vision board and was shocked how all the pieces bagan to come together in my life.



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          (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Nov 11, 2008
        • Here’s a song humming in me “I don’t want to grow up...”



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          Beverly Mahone wrote Nov 11, 2008
        • I was (sort of) in your shoes two years ago.  I was working for the ABC-TV affiliate.  Even thought I have a passion for the business, I was just sick and tired of living, breathing and sleeping breaking news and the hustle that went along with it.

          I decided to take the skills I learned over my 25 plus years in the business and form my own media consulting company.  I coach individuals on how to gain media attention and help with their media interviewing skills.  I absolutely LOVE what I’m doing now!  Since I have the “inside track” so to speak, I can really be of assistance and I feel like I’m giving back.

          So what I would say to you is:  find your passion.  If you really loved what you did on the job, create a skill you can use to help others.  

          When you do what you love, you’ll love what you do—and the money will eventually come!



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          Maria Louise Van Deuson wrote Nov 22, 2008
        • I understand where you‘re coming from. One thing I also read once was that women also change as they get older and become more guardians in our society. A major part of that is hormonal in nature. As our estrogen levels diminish, our testosterone levels often make us much more assertive. Couple that with wisdom and confidence as an older woman who has earned her wisdom and confidence.  

          I believe we reach a Renaissance period in our lives where we’ve had careers, learning, kids are grown (or nearly grown) and we feel a strong need/desire to give back to others or nature younger women in their dreams.

          I’m there myself trying to figure out my ‘third career’ at 48 years of age. I have a part-time business, but want to be more involved in the working world to not only make a living, but to give back, and have more socialization.



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          Stellababette wrote Nov 22, 2008
        • OK.  Help me with this, please.

          If I’ve been doing something I don’t like for 20 years and have just left that career behind and now want to start over completely, where do I start?  I’ve made a list of things I like but I don’t know how to turn that into a career.  I don’t know how to go about making money doing those things.

          And, add to this, what I do I with lack of confidence?  What do I do when I’m scared?



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          Vikki Hall wrote Nov 23, 2008
        • Stellababette.....share with e the things you love and i will share my condidence or lack of fear with you.... Since I am still short on what I want to do I have plenty of bravado to spare......



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 23, 2008
        • Stellababette, You’ve touched on a topic I think several of us grapple with. Some really good posts here. Sometimes our answers come when we‘re not expecting them. That was my case as my career literally fell in my lap. It was a total mistake. And I’m so glad it happened.

          If there is something that you love to do and you are good at it without even trying, you can start by doing that activity or craft or skill in your spare time and your confidence will build from there.

          We all have something that we‘re good at without even trying. For me I was very comfortable in the kitchen. I turned to the kitchen in an effort to escape the situation I was in. Lo and behold, my career came out of that feeling of despair.

          I wish the very best and some timely answers for you



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          Cynde Jackson Clarke wrote Nov 28, 2008
        • YAY to everyone who has ditched something that didn’t feel right!  Coincidentally, I was in a position over the summer where I’d declared that regional HR management was not my bag, didn’t have a specific role to fill, was sort of helping out the HR generalists while waiting for a new fiscal year to begin with cool, project-oriented job postings to follow...instead?  We had layoffs at my company and once they have to cut back on the number of those who bring in and perform the billable work they cut the number of HR folks in proportion.  Not a good position to be in.  What did I do?  I was looking for something new on the outside (I had been with the same company over 8 years) but also applied for a transfer out of corporate HR and into our Human Capital consulting group.  Having the transfer approved meant taking a step back in level and losing some vacation days (I got to maintain my current salary).  There were quite a few aspects that were scary - less flexibility with my time, not being able to work from home whenever I wanted, being based in Washington DC vs. closer to home in the ‘burbs, stepping WAY out of my comfort zone and starting up in something where I had no idea what exactly I’d be doing on a day to day basis when I first started out, being a total newbie among those 10-15 years younger at the same level and one and two levels above....strangely enough I love it.  The work just absorbs me so I forget about the time and the time flies and I’m energized even though I’m putting in longer hours.  The subject matter is fascinating and the group I work with is made up of some really smart and pretty terrific, talented people.  I feel really fortunate that I wasn’t laid off.  I was also fortunate in that I had a back-up job offer on the outside as well - doing what I know I’m good at - but I opted to stick with the new gig to see how it plays out.  So far, so good.  I hope that everyone reading here will benefit from the support and encouragement of the loving people here on Fab40 and find something that makes them happy and fulfilled.  Happy Holiday Season!
          Cynde



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          Stellababette wrote Nov 30, 2008
        • My apologies for not keeping up.  Head cold from hell and too many people in the house needing food......all I want to do is sleep.....

          Vikki,
          OK.  (Inhale deeply.)  Here’s what I want to do.

          I want to write.

          Oh, that's so scary!  I'm so chicken-shit about this.  Why would anyone take me seriously?  Who's going to pay me to read my stuff?  Don't I know  how many people out there want to write and never get anywhere?  Am I not going to contribute to the family financially while I work on my masterpiece?

          This is where self-doubt creeps in and I say instead, "I think  I want to write" because that puts the possibility of changing my mind, taking something else (i.e. better), finding something else more exciting (and quicker money).

          I don’t know what I’m doing.  Who has these problems anyways?  At a certain point, I just get sick of hearing myself whine.

          Feel free to give me a giant kick in the pants or a royal bitch-smack.  I know I need it.



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          Vikki Hall wrote Dec 1, 2008
        • Annie123 I loved your point....that is awesome!!!!

          Stellababette you wrote this and you wrote your profile and it looks like we‘re still here..... So write and if something more exciting comes along (i hope you’ll let me know) then put the writing aside and enjoy the new opportunity. The writing you can always go back to....just make sure you keep pen n paper handy in case you need to jot a thought down. You have nothing to lose right? You‘re not writing at this moment so you haven’t lost anything....GO FOR IT!!!!!!
          I always stick to (except when faced with roller coasters) ‘No guts No glory’ and it has never lead me astray. The worst case scenerio is that you will fail. But WHO will you fail? More than likely it’s yourself but hopefully you will have fun during the process.
          And keep in mind you already shared with us IN WRITING what it is you want to do. So push your fear aside..... i will be here if you need a push.



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          Stellababette wrote Dec 1, 2008
        • AGH!  I just replied to you, Annie, and it bumped me off the site!

          Thanks for what you wrote.  Vikki, you too.  Being chicken is one thing, being desperate is another.  I think I’m both and frankly I’m exhausted trying to figure everything out on my self-imposed deadline (I’m six months through the year I’ve given myself) and considering I really don’t know what I’m doing, I’m going to step back and just chill.

          BUT, I will remember the boiling frogs thing and watch out for pots of water that start out cold and gradually warm up.  I’m still waiting for a lightning bolt to hit me between the eyes and I figure once I am hit, I’ll jump out of the water and the world will never be the same again!! estatic

          Huge thanks again for your support.  Why didn’t I find this site sooner?!

          Stella



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          Prezent wrote May 13, 2009
        • hello,
          this is my first post, hardly come in here at all with all that is going or in some cases NOT going on in my life lol

          after reading comments on here i thought you may benefit from something that I have stumbled across recently or should re-stumbled across.  Its a process called EFT which basically is a method of tapping energy points on your body mainly hand and head to clear energy blocks that perhaps are preventing us for achieving what it is that we want to achieve.  check this video out.

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          I am not affliated with this, so I am not gaining from it in any way but just thought it may help you all.

          Hope all is joy
          sussan


          Prezent, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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          Prezent wrote May 13, 2009
        • they wont let me post a link or edit my last post sorry. :( one of the many reasons i don’t frequent this site. but here it is again you’ll have to cut and paste the url into your address bar ontop of your browser window

          www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3fiZ0X6nV8&feature=related



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          Vikki Hall wrote May 13, 2009
        • Thx Prezent!

          I know about EFT but I will watch the video...



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          Shelyshine wrote May 17, 2009
        • Hi. I just joined and I’m curious, vikki89, where are you at now? I mean your original post was November 11, 2008 and it is now May 12, 2009... are you gainfully employed? I asked, not to be a b-tch, but because I quit my job in February and have been floundering ever since. The economy is not helping, but I really think looking for work at (or over 40) is very different from the last time I was out there at 35... a happy ending for someone else would really be encouraging.

           —Selyshine



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