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  • What Would You Do?

    10 posts, 8 voices, 794 views, started Aug 13, 2010

    Posted on Friday, August 13, 2010 by Denise Richardson




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      Hello Ladies,  

      I have a question and need your honest opinions. This is going to help me on my trip to L.A on Monday, I'll be there for a week. Ok I'm going to see my play-brother who is a music producer and works for CBS  and he has been trying to get me to come out for some time now, but I just didn't have the money nor the time to do so, ok so now the time has come where I'm going.

      Of course I’ll be doing studio work with him as well as hanging out with him and his lady friend and other friends and producer friends of his to show me a great time. Now I have a older cousin who lives in San Diego, and he found out through another family member that I was coming to California and he calls me to say he wants to see me as well as spend a day or two with me, but here’s the problem;

       "HE IS A DRAMA KING!!!!" For him to be 60+ years he keeps up too much mess. He calls me on yesterday chatting and gossiping about other people's drama to me and I wasn't trying to hear him, he then goes on to tell me he and his wife are seperated and the conversation goes into him trying to use me to get to her, by way of saying he was going to call her aunt to tell her to tell his wife that I was coming to town and wanted to see her, NOT ! I don't even know his wife like that the whole family only met her once and that was prior to them getting married. Ok so now he is pissing me off because I'm not trying to go on a vacation to be drawn into some drama.

      Then he trys to say maybe if I called her which he would give me the number and say I want to see her and we all go out to dinner NOT! This situation with him is more complexed than I care to go into but............

      What I’m asking from you all is this, should I even make time to see him at all while I’m there?





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          Kandykahne 5 wrote Aug 13, 2010
        • Your going out to have fun and how often do you get to go. So if I were you I would avoid him if at all possible. Sounds like he’s trying to involve you in all his problems and thinks you can fix them. Go have a great time and you’ll be so busy having fun you won’t have time to see him. Have a safe trip!happy



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          Kathryn O'Hara wrote Aug 13, 2010
        • Your cell phone has a caller id function and this is the perfect opportunity to use it.  I also have drama queens in my life and you can only ignore them.  And if you do, he will blither blather to everyone who listens that you ignored him, and don’t let that bother you.  Reassure yourself that you provided him with an opportunity to be even more dramatic.  This is your time, so don’t let him intrude and don’t spend another moment on the phone with him or worrying about him.  I hope you have an awesome time!



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          Denise Richardson wrote Aug 13, 2010
        • Thannnnnnnnnnnnnk you,Kandykahne & Missuso heart I'm going to take both of your advice and enjoy my trip.



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Aug 13, 2010
        • In a word, NO. You’ve been waiting a long time for this trip. It’s YOUR trip to have fun and see people who really care about you and want to show you a good time.

          And, as a Southern California native - his drama would not be worth the 2 plus hours, in traffic, from Los Angeles to San Diego.

          You go and have a great time!!! Say hello to my home town for me.estatic



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          Denise Richardson wrote Aug 13, 2010
        • hearthearthearthearthappyHello Choc. point well taken and I will have a great time with my brother and his friends and sure I will send regrads to Cali from you lol.estatic



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          Mztracy wrote Aug 13, 2010
        • No way....
          forget hm and come visit me!!estatic
          I’m about an hour from LA!!



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          Nerissa wrote Aug 13, 2010
        • The Jackson 5 had a song back in the day  and the hook went like this, “Enjoy yourself, enjoy yourself, enjoy yourself for me“. Remember-if so,  do just that! I hope you have a wonderful time so much so it becomes sublime.estatic



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          Brimstone1968 wrote Aug 13, 2010
        • My dear you need to go on this trip and have a blast and forget him and his mess.  It should have been a hint to him that he did not know from you that you was going on this trip.  You are now in the glowing stages of life donot let him nor anybodyelse try and out your glow.  Have lots and lots of fun and enjoy your play brother.  Good memories are what we need to thrive on now not drama, it will only give you a headache and more grey hair.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Aug 13, 2010
        • I hear ya Brimestone.heart

          Nerissa I loved that song and remember it well and I’m going to do just that and just to say he has been blowing up my phone today he has called me 3 times already today I did speak to him yesterday I wrote the post on it and today he has been calling but I haven’t answered the phone see what I mean he is such a pest!

          Mz T, when I get out there I am going to try to contact you. PM me your number I’d love to come see you while I’m there.



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