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  • What would you do...

    11 posts, 9 voices, 604 views, started Oct 21, 2008

    Posted on Tuesday, October 21, 2008 by Terriofcarasan

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    • Amethyst
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      What would you do if...

      School just started a month or so ago. My granddaughter, who feels really more like my youngest...lives with us during the week. Her mom, my oldest has 5 children at 27, Mady now 8, Gavin 4, Bryan 3, and the twins, Randy and Bri-bri..my name for him and they are 9 months.  

      Anyway, Mady started 2 second grade this year...all happy to get back and see her friends after a long summer. She goes to a small private school in the country. This year she got a great new teacher...her 1st job ever out of college teaching.

      Well, to get right to it everyday she would come home and talk about this little boy in her class, new to the school this year..and not the way you would think she would..no not a crush! He did this, he did that..he fell to the ground kicking and screaming...he cried all of the time, disrupting the class. This poor new teacher just 24, spent more time calming him down then teaching....
      Then the day came when she got in the car and said: ” Mama. So and so..(can’t say his name..) did something today that was ever inappropriate! I was thinking...oh this kid kicked someone, hit someone or peed on the floor!, Nope, that was not it, he was playing with himself at his seat in front of her! Dropped his pants and pulled it out and went to it right there in the class room next to her! Well she was shocked, I was pissed!  

      So when I got home I called the school, but no one answered so I left a message about what had happened. When no one called me back, I went to the school. But did they get up set, no not at all. They could not understand why I was!
      “What would you like me to do” was the responds!
      Call his parents and tell them what he did and find out why.
      What did the schoolmaster do? pull her out of class and say “oh we hear that this upset you..did it?” So Mady being my girl said, “YES IT DID“! Did they pull him out, no, did they move him to another class no, they asked her if she wanted to move!  

      This is the question to you, what would you have done, or do. And if you are a teacher, how would you handle this in your class. It would seem after I saw the child getting into his car one day that there is something wrong with him, that he is being “mainstreamed“. The other parents were never told. Oh and Mady never got an apology from anyone, nor did we.



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          Terriofcarasan wrote Oct 21, 2008
        • Thanks Lisa, I did go to the top. There is no school board in a very small school. And I have not talk to the family, yet. I wanted to see what the school would do and if it would happen again. I talked with Mady, like I talk with you all. She is ok, and stays a way from him. She sees that there is something wrong and he my not understand what he did. This child had never been in school before...so we are still not sure what is wrong with him.  

          But great thoughts, thank you so much!
          Best to you,
          terri



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          Rena Bennefield wrote Oct 21, 2008
        • **WOW!!!! I didn't expect that..I would be pissed..I can't believe they wanted to move her away from her class and friends because he can't control his urges...and I think his parents should be told for sure..I am floored..I guess I would have done like you and went to the school to find out what was done about it...It is not fair for her to be punished for his wrong act...I just don't know any more...Schools sure have changed since I was in them..



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          Terriofcarasan wrote Oct 21, 2008
        • Hi Annie, no counselors, only a very small staff. I have done all other then pull her out and she loves her little school. So we will wait and see..and keep a close eye on him.  

          Thanks...do any of you had this at your schools? with your kids? Please share if you have.

          terri



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          Audrey5432 wrote Oct 21, 2008
        • Wow! I’ve never had an issue like that. How do the other parents feel? Do they even know?  

          Like you I would be a bit upset!

          Audrey



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          Gina Venturini wrote Oct 21, 2008
        • Has your grandaughter said anything to the teacher about this? Has there been any other children witnessing him touching himself?  

          I think the parents should have been contacted long ago when his initial disruptive behavior started to occur. I teach children ages 6 months - 5 and the parents are in class with me however, I’ve had kids that are disruptive in class and I’ve had tell the parents to take them out in the hall so that they don’t cause the other children to act up.  

          I even had a boy who apparently kept touching himself that I didn’t see personally but another parent saw it and told me. I kept a close eye on him and thankfully It didn’t happen again.  

          If this outrageous behaviour continues and you are not able to get any cooperation from from the school master, is there someone above him/her you could talk to? Obviously this kid has some serious emotional problems and they need to find out what is going on in his household that may be causing him to act out like this.  

          I would tell your grandaughter that if she sees it again to go and tell the teacher immediately and hopefull, The teacher will take care of the situation.

          Best of luck to you.



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          Cheryl Guy wrote Oct 21, 2008
        • My friends for years thought I was crazy for spending so much money on my son’s christian private school education. This is exactly one of the reason’s why I did it. I am not saying that every Christian school would react in the same way, but that would NEVER have been tolerated in the school my son attended! The root of why he behaves this way has to be looked into now so this child can get help. Ignoring his behavior as we know will only makes it worse. There are enough George Michael/Pee Wee Hermans in the world!



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          Gwendolyn007 wrote Oct 21, 2008
        • The faculity members ignoring the boy in your granddaughter’s class isn’t helping him at all.  I would let them know you will be pulling out your granddaughter if something isn’t done.  I would also let the other children’s parents know what is going on in the classroom.  There is strength in numbers & money talks.....don’t let it go.  I learned when my kids were in school, that I was their only & best advocate.



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          Terriofcarasan wrote Oct 23, 2008
        • You know...maybe I should home school her? Then I would not have to worried about any of this. She would love that!



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