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  • What would you tell a friend......

    15 posts, 10 voices, 1518 views, started Jun 27, 2009

    Posted on Saturday, June 27, 2009 by Tuliplady

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    • Turquoise
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      Suppose you went over to have coffee with a close friend.  You came in the front door, but during the course of the visit you realized she has all but barricaded the back door with junk, odds and ends, trash,  you name it, it’s piled up there.  What would  you say to her?  Would you take this as a sign that her depression has gotten out of hand, that she needs help?  Would you ignore it?



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          Moodydee wrote Jun 27, 2009
        • Tell her to clean that junk up!!



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          Vikki Hall wrote Jun 27, 2009
        • My mom was a serious pack rat and we (my sisters and mom) all agreed it was because it was something SHE could control. It comforted her having all that there. Now maybe your friend was always a packrat but was better at keeping it UNDER control. I would take it as a sign that she is coming undone and do what you can to help her.
          If she seems like she is ‘just down’ and unmotivated I would tell her to shake it off and put on some music and dance together. This seems to help me if I am feeling dragged out....



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          Tuliplady wrote Jun 27, 2009
        • happyOk, confession time.  That back door is mine.  frown  Thank you my friends for some good advice.  

            It suddenly hit me this morning that I’ve just been piling more and more stuff there.  And I was trying to figure out why I do.  I think it’s a pretty good sign that I was pretty “undone” all winter.

          I haven’t figured out why I let it all pile up, but I did make great progress in cleaning it up this morning.  Another cleaning session and we might even be able to use that door again.  It’s only a summer time use door, and here we are well into summer and I’ve had it all crapped up.



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          Tuliplady wrote Jun 27, 2009
        • estatic Sure wouldn’t hurt.  I haven’t been listening to music much the last six months or so.  Another of those imponderable “why’s”

          That’s another thing I did just yesterday.  I dug out my walkman so I could listen to music again.  (every cd player I own has taken a dump, so I got out the ancient old cassettes)

          I think seeing my neighbor in his terrible blue place has woken me up to the fact that I’ve been very close to being in that same place and I need to work myself out of it.



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          Karyn Olson wrote Jun 27, 2009
        • hi Tuliplady...well that is me...exactly all about me...I have been in and out of a depression the past few months and my place sure shows it...
          One day as I was sitting at the computer I noticed my table was piled high with junk...and there was a pile of stuff in the corner...then it dawned on me...that is my life...a big pile of junk...instead of dealing with my issues and depression I choose to leave it and let it pile up and become chaotic...much like my home...a bit of an analogy but a good one...I have slowly cleaned up the mess and tackling my issues one by one...a long and slow process but it is working...happy



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          Frannie1964 wrote Jun 27, 2009
        • Same here, I go thru these phases, not sure If It’s depression or just me being lazy and saying the heck with It!..But I sometimes I just pile stuff In a certain spot or I let my junk mail pile up, I buy stuff and leave It laying around with the price tags still on and I just don’t touch It, and It will be there sitting In the same spot for a few weeks to a month, and then one day I will realize that this stuff has been sitting there for awhile and I go crazy and clean, organize, put stuff away or throw out stuff I don’t need, but It will be like something clicked In my head and I get Into a cleaning mode, until the next time I start my phase again.



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          L J wrote Jun 27, 2009
        • i would not say anything, unless she said something about it! and then i would ask her if she needed help! and we would pop the top off the wine bottle and have a cleaning party!!!!
          LJ



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          Vikki Hall wrote Jun 28, 2009
        • LJ I like your approach!



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          Cathie Beck wrote Jan 26, 2011
        • Wow, I am coming into this topic so late....but in good time for me, I think? You see, I’ve been waiting to move for a year now and the office is so cluttered with boxes that it’s like there’s something creeping up behind me while I sit here at my computer. I’ve thought of renting a storage unit, but I can’t really afford to for long. So... clutter is building up and I don’t know what to do with it anymore. I was thinking a yard sale, but it’s the wrong time of year. Maybe I should get a storage unit?  

          Cathie



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          Tuliplady wrote Jan 26, 2011
        • Cathie, if it’s unimportant enough to stash in a storage unit where you can’t get at it, is it important enough to keep????  Don’t hang onto clutter.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jan 26, 2011
        • I would immediately say to her come let’s take care of this while I’m here visiting and put on a pot of coffee roll up my sleeves and get busy.



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          Cathie Beck wrote Jan 29, 2011
        • Tulip, it’s stuff packed to move .... some day... and potential $$ by selling it. I’ve been throwing out and giving away the “clutter” in stripping down the house and getting myself ready to move. ;oD  

          Cathie



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