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  • What's Happening in Your Lovelife Today?

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    21 posts, 17 voices, 2617 views, started Sep 30, 2009

    Posted on Wednesday, September 30, 2009 by Mz. Queen

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    • In the 21st century things with love are definitely different.  Online dating is still what’s going on with me right now and I can say that it has been eventful to say the least.

         I have had my share of imperfect suitors with scandalous intent (my opinion). Today’s suitor is still on my good side. We haven’t yet met face to face. We talk, chat and share photos quite regularly.  

          I like the fact that he is consistent with communication and he has been true to his word and that I hear from him everyday, considering that right now he is on the other side of the world for business sake.

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          Anonymous wrote Oct 12, 2009
        • This sounds great.. I’m happy for you. I have my best friend whom I’m in love with and we reconnected last July after so many years. Yes, your correct about being consistent with communication and everyday.

          Cheers to you!



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          Mz. Queen wrote Oct 26, 2009
        • Online dating is what it is, there are still scandalous individuals lurking about.  

          This past weekend I went out dancing at the local swing out club and I had a blast with old friends and new ones.

          I met a man a few years younger than me and he seems interested in getting to know me and it’s obvious that I am interested in him too.

          One day at a time.



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          Venus 7000 wrote Nov 7, 2009
        • Met a guy over the weekend at a party.  He spent so much time asking questions about my background and commenting on my apperance that I felt objectified.  Ugh!!  

          Told my friend that I was not interested but she thinks he is a good catch because he is a doctor.  He called on Monday but I did not accept the call. She says the ball is in my court and I should call him.  

          I think I will pass on this one.



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          Mz. Queen wrote Nov 7, 2009
        • If you don’t “feel” him there is something to be said about it. Intuition.



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          Lizzee Torres wrote Nov 7, 2009
        • yes, I have my best friend and I definitely feel it with him.
          he is the love of my life, its just that he lives overseas,
          but he calls me everyday.

          I just hope he comes to see me soon.



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          Mz. Queen wrote Dec 23, 2009
        • I love my life no matter what or who. The holidays are upon us and I am mateless but I have my health, my family and a job. Celebrating Christmas!



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          Trinahess wrote Jan 7, 2010
        • I have started to ask friends to find single men for me.
          This new system is not only logical (the more friends you ask, the more choices you can have) but it is much safer because our friends will know people who are similar to them.  And we like our friends, right?    

          Also it’s flattering to the person you ask for help.  You are saying, “I trust you, and know you would be a good judge of character.”  I’m amazed that I haven’t been doing this all along.  I guess it’s the stigma of “having” to ask for help in this arena of life. If we‘re pretty enough, we should be beating men off us with a stick, right??!!

          This new system is an extension of my dissertation about single women (not previously married) who change careers and how do they reconstruct their identity.  Each participant told me, “I thought it (marrige/family) would have happened by now.” Even though the women were highly educated and successful, they were glaringly passive in this area of life.  (After all, if we‘re a ‘real’ woman, we shouldn’t need to work at this, right?).  One book calls us SWANS (Why Smart Men Marry Smart Women).  I am researching whether my method will work.  

          So far, it has brought many options.  My first “experiment” was asking out a very hot guy.  He said no, because he was ‘courting’ another woman.  Online.  And they hadn’t even met yet.  

          So I gathered my pride and kept asking friends to help me out.  So far, I have 5 different options.  One looked really promising until the end of my friend’s description of the guy.  “You ARE Jewish, right?”  I’m not.  So at least I have many options and am continuing to ask friends’ help.  Has anyone else been doing this type of dating procedure?  It takes a lot of courage to do it, but in just a few short weeks, it has brought me many more choices than I’ve had in the past years!



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          Wendy1960 wrote Feb 6, 2010
        • I have been in a stale relationship for seven years and ready to make a move in one direction or another.



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          Mz. Queen wrote Feb 7, 2010
        • Trina,

          I just might have to put that idea into motion in my life.



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          Georgiamamasita wrote Feb 12, 2010
        • Found a guy I am digging on.  Spent two months trying to figure out at 47 why he’s never been married....my girlfriends all think this is a red flag.  I’m 45, been married more than once....I definitely am a romantic at heart.  Life has been adventurous.  He says he’s been over being single for about 10 years but never found a “partner“.  Well, I am definitely that.  Equal in income, etc.  The only big issue I have had come up and really considered a dealbreaker, (until I broke it off for a week and spent the week crying because I missed him so much) is his lack of fiscal responsibility.  Despite a good income, he hasn’t saved a cent for retirement.  So, I had a candid conversation and told him this was a HUGE issue for me and change needed to occur immediately.  I’d consider making him long term at the end of the year when I see a bank statement that shows some positive forward motion.  That would show me that he cares about my “huge” issue with this and that he really can grow up in that respect.....fingers crossed, we will see...



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          Ladymacleod wrote Feb 28, 2010
        • I am fortunate among women.  After 13 years (yes you heard me 13 years!) of self imposed celibacy I was reunited with the love of my life.

          I was sitting in Northern Africa working on my book and lo but there on my blog was a message from my one true love who had sent me away 35 years ago - to a life filled with adventure I might add.  We spent two months with verbal foreplay on his mobile to the tune of $5000.00! And filled the email boxes with love letters.

          We stepped right back into each other as though no time had passed at all.  In October of that year we met in Paris.  I had told him, “This time Pilgrim, if you want me you have to come and get me.”

          And he did!  Can you see me grinning ear to ear?



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          Cloda Rowe wrote Mar 8, 2010
        • I had been talking to my best friend through an mmorpg 18 months ago and as my married life started to fall apart (not related) he was always there to listen without being jugemental.. over the last 6 months we have spoken every day and I have just booked tickets to go and visit.. wish me luck happy



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          Bermie66 wrote Apr 11, 2011
        • I need some advice.  I am dating this guy and he is very set in his ways. Today he told me the secret to a happy marriage so I need to know what some of you think.  He said that if a woman makes a man happy, by keeping the house clean, cooking and giving him sex (not duty sex) he said a man would do anything for a woman.  He said by doing this a woman has fulfilled the man’s basic needs and he will do any for her.  Money would be plentiful.  He would even be willing to watch a lifetime movie.  Mow the lawn, take out the trash all the things that women require.  Now I have never been married or lived with a man, my relationships have been separate houses, so I wonder if this is the truth.



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          Zolli6769 wrote Aug 18, 2011
        • @Bermie66 - I’ve had very indepth conversations with several men in my life, personally, professionally and just friends, about this same subject and EVERY ONE of them has said those exact words in some way or another in our conversation! They’ve also included the ability to “know” when to talk and when not to... ie., sports events!



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          Vikki Hall wrote Aug 18, 2011
        • Wow! How did I miss this thread?????



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          Kmarie wrote Aug 19, 2011
        • I can not believe that I missed this thread also. I am dating an old friend. I have known him for 20 years. We dated briefly for two of the twenty years but broke up because I was not ready for a relationship so quickly after my Mother’s death. I was her caregiver for two years prior to her death and she was mine for a year prior to that as I recovered from major surgery. He is older than I am, but in great shape, is full of good spirits and we are really good friends.



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          Cathie Beck wrote Aug 19, 2011
        • Zip, zero, nada! The plain truth is I’m not ready for a love life at the moment. The divorce is Finally over (21 months) and I’m busy finding a place to move to with time running low.
          I had to share the property (but not the house) with the X and it didn’t seem a good idea to get involved here.  

          After I get moved and settled, I will be checking out my options. ;oD  

          Cathie



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          Helen215 wrote Sep 14, 2011
        • I tried internet dating but found most of the men too busy to see you (always working).  One i did see, never invited me back to his, found out he was married.

          Im now with a lovely man who i used to work with, we have only just got together as a couple, but if feels right.  After all that flirting at work, should have gone after him and not the internet worried



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          Nita P wrote Jan 22, 2012
        • with my husband very little physically, but i am trying to find a friend who i hope will become my lover as well



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