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  • Whats It Like ?

    11 posts, 10 voices, 657 views, started Jun 10, 2009

    Posted on Wednesday, June 10, 2009 by Terri Quinn

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      What’s it like to have a sister friend or sister friend’s? That true blue  friend ,that BFFL that you have known since elementary ,high school or college ?  

      That you can count on to keep your deepest secret’s ,that will be your shoulder to lean on,that will make you laugh when you feel blue, who shares clothes with you,who goes to see the latest chick flick,who goes shopping with you and goes on weekend getaways. That one who would stick by you through thick and thin.That one that laugh’s at your stupid jokes even when there not funny,laughing with you and not at you, who will defend your honor and reputation when someone says something about you that is not true. That one who eats the giant hot fudge sundae with you one day and goes on a diet with you the next. That one who cheer’s you up when that HOT guy turn’s you down .That one who accepts you for who you are.Who showed up for the slumber party when no one else did and the 2 of you did facial’s,manicure,s and put make up on each other.Who “ohhhhed and awwwwed” at the guy’s in the latest teen magazine,  who doo whooped with you while singing and dancing in front of the mirror while listening  to the radio.  

      Basically just anything that sister friend’s,bffl,true blue friend’s would do.

      I ask this because I haven’t a clue. All through school I was the loner  and it wasn’t by choice . I ’ve never had a true friend and still don’t.I have a b/f ,but that’s different. I have no sister friend’s to run around with even now. No best friend’s that I can say ,“remember when...” I have no problem making friend’s online.As God is my witness I’m 100 % real and genuine. I used to correspond with pen pals just to ease my loneliness. I had the phone number’s of some that I would call and one month ran up a $300.00 phone bill just because I wanted someone to talk to. There was a girl I talked to in school ,we did a few thing’s together but when ever one of her other friend’s came along she wanted nothing to do with me.

      Please don’t tell me to get a job and make friend’s that way . I’ve worked place’s for 10 year’s and came out friendless still.Even in church and  through social events I still have no sister friend’s.

      WHAT AM I DOING SO WRONG???????????? I’m 48 and don’t have a TRUE friend.



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          Scorpion13 wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • Are you afraid to expose your true self with flesh and blood people for fear of rejection? I ask, because I can easily resort to this old habit of mine.  

          Sometimes it’s difficult to bond with people I feel don’t share my deepest beliefs. Especially since I tend to be out there on the edge when it comes to religion, social issues, etc. and live in a conservative area.

          Have you tried a spiritual book club or some kind of women’s group? Especially the latter tend to be places that you can let down your guard. But I agree, church and work are not the places I’ve found my deepest friendships.

          Hope that helps a little.



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          Terri Quinn wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • Thank you for your reply Scorpion13!

          That’s just it ,I am true self and reveal it to all. I have nothing to hide or to be ashamed of. I am the person whom God created me to be.

          I feel that the reason I’m rejected is due to the fact that I’m not one and never have been one to give into peer pressure.Not one willing to change and be someone I’m not merely for the sake of having a real friend.Especially when it’s something that I’m totally against and don’t believe it.To me a real friend accepts you for you .  

          I don’t smoke,drink or do drug’s. I will honestly admit that I did “try” all 3 when I was younger but it’s just not me.  

          In school others never even took the time to get to know me . I didn’t get into the latest fashion trend’s . That never has been my “style” (pardon the pun)I took pride in my appearance (neat and clean) ,yet that got me no where.

          I’ve just never fit in any where.

          I’m not trying to be perfect or act better than others.I’m just being myself.

          Where does one go about finding these “spiritual book club’s“?  

          I was in a women’s  group ...they helped me to heal a lot ,but still I didn’t come out of it with anything other than that.

          Thank you again!



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          UK Girl wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • Honey,
          I'm sorry you feel this way....... I don't know what to say really other than I feel your pain and I'm sure someone or something will click .......



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          Frannie1964 wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • I’m not really sure what to say either, and I don’t really know why you wouldn’t have any sister friends. I was mostly a loner In High School alot of the times, and when I graduated I started working and I worked at a few differant places, moved from job to job and thats when I met my Friend who Is now my BFF. We have known each other for 23 years now. I guess It just happens, you just come together. someday you will run Into that one person who will be your bff. And if not but I hope you do, you always have your friends here to talk too and vent happy



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          Tuliplady wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • Terri, it’s commendable that you know who you are and won’t change or try to be someone you are not.  But friendship involves a lot of give and take and doing a little bit of blending to fit in.  

          I have a couple real true blue friends. One I’ve had since junior high one since high school.  And believe me it hasn’t always been easy maintaining those friendships.  There have been betrayals and hurts and forgiveness.  A long standing friendship is a lot like marriage, it takes work.



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          Sandils1962 wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • I know how you feel.  I’ve always kept to myself, so I have no close friends.



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          Susan Dahringer wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • I’m so deeply sorry you feel that way,and I can truly feel your pain..here’s my attitude if someone doesn’t want to be a friend to you,it’s their loss and not yours...Besides you have us...

          Susan



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • Hi Terri, have you asked youself what are you looking or in a real true friendship? Are you willing to give the same things you‘re asking for in that relationship as well, and are you willing to forgive and forget and let go because no relationship is fool proof we all are going to do things to hurt each other but we must also find forgiveness and move forward, there is no such thing as a perfect friendship, and if its a trust issue that can be worked on.



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          Terri Quinn wrote Jun 10, 2009
        • Thank you all . I truly appreciate the friend’s that I have met here on Fab 40.

          Neicy, you ask if I am willing to forgive and forget. If I’m willing to give the same thing that I’m asking for.My response is yes. I’ve always one to respond when I’ve seen others hurting ,needing someone to talk to. One willing to be a friend to someone who I seen as left out for I know all to well how it feels. I have always been that way .Then and now.  

          Geri , this is how my b/f (soon to be husband ) is to me :

           “My best friend is my husband and he is the one who is always there for me.”  

          and I feel this way “I love who I am and that is what is the most important thing.”

          Thank you all once again for your kind word’s ,advice and your friendship.



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