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  • Why Are Some Women So Catty???

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    20 posts, 14 voices, 3577 views, started Dec 6, 2010

    Posted on Monday, December 6, 2010 by Denise Richardson




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      I tell you, I get so tired of the jealousy, deceit, backstabbing and gossip that goes on at my workplace. "Why are some women so catty?" I know misery loves company and I do know there are a lot of miserable women in my workplace, but lawd have mercy why do they have to try to make it so hard for others.
      I have never in my 50 years of life seen so many miserable women in one place and always bickering at each other and trying to cause strife for the other. Where is the peace in the workplace?
      I for one don’t mix with the majority of them because there are only a handful that are of my age and the rest are young spoiled daddy’s girls who seem to run their parents home and they bring it to the workplace with their demands on administration.
      What happened to either you follow the rules of the house or you can walk, I have seen Sally-Sue run to the boss in fake tears and get her way when she knew she was wrong, what is this all about? I guess those in charge have lost the essence of what it is to run a business on rules and regulations and not on the buddy system or did I miss the memo?

      I feel so lost when I’m at work because there is no one there that can relate to me and visa versa, because of what I stand for and how I walk they look at me as the enemy and I guess I am because I chose to walk with Christ and I stand for truth and righteousness while they are otherwise, but as soon as something goes wrong in their corner here they come at me for advice which is so funny to me. But I’m just in disbelief at how the workplace has become a complete circus, and how administration seem to thrive on the drama that goes on in the place, it just sickens me to have to go there some days because of my stance and how I’m being looked upon by my co-workers, but then again I do understand it and it is a spiritual thing, and I do know God has my back, but it is just a sad shame that some of these women can be so catty to try to make it hard for others, when in fact they are the problem.

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          Denise Richardson wrote Dec 6, 2010
        • Thanks Mz.V its like the only way I can get a breather is to go to my car on my lunch break. It has become so rediculous.



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          Brimstone1968 wrote Dec 6, 2010
        • Niecy continue to stand.  I had a girl once made up a lie just out of the blue.  It went round the office like wild fire then at the end of it all months later I was the one praying for her with some issues she had not the fake flighty ones she was running with.  STAND AND KEEP STANDING.  They want to be like you but donot know.  STAND.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Dec 6, 2010
        • Hi and thanks Brimstone, girl I know no other way but to STAND!!! I guess too they look at me probably thinking I think I'm better than but, I refuse to get off into those worldly catty debates and bickering amongst them. And to be honest I am better than I am a KINGS KID!!! estatic



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Dec 6, 2010
        • This something I don’t miss about working outside the home but I remember it well. It stinks. I wish I had words of wisdom on this one. Why women treat each other this way has always been a mystery to me.



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          Lisa Middlesworth wrote Dec 6, 2010
        • I am so thankful I work at home now, but you stand your ground Neicy. Pray for those ladies every morning. Try not to let them pull you into their world of misery and drama.
          Kill them all with kindness and a great big smile each and every morning.

          estatic*Lcm*
          heartheartheartheart



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          Denise Richardson wrote Dec 6, 2010
        • Choc, it is just plain ole sickening to me, I mean when does it ever stop? One day its this the next day its that and don’t come to work sharing some good news, man do they crucify you for that! It is so disturbing and I can’t believe that adminsitration isn’t trying to kill this issue in the work place.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Dec 6, 2010
        • Hiiiii Lisa miss seeing you, girl that is exactly what I do I just go in do my hours and get out but some days it seems that bothers them that I come in with a positive mind and attitude and try not to be a part, but again I hold my ground and the Lord fights my battles.hearthappy



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          Jo46 wrote Dec 6, 2010
        • Hi Neicy!  I have worked with women a lot due to my career, as a nurse. I think the best thing to do is stay neutral, don’t gossip, and sometimes acting like you don’t know whats going on works!  Good luck Neicy!



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          Max0125 wrote Dec 7, 2010
        • I feel for you! I have so been there. I think that you are doing all of the right things. Good luck!

          Mary



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          Kmarie wrote Dec 7, 2010
        • Good luck Neicy, i wish that I could lie and say that I do not know how you feel, but that would be unture. There are a lot of work enviroments which seem to foster this type of behavior. So many I know of have the same com plaints and I have experienced them my self. Just hang in there stick to what you know is right and I wish you good luck



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          Brimstone1968 wrote Dec 7, 2010
        • Sometimes the behaviour really bothers you but I think what really stinks is that management get all caught up in it as well and there is no divide.  Managers are not managing they are becoming work social buddies and so cannot stand up and play by the rules because they themselves have broken the rules.  Management could be feeding into the situation which only makes it so much worse.  Through it all ladies let us stand up for what be believe and even if we have to look different let it be so.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Dec 8, 2010
        • heartAMEN Brimstone “so it is written, so shall it be done!”



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          Lazylola wrote Dec 8, 2010
        • While I miss work I don’t miss the work place drama. My last job I worked with all men...and they are just as catty as women.



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          Suzann wrote Dec 8, 2010
        • Neicy, you know God “has your back“, and that’s something that will keep you connected with your real truth. The cattiness, especially with management thriving on it, is all drama and - I don’t believe it’s part of Reality, if you will.  

          Just know that you‘re on a good path. I’m so sorry that there aren’t more people like you in your office!



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          Denise Richardson wrote Dec 8, 2010
        • Oh Lola don’t I know that to be the truth some of my hubby’s friends call him all the time with drama lol.

          Suzann, you are so right I am keeping on the straight and narrow path because I know God and I walk with him daily on and off the job and i know this is why I’m met with so much opposition at work because of my stance in Him, some of the management team reassures me that they too wish they had more employees like me, but yet they still keep the drama teams around.worried



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          Cheekymonkey wrote Dec 8, 2010
        • Jealousy is the bottom line. They are not sure of who to be yet and alot of insecurity of themselfs so to distract that they become catty and fake all to build themselfs up.
          When younger women still tring try to grow into strong adult women they turn to this out of fear for many different reasons.
          Those of us that are more seasoned seem to pay the higher price for this cattiness.
          We hopefully have moved past that type of behavior and know to ourselfs ewe must be true so it bothers us a milion times more. We dont understand how to ne catty.
          Just walk your walk,talk your talk,and I tully



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