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  • Why Do Siblings Rival?

    16 posts, 7 voices, 668 views, started Mar 11, 2010

    Posted on Thursday, March 11, 2010 by Mz. Queen




    • Good morning Ladies,

      Over a cup of your favorite beverage is there an answer to this question that makes perfect sense?





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          Vikki Hall wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • Well I am the baby of 3 girls..... and my only guess is competition for the love and attention of the parents....

          Oh yeah and being resentful that the oldest got the new clothes and the youngest got to be the pet and the middle had to fight for her place



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          Mz. Queen wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • Is it really true about that middle one? It sounds like reality but is it acceptable when they are now 26,22,19. The one in the middle seems to be paranoid to me, although he is doing life his way he seems so angry all the time.



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          Mz. Queen wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • 26 and 22 live with me. 19 yoa is in college about to join the Army (another blog). Isn’t it an unwritten family “law” that when parents leave the oldest is in charge? Did that change or did I miss something?



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          Vikki Hall wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • Lol! Ok don’t even mention that part about the oldest being in charge.....
          My older sis really thought my parents wanted her to be perfect and take care of us.
          However she is the one that is forever putting together the family plans and having most of the stuff at her house.
          While me the baby just glide thru life basking ine the love of everyone just because I’m the baby (yes I do this and yes I am very aware that I am)

          My sisters and I have had this conversation many times and my thought has always been this.... my family will love me no matter what and I KNOW this. While they both know they are loved but feel they have to do something special to really get that love.



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          Vikki Hall wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • Donna my middle sis is probably the funnest of us 3 but she is also the wild one.... not as much as compared to her youth tho. In her youth she definitely was the very picture of black sheep. And funny that you mention it but she is also a bit on the paranoid side....



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          Tuliplady wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • Oh yes, it’s true about the middle one.  I am married to “the middle kid“.  And I have a daughter who is classic “Middle kid“.

          Why do siblings fight?  Because that’s the way it’s been since the beginning of time.  Look at Cain and Abel for goodness sake!

          My brother and I fought like cats and dogs.  Not sure why, I think in part we do it to establish seperate identities rather than being “the Jones kids“.  We quit fighting in our twenties, but now we‘re carrying on a cold war that’s gone on for 8 yrs.



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          Tuliplady wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • estatic  Forgot to say:  Good morning everyone! :)



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          Vikki Hall wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • Oh TL I’m sorry about the cold war..... I would suck it up and call him.....life is too short!

          My daughters are 22 and 20 and they will fight with each other but they also will be eachs biggest defender. Their facebook pages are so cute cuz they leave each other messages like I miss you sissy...



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          Vikki Hall wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • Lol!

          I totally forgot to say good morning!

          GOOD MORNING!!!!!!



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          Tuliplady wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • You‘re right Vikki, life’s too short for that.  I’ve tried to end it.  I send christmas cards, birthday cards to his kids, etc etc.  No response—ever.  The sad thing is, I don’t even know why it’s going on.

          Decided at Christmas time that I’m done trying.  I just consider myself an only child who has the sole responsibility of dealing with my parents as they grow old.



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          Vikki Hall wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • That’s sad! But please leave the door open just in case.....



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          Max0125 wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • One of my friends told me that God put siblings in our life to teach patience and tolerance, but he gave us free will to choose our friends.estatic



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          Vikki Hall wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • I love that M!



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          Hbrose wrote Mar 11, 2010
        • Good morning ladies! It’s a beautiful sunny day here and I just got back from my beach walk, re-energized to start a new day. Going to pilates in about an hour, but really sore from the other day so I have a feeling its going to be torcher today. worried

          As for sibling rilvary: I agree with Vikki, at least in part its likely siblings are vying for their parents attention, whether they realize it or not (its not necesarily intentional).  I saw a bit of that with my own 3 kids growing up, primiarily between my eldest and middle.  Even today as adults I still see a bit of that.

          The challenge is how to overcome that.  I always thought they would grow out of it, but I see it still exists.  Though I’m sure neither of them would admit or even realize.



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