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  • would you stay with him if there is no passion but he's a nice guy?

    9 posts, 6 voices, 2048 views, started Aug 21, 2012

    Posted on Tuesday, August 21, 2012 by Jolynn333




    • Amethyst
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      He is a nice guy, takes great care of you and the family. You have a beautiful home and a couple nice cars.  You get the pleasure of staying home and do what one does during the day.  But when it comes to the bedroom, he’ selfish and there is not much passion. You know you are capable of passion, even at this stage of womanapause, because you have felt it.  You have experienced the warm feelings all thru your body (just not with him).  Do you stay because it is safe and at the half way point of your life?  or do you go because you want the passion for the second half of your life?





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          Nita P wrote Aug 21, 2012
        • hhmmm i love passion and i have felt it though it no longer exists in my marriage.  my husbands has agreed though it is not an easy thing for him to agree to allowing me another someone else to befriend and be intimate with. finding the right person is like a needle in a haystack.  4 years on and here i am still at a loss.  i would go.....or i would think seriously about having affairs  ( i do not want my face slapped - that is an honest answer)frownfrown)



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          Jolynn333 wrote Aug 21, 2012
        • I know what you are saying and no one is going to slap youestatic  It’s kind of funny right?  How can so many things be so right and that one big one, be so hmmmmmm, not great and unsatisfying.  I dont think many men would approve of their spouse finding physical intimacy with someone else.....but I tell you what.........I am ALL FOR having friends of the opposite sex that make me feel good in ways that fulfill me, not necessarily “intercourse“, but other sexy friend type ways. I think Lady’s need to know that someone out there finds them desirable , it kind of eases the pain of the spouse being selfish/boring in the bedroom... right?



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          Tuliplady wrote Aug 21, 2012
        • Hubby and I have been together ten years.  And the passion is as dead as a burned out tree stump.  He loves me, but he has no interest in me as a woman at all.  Would I leave?  No Way!!!  My husband is a good, wonderful man.  He does a good job of providing for me, and I waited a lot of years to be with him.
          I’ve been thru a divorce and if you haven’t been thru that, let me just tell you, it’s not something you want to go thru—ever, if you can avoid it.

          I’m rather with Jolynn.  I have friends who make me feel good about myself.  I have a lot of friends, and a lot of men friends who are loving and supportive.  I have a gay friend who has been one of my best friends for 30 years and he never fails to tell me how awesome I’m looking.



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          Nita P wrote Aug 21, 2012
        • that is so right.  it is hurtful but not as much as it use to be to know my husband does not care for me in that way. i also believe there is no one man or one women that can be some ones everything.  so other friendships for whatever the reason is to me acceptable.



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          Nita P wrote Aug 21, 2012
        • something i forgot to say for me there must be honesty.  i do no want to be sneaking about, hiding or telling lies.



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          Jolynn333 wrote Aug 22, 2012
        • Friends that fulfill our needs (even if they are male) but not hiding our friendships from our honeys?  is that what we‘re saying? I’m guessing having to explain our friendships may not be necessary?   Some of my very masculine friends would be hard to explain, but not to hide them or sneak, but to enjoy and appreciate what they complete/fulfill.  Is this what we are saying?



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          Saylor101 wrote Aug 23, 2012
        • I chose to give up comfort - Bills paid, “new” car every couple years, vacations...

          5 years later - i’m driving a 14 year old car, no “real” vacations - and I want for things...

          There are times that are rough - Balancing budgets on a part-time business w/raising children, lack of personal freedom, bad dates, one abusive relationship - - - and I wondered if I should have stayed in my 13yr marriage...

          BUT - my closest friends see a happier gal, someone that enjoys much more of life - see’s more silver linings...

          I can not say what would have been best OVERALL in all realms for my boys and I - and at 48 “the last 1/4” of my life looms in front of me causing occasional angst about “retirement” & security...  Yet- I Have To Share That I Have NEVER felt SO alive in my sexuality nor have I ever experienced passion as I am with the man currently (& hopefully always) in my  life....

          I have no doubt that I could have enjoyed much of life w/my ex—-but I know ME and I would have cheated - I would have longed for passion, touch, intimate LOVE ... I would have troubled over that...as I have bills, schedules, lack of child raising assistance...

          Everything is a trade off - you will miss some of anything you leave behind, but you will also relish in finding out things about yourself you never knew - - or had forgotten.  Security is comfortable
          Passion is LIVING (& life offers Hope & all can be found in that)

          at least for me. . .



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          Msowens wrote Aug 23, 2012
        • I would, good guys are sooooo hard to find.  If for you there is no passion in your relationship maybe YOU should make the first move to reignite the passion, or just communicate with him.  You don’t miss your water until your well runs dry!



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