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  • Yes, no, maybe so...

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    12 posts, 8 voices, 828 views, started Jul 25, 2011

    Posted on Monday, July 25, 2011




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      Garnett
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      What are some of the things you will always say “yes” to?  

      I think for a lot of women, the art of saying no is difficult.  The idea that we can simply say no to someone or something with little or no explanation can feel pretty foreign after a lifetime of meeting demands.

      I’ll admit to having as much trouble with it as anyone, but I also have to admit that recently no one has been asking much of me.  It hasn’t been an issue for me and I sort of miss it. Kids are grown, husband is involved in a new job and my job has gone away. After going through a very difficult 2009-2010 I find some are afraid to ask me for anything.  

      I miss some of the things I used to say yes to like hosting a holiday, bringing a dish to a family dinner, helping proofread a paper or dog sitting.  What would you miss if everyone suddenly stopped asking?

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          Marya1961 wrote Jul 25, 2011
        • I wish people would ask me a bit more, but maybe they feel they don’t want to put too much on me as there are days I don’t feel well.  

          We did start a game night with hub’s siblings and spouses, so I will say yes to that..it’s fun to make all kinds of food and beverages.estatic



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          Tuliplady wrote Jul 25, 2011
        • After my divorce, for a long time, nobody really asked anything of me.  It was a weird feeling.  People here didn’t know me very well, so didn’t ask me to do things.  My kids weren’t with me so I wasn’t doing for them.  

          Now of course, I’m right back to people asking and expecting.  But I’ve learned that sometimes NO is the only way to keep your sanity.



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          Vikki Hall wrote Jul 25, 2011
        • Ok I’m going to twist this a bit. The beauty of NOT being asked anything to say yes to leaves you wide open to opportunity and possibilities. Once you say YES you are locked into that. But if you are not asked then you can create an exciting persona of unexpected and spontaneous.  

          So now that you have added unexpected and spontaneous to your personality it leaves you open to trying new things!



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          Guidinglite wrote Jul 26, 2011
        • I don’t know at this point in my life I’d miss anything.
          There are so many opportunities I have in front of me, I don’t want to miss the ones that will shape and develop me as a woman of purpose.  I think I kinda agree with Vikki on this.



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          Cathie Beck wrote Jul 26, 2011
        • Because of my extremely tight budget, I’m not asked to bring anything when friends get together. If I ask the answer is, “whatever you want to“.  

          Cathie



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          Vikki Hall wrote Jul 26, 2011
        • I say we all move forward and become women of unexpected and spontaneous!

          Besides my nieces are all in their 30’s it’s way past time to pass the torch to them!



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          Cathie Beck wrote Jul 26, 2011
        • LOL, I did think of it, Vikki. Maybe it's my age and independent nature? Last time I did a birthday pot luck, there wasn't any of my loaded with veggies pizza left. Even the men ate pizza with brocolli on it.    

          Cathie



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