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I am wondering if something is wrong with me.  I relocated here 8 years ago and at this age it is so hard to make friends.  I have tried to make friends in church, school just about everywhere but people at my age already have established friends and it is hard to penetrate through their existed friendships.  I do enjoy FAB 40 but I need some physcial friends as well.  Any suggestions on how to acquire new friends at this age.

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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 31, 2011
    • I hear ya!

      Try new neighbors.org. I have gone to a few things and met a few people thru them.




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      Jimmie wrote Mar 31, 2011
    • Yeah, I am going through the same thing.  I have only lived in this area about 2 years but it is hard.  I have tried meetups but never got to attend one because the groups had disbanded before I had a chance to participate.  The other problem is I have 3 kids at home and their dad is gone about every other week.  I meet some parents through the kids but they have established relationships.  

      I have had to do this often as we move a lot but it does get harder as you get older and honestly old when you have to try to establish friendships every few years.  Our last few places we were only there a year each.  The last place though I had a real good friend from a previous location in the area so we did something about every day which makes this last move hard.  I can’t seem to find a job either to try to meet people.  

      Sorry, seems like I am venting and you were looking for suggestions.  You are not alone.




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      Kandykahne 5 wrote Apr 1, 2011
    • I’ve lived in this area for most of my life and my very best friends moved away. We keep in touch but I wish they were here. I can understand how you feel though. It was hard for me to accept the fact that they moved and people did want to be my friend that I met along the way but it just wasn’t the same and I felt I had my closest friends from childhood and that was good enough for me. It was my mistake and it took me a while to realize that. My husband became a member of the Masons a couple years ago and I met some of the wives and girlfriends and we’ve gotten together many times, done fundraisers and just have fun. It’s nice to have close by friend connections again. My advice is maybe find a group or organization where the husbands and wives get together on occasion and a friendship may develop.happy




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      Diane17 wrote Apr 1, 2011
    • I moved to my neighborhood about 2 and a half years ago and I’ve met people, mostly other moms, by joining the local MOMS club and MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers).  They both have activities and/or meetings several times a month that I go to and I see the same moms at these events.  

      I do agree with the other ladies that it is harder to make friends as you get older.  I also find with most of my existing friendships, we have drifted away and are not as close as we used to be.  We don’t talk that much anymore and I don’t see them very often, but we still get together periodically...maybe several times a year.  But I have 2 small boys that keep me pretty busy too.

      Are there any clubs in your area that you could join?  Perhaps do some volunteer work?  The local library might have information on various clubs...I see info about that at our local library.




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      UK Girl wrote Apr 1, 2011
    • Honey I moved from one side of London to another and also changed my life style so needed to just meet new people so I made friends with some great people in the local park walking my old dog Rosie and and I also did a dance school learning to salsa this helped and I also decided to learn to knit and joined a stitch and bitch club - I still can’t knit but made some great friends and had a real laugh - so maybe take up a hobby




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      Brimstone1968 wrote Apr 1, 2011
    • Thank you ladies for all the tips and suggestions.  I will be exploring all the avenues suggested, thanks again.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Apr 2, 2011
    • Brimstone, I will eventually be moving to a new town and I want to meet people outside of my family’s friends in town. I was thinking of being active in some community events and I really like Vikki’s post spawned out of your question.  

      At first your question scared me because I’ll be leaving friends behind and will have to begin all over again making new friends. It took awhile to make new friends after the divorce began over a year ago. Small towns can be tough to make friends in and I don’t want to rely just on family for friendships. I’ve asked my brother about this subject. How friendly are people there to newcomers? One thing I’ve got going for me is that I’m not a “flat lander” moving there from a big city. LOL  

      Wishing us both all the best!  

      Cathie




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      Linda L wrote Apr 4, 2011
    • Hi Brimstone,

      I have the same feelings as you do, so you are not alone.  I will also refer to the suggestions from our fab friends.

      Have an awesome week! estatic




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      Monay wrote Apr 30, 2011
    • I am wondering the same thing.  Moved here four years ago and I have not found any friends. The women in my neighborhood come home from work and do not come back out,lol.  I tried a few meetup groups and dropped them.  I just started my own, we will see how that goes.




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