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My husband doesn’t care about his appearance anymore.  He’s ballooned up into obesity and I’ve been trying to get him to lose weight, but he doesn’t care what I think, even that I’m not attracted to him anymore. Does anyone else have this problem?

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      Tuliplady wrote Apr 6, 2011
    • I’m right there with you Pattie.  And I hate it.  Due to health issues and depression, my husband has ballooned up to twice what he weighed when he and I got together.  Ick!

      But, he’s a grown man and there’s nothing I can do about it except let him be.  I’ve made up my mind to take off my extra weight and if I’m lucky it will inspire him.  If nothing else, my cooking healthier is going to force him to eat healthier at least one meal a day.

      Tulip




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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 6, 2011
    • Oh so sorry that you are going thru this! I can’t say that I have this issue but I wish you luck as you go thru this with him frown




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      Denise Richardson wrote Apr 6, 2011
    • In my case the tables are turned I’m the one who has gained the weight not my hubby in fact he has lost due to him having to because of his diabetes,even though he has not complained about my weight gain it bothers me, but I am on the road to recovery as well as to a leaner slimmer body lol.




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      Rose Nino wrote Apr 6, 2011
    • So sorry to hear it Pattie! I agree though, he may be going through some kind of depression. I do hope he see’s a dr soon.  

      Way to go Neicy!

      In my prayers for the very best ladies. heartheart




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      Kerri1985 wrote Apr 6, 2011
    • I’m not married so I can’t comment...




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      Diane17 wrote Apr 6, 2011
    • My husband has also gained some weight although I wouldn’t call him obese.  It would be great if he would lose some weight, exercise, and quit smoking!! Unfortunately I can’t make him do any of those things.  frownfrown




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      Mzd3 wrote Apr 6, 2011
    • It could be depression, but hard to say. I have been the one to gain weight too, but antidepressant have added even more weight. He needs to be motivated somehow to improve for himself. (so do I )




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      Brimstone1968 wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • Pattie, I know this is a tough one to deal with but I had to deal with it myself.  I figured I was in this with him because leaving him alone was only making me mad.  This is what I did:
      I made an appointment with the doctor, told him, then went with him.

      I cook healthier.  I cook whole wheat pasta instead of the regular white pasta.  I use only olive oil, only bake, use smart balance butter.  I cook oats and buy high fiber cereals.  Use ground chicken and turkey instead of ground beef etc.

      I tell him I will go in the garden with him.

      We have a membership for the gym so we go together.

      Try being proactive with him and see if it works.

      I pray that things turn around.




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      Anonymous wrote May 1, 2012
    • Patti I fully understand where you are coming from! My husband seems to not care about his appearance, weight, eating habits or lifestyle (no social life). He used to be and do so much, but in the last 2 years has become everything that makes me want to keep to myself. I hate to watch him eat as he gorges like its his last meal. His clothes hang off of him like a slob, and he has gained at least 50lbs! He has been diagnosed with High Blood Pressure and I have tried to help him with a different diet but he loves sneaking junk food and eating too much food in one sitting! It has gotten to the point for me that I am not even attracted to him and for him to try to touch me or approach me for sex, I actually get sick to my stomach. I hate it! I love my husband but it seems as if he no longer loves himself! What in the world do I do? Don’t know how much more I can deal with!




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