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Today on my radio station I heard a story about an 8 year old boy who has behavior problems, the teachers have had to call the cops 3x. This time he threw desks, broke off a piece of wood and told the teachers he would killthem. The interviewer asked if he meant it and he said yes at the time. His mom said she took him off meds because it only made him gain weight, the boy told the interviewer he did it because he is upset his mom works... what do you think about this?




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      Msj wrote Apr 6, 2011
    • The cops PEPPER Sprayed the 8 yr old...   this site does not let me edit!!! ARGHHHH    I hit enter before I added this last part.... does this happen to you?




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      Denise Richardson wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • WOW!ohhhh I think this is something social services need to handle along with the doctors who has been seeing this child and maybe try a different medication if the current one was causing weight issues for him, and I also feel the mom was wrong for not giving him his meds to control his behavior, he really could have killed someone or hurt someone, and she would have to pay the price either way, but I fault the parent in this cause she is not a doctor to determine when and when not to givre the medication she should have consulted with the doctor who prescribe the meds to see if there was another solution. Thank God no one was hurt or killed. And in the case of the pepper spray the cops did what they had to do in my opinion, as not to do bodily harm to the child.




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      Djo1 wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • That poor poor child and only 8 years old. It’s clear that he has some emotional problems and possibly mental. I agree it is up to the parents to do their best to help this child...and if not SHAME ON THEM!! Can you imagine if this child is not helped what will happen?!! I would hope that SS has stepped in and is monitoring the situation...but you never know these days with the system.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • Right! The cops have to resort to pepper spray on an 8 yr old????? Thats crazy!!!!! What do the cops do when the person happens to be bigger than an 8 yr old boy????

      Anyways I too agree that the mom was out of line for taking him off his meds. Unless she has a degree in the field of medicine she should either challenge the Drs to find better or different or follow their plan.




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      Tuliplady wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • Sounds like a kid who already knows he can ontrol other people with his behavior.  And a kid with that kind of mental problems should NOT be in a classroom with other kids!!




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      Denise Richardson wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • I agree Tulip he shouldn’t have been in the class, and for me saying yes to the pepper say I’m not for it, but if that was all they could do to get the kid in control to subdue him then so be it, when you have behavioral issues sometimes they can be very strong beyond their own weight so I was just saying if thats what had to be done without harming him then do so. But of course I’d never agree to it in any other normal situations concerning a child.happy




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      Denise LePard Elhalawany wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • As a mother of a child who, out of the blue, started having seizures at the age of 13 and was put on medication that made her suicidal, aggressive, violent and belligerent, and yes, overweight, I can tell you the horrors of having a child with a mental abnormality.  It seems to me that this child needs to be on medication NOW and that the teachers, someone needs to step in and see that this child gets on the right medication.  Once my daughter was put on the right medication for her, I have my beautiful daughter back.




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      Mysticalpatterns wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • It sounds like this child has some serious anger issues.  Which could come from his home life but could also be medical in nature (or both).  Regardless it seems to me that if the cops have been called 3 times it might be time to find an alternative teaching method/facility for him.  It isn’t fair to put the other children (or teachers) in danger from his outbursts.

      On the flip side pepper spray should NEVER be used on children and regardless of ‘why’ he is behaving like this.  Your telling me adults police officers couldn’t subdue a child without resorting to pepper spray???  He is only 8 which means he is behaving out of impulse.  Perhaps the best course of action would be to find a physician and mental health expert who will evaluate him properly to get to the source of this before it is too late.  

      As far as the mother taking him off meds it would depend to me on if the side effects were worse than the problem.  I am not a big advocate of medicating our children but if there truly is a medical need for it then that takes precedence.  I would much rather see my child gain/lose weight than harm himself or others!




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      UK Girl wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • very sad story but he said that this was all because he didn’t want his mom to work - so he needs his mom to talk to him but very much over kill by the police and his mum shouldn’t stop the medication due to weight but go back and ask for a referral for more tests

      Sounds like a classic case of communication breakdown with child, parent, school , doctor and police




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      Rose Nino wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • This is very sad. To pepper spray an 8 yr old? Wow, that is extreme. It reminds me of my own childhood of abuse that started at the age of 5. I was such an angry, disturbed child and all I wanted was the love, care, and attention of my mother. And to be told that I was loved and all would be okay (she never knew of the abuse until I was 12). It just makes me wonder what the real underlying issue is all about. And what this child is really crying out. My heart goes out to this little boy. heartbreakheartbreak




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      Kyah wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • I read about it and was appalled by the use of pepper spray, but I was even more upset when they handcuffed the 6 year old girl a couple of years back. I can understand the cops wanting to get a situation under control, but if they grabbed this boy and he was hurt in the process, the parents would be ready to sue. If the meds he’s on makes him gain weight, then up his exercise to help him burn off those extra pounds.

      I notice a lot of crimes occur when those on medication are off their meds. If they are to be a part of society the administration of prescriptions that keep them from becoming violent should be mandatory.




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      Brimstone1968 wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • I have a friend who has a son with behavioural problems and getting a child on meds is one of the hardest things under 10 years old.  She is advised to give him the meds Mon-Fri. as I supposed this helps him in the school system.  However while on the meds he has no apetite and drinks very little.  He is often dehydrated.  This is the fourth meds they are trying on him.  When he is not on the meds he will eat non stop.  I feel for the parents and doctors who have to endure this.  It is not so black and white.  However, my friend son goes to a specail school for kids with those behavioural problems as the teachers are especially trained and also has the proper stuff to help restrain them once they are out of control.  Pepper spray is way to harsh.

      On the other hand if this mom just took the child off without consulting her doctor she was not being responsible because those kids are strong like hell.  He then becomes a danger to himself and to others.

      I pray that parents who have to deal with this follow the direction of the professionals.




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      Linda L wrote Apr 8, 2011
    • I agree with many of you.  So hard to believe that pepper spray had to be used on an 8 year old. At our school some teachers are trained to restrain behavioral problem kids and this happens a few times a week. There is a behavioral plan for some of these kids written up by the child’s teacher, principal,counselor, social services, and psychologist with the presence of the parent.  However, it doesn’t always work.  As Tulip said, many of these problem students know how to control people to be on their side. In addition, when it gets to the point that we can no longer handle a difficult student, he is sent off to another school so that school can deal with the problem.  On the flip side, problem students from another school are sent to us.  Sadly, it’s been a no win situation.  

        

      Yes, the mom was irresponsible to not give him the meds.  When I watched the interview, the kid said with a grin that he deserved it (pepper spray).




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