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I’ve planned and got my decor in order for my egg spectacular party for my nieces and nephews next Saturday. I can’t wait!! Even drew a big ol bunny for pin the bow tie lol now on occasion I’ve let them invite there friends and it’s usually the friends that I’ve knowen their parents too. So it came as a surprise when my sister in law called and asked if others could come explaining that the parents of whom I do not know had asked her because of how much the kids that have come loved the parties. This started out years ago just to do with my family, did for my kids why  not nieces and nephews? Occasionally a friend or two but now if I say yes my party would include 8 children I have never met or the parents to go with the few I know. What do you think and what would you do?




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Apr 18, 2011
    • heart I love throwing these parties for my family and I spend alit of time and effort to make them each different with great memories.
      I don’t want it to be something I can’t do without all these kids parents inviting their kids.
      See , the kids that do come I know from my sister in law and church. Plus Deb teaches with them so the parents that are asking Deb also teaches with but are not close friends with like the others that have come.
      I’m not sure I want all these kids I don’t know but I don’t want my nieces and nephew to be hurt or Deb to uncomfortable.
      Plus there is the added expense and that’s alot of kids. Ages range from 5 to 10. Hmmmmm
      Maybe it’s time to stop only because it’s becoming more than I want it to be.
      I think
      Cris




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      Mysticalpatterns wrote Apr 18, 2011
    • If I were in this position I would just be honest in a respectful way to the sister-in-law.  

      I would share that you really prefer to keep it small with friends & family only.  That you enjoy doing it for such a small group because you can put the added love & attention into it that you wouldn’t be able to do if it were for a larger group.  I would also emphasize the emotional component of keeping it ‘within the family’ (friends/family) and how important it is for you to provide this tradition to for the lasting memories but that you fear that if it gets too large it won’t be as personal.  

      A second option might be to plan something through your church that you help organize but that allows you enlist the help (financial as well as preparation) from other members.  Then keep your family event to your family.  Now I realize it might be too late in the year for this year this time but perhaps this might be an option for next year.

      You have a right to do what works for you and not feel guilty about it.  This is a special gift you are giving to your family and it sounds like you get a lot of pleasure out of it as well.  Regardless, don’t give up this amazing gift you are giving to those you love, but don’t feel obligated to sponsor it for everyone.  It would be a shame to ‘stop’ just because some people don’t understand how personal this is for you and your family.

      Love, Light & Blessings,
      heart Miss T heart

      “It’s Never to Late to Become What You Might Have Been” - George Elliot




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      Angelcart wrote Apr 19, 2011
    • Cris, I too agree with Eva.  You hate to see kids left out but I know I would never impose on someone else’s special day (or any other for that matter) especially not knowing them.  Why don’t these other childrens parents do for them or take them to a local easter egg hunt?  Well, I guess that’s not really the issue why they don’t do it, but, a lot of local church’s and other organizations have egg hunts for the kids.  Perhaps you could explain like the others said to your sister in law and suggest she see if those other’s can attend another egg hunt?  Wow, that’s a tough dilemma to be put in!  Let us know what you decide.




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Apr 19, 2011
    • Thanks ladies, I’ve been doing these parties not only on holidays but well I’ve made up my own for them. “just because I love you ”  ” fancy Nancy” ” water day” are to name a few that I’ve done just because my mom did those things and I’ve got great memories. I did them with my kids and now as they grow up I’ve moved to my nieces and nephews.
      Trust me when I say I plan and do wacky fun things and decorate my sisters back yard everytime.
      This isn’t really about the cost and I’m flattered that the kids brag enough that others want to come but I think what bothers me is that the parents called my sister in law to invite their kids( I know they all wk together: teachers ritzy school, but it’s not even my sisters in laws party. When I do this I throw her and her hubby out so they have time together a whole day.
      So, doesn’t it take alot of nerve to ask her?
      Plus to be responsible for peoples kids I don’t know....
      Well, it took me all of about 1 minute to know what I’m gonna do.

      Here goes: kids can come. Why hurt them and my nieces and nephews will fill important ect ect
      BUT: all of those kids are only there from x time to x time.
      Parents must Leave phone number and be able to pick them up within 15 minutes if I call them.
      And if their child is bad ( I mean real bad not just usual kid stuff ) then I will call parents to pick up.

      They all live in same area, all know each other yada yada
      And I will explain to Sis in law that if I’m not suggesting to her other kids then after this party the answer is no and she can explain it to them if they ask again.
      Some might include other kids , big or small this is my way of connecting and allowing deb and Greg some alone time.
      What do you all think of that? Compromise this time.
      Hugs
      Cris




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      Brimstone1968 wrote Apr 19, 2011
    • I agree with your suggestions in how you are going to handle it this time around.  Also suggest to your sister in law that next year they can approach the church with the idea and if you want to volunteer then do so and that way they will have the financial responsiblity of the stuff with you organizing it.  One or two of these parents should volunteer to come along as well because the number has increased and you only have two eyes and already accustomed to the ones you have all the time.

      Wishing you lots of fun which I know you will have and thanks for creating lasting memories for the kids.




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Apr 19, 2011
    • heart it’s enjoyment for me too!! I get to spend time in the craft stores !! Lol
      Just got off phone with sister in law and now the number of kids went from my 8 to 16!!!! Holy crap lol well I have more placemats to make lol there better be a wine I. V. waiting for me after but the rest of the kids are only coming for an hour and a half and my daughter offered to help. Thank you mellisa ! Ten bucks added to your allowance. She has to pay 30.00 towards both her mission and summer camp.




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      Msj wrote Apr 19, 2011
    • Cris, You are really a neat person.

      I also like the idea mystical had about having a separate shindig at the Church for all kid’s and more adults oculd be involve or just give them the idea.... so there would be no pressure on you.

      I wish I could and would have been the kind of mom you are.heart




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      Mysticalpatterns wrote Apr 19, 2011
    • That sounds perfect Chris.  Glad you have a plan but it sounds like you have an amazing time planning & organizing these so I’m sure it will be a treat for you as well!!

      Have you ever thought about putting together a how to book on creating these parties.  That way others can use your knowledge to create something just as special for other children.

      Love, Light & Blessings,
      heart Miss T heart

      “It’s Never to Late to Become What You Might Have Been” - George Elliot




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Apr 19, 2011
    • heartheart msj, my friend , we all have our strengths and our weakness. Love is love. We all do it differently. I know you love your son. I’ve felt it when I read your posts. That’s what matters in the long run. The love.
      @ Mysticalpatterns, no I never had. I once thought I’d like to open a business planning kids parties but that was just a thought.... Maybe... .... That’s a very interesting concept. Thank you for the idea I’ll mull it over. I’ve done alot of them and they are never the same. Hmmmm
      Thank you.




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      Mysticalpatterns wrote Apr 20, 2011
    • Your Welcome Chris.  I know I would buy something like that.  My kids are older but I’m sure I will have grand-kids one day!

      Love, Light & Blessings,
      heart Miss T heart

      “It’s Never to Late to Become What You Might Have Been” - George Elliot




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