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So, I have a really good friend that still works at old employment. I was her boss but she is a manager. Everytime we talk or txt she brings up job. Asking questions on things she was privy to but I was. Even though I am no longer there I still take my confidential agreement serious. It’s a moral thing I guess now she knows me very well. In fact I’ve told everyone that I am still in contact I do not want to discuss this topic even though they still wk there. Generalization ok but no details!!!! I told her this 4 days ago it must have hurt her feelings because she didn’t contact me again till today. So we are having a great conversation by txting and up pops a question she KNOWS I won’t answer. I ignored it and continued but again up it pops. Now I just didn’t answer at all. Why would she disrespect me as her friend ( and we are very close) but not when I was her boss? Why would she think it’s ok now and I’d change who I am? Mostly how do I tell her and keep the friendship? I’m noticing she’s pretty one sided lately



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    • +1 votes vote up vote up

      Frannie1964 wrote Apr 20, 2011
    • If it was me I would just tell her straight out, “I don’t longer work there so I would rather not talk about my old work place or answer any questions about it. I miss you and working with you but I’m trying to deal with the situation and enjoy my time at home with family and talking about my previous work place is not on my agenda“.heart and then ask her to lunch...lol

      But thats me and thats what I would say to her.




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      Mysticalpatterns wrote Apr 20, 2011
    • Cris,  

      I would be honest with her but in a gentle way.  Explain that you enjoy her friendship and hope she can respect your decision not to talk about the job.  Both because you no longer work there but also that you feel regardless if you work there or not it is important to you to keep your integrity which means you do not feel comfortable talking about confidential matters.

      First & foremost you have to respect yourself & your integrity.  If she is a True friend she will understand that.  If not that is on her.

      As life changes sometimes our friends change as well.  Just like the job, when one door closes another one opens.  

      Love, Light & Blessings,
      heart Miss T heart

      “It’s Never to Late to Become What You Might Have Been” - George Elliot




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      Cathie Beck wrote Apr 21, 2011
    • Cris, maybe she is not clear on why you can’t talk about the job since you‘re no longer there? But she might be asking you questions so she can figure out if she’s safe in her job position and if she should not trust some individuals?  

      Cathie




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      Mztracy wrote Apr 21, 2011
    • go Frannie!! Love it...
      and then tell her to fuck off!ohhhh




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Apr 21, 2011
    • heart no, she understands exactly what she is asking. We have been friends for Alot of years .... I thought. I’ve told her straight out last week while my family had dinner with her family at her house.
      She wants info.
      It has seriously pissed me off. I have told her again just yesterday and explained that 1. I won’t talk about things because I signed a contract and I honor it.
      2. I have other things to focus on and that’s where I’m at.
      3. Ugh! I don’t care what is going on with the old job that’s why it’s old now!

      Her response as of yesterday was “no one will know you told me things”
      Right then and there I knew. I said good bye and said if our families were still on for next weeks dinner to give me a call but I will be declining.
      I still see my best friend and she fired me we don’t talk a word about work. So, space is what’s needed when she grows up then call me.... Sad but true.
      Cris




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      Cathie Beck wrote Apr 22, 2011
    • Ok and thanks for explaining the situation, Cris, and I’m sorry she’s put you in this position. And I hear ya on “the Old job“. ;oD  

      Cathie




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