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I went to see someone in  the hospital today that has cancer. What do you say to someone you are not close to in a stuation like this?

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      Victorious wrote Apr 24, 2011
    • I was lost for words because of the condition she was in. She has lost alot of weight and her abdomen was extreamely swollen. She was so weak and sould not speak very well. I thought it was not the time to be visiting her as she was in so much pain too. It is taking me quite a while to recover from the experience.




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      UK Girl wrote Apr 25, 2011
    • I think the fact you visited is a comfort and if you keep in touch too many times people just don’t know what to say so they stop speaking or visiting and this is quite heartbreaking




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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 25, 2011
    • I think just being present is always good. Also offering to do things for them is huge help. Just a simple thing like getting them cards and stamps and helping them address notes and things can be very meaningful.




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      Brimstone1968 wrote Apr 25, 2011
    • You can just sit with her quietly.  You can even read to her comforting readings.  If you had any old Hallmark cards or any other cards compile some of them with those beautiful words and read them to her.  Even though in an ac room some cancer patients get very hot ask her permission to wipe her face, neck and hands with a damn wash cloth that will be very cooling to her.  Do you know her favourite music or song, if you can get the instrumentals to those songs or some other soothing music that will nice.

      However, my dear sometimes just being there is all that matters to the person.  Love in silence is as powerful as a touch.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 25, 2011
    • Brimstone you said.....

      *However, my dear sometimes just being there is all that matters to the person. Love in silence is as powerful as a touch.*  

      How BEAUTIFUL!!!




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      Tuliplady wrote Apr 25, 2011
    • If she’s been in the hospital for any length of time, probably any visitor is welcome to break the boredom.

      I always figure sick people are tired of discussing their condition, treatment, etc and try to talk about normal everyday things.




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      Max0125 wrote Apr 25, 2011
    • It is always hard to see someone you know suffer. I just tell them that I support them and ask if there is anything I can do or bring such as a movie. I agree with Brimstone, cards are a nice touch. If they have a family, bring over a meal that they can pop in the microwave. Also, ask the family if there is anything they need.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Apr 25, 2011
    • Ditto to what Brimstone said: However, my dear sometimes just being there is all that matters to the person. Love in silence is as powerful as a touch.
      and you can always say a prayer for her.




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      Msj wrote Apr 25, 2011
    • My sister in law passed away from breast/bone cancer about 7 months ago.... the music was helpful, great idea.

      You really dont need to say anything. just be there for her. You will know when the time to speak and it will b e natural. Just be- for now...




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