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What is your biggest social fear?  Are you scared to speak in front of a group, large crowds, having something go wrong like tripping etc.....?

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      Momofthreeprincess wrote May 3, 2011
    • Being a large woman I am so scared that I will have a some kind of problem with my clothes like showing to much chest or a zipper undone.




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      Frannie1964 wrote May 3, 2011
    • Speaking in front of large crowds or speeches at special occasions. I have never been able to do that, I start to stutter and my voice sounds like it’s shaking. I am not good at that at all. So that would be my big social fear.




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      Mary Clark wrote May 3, 2011
    • I have found that if I don’t practice a speech...or whatever I’m doing in front of a crowd and I just get up there and do it...I’m much more calmer.  If I stress over it too much...then I can’t do it.  I’m a wing it kind of girl...and it works for me!

      I don’t mind eating by myself at a rest. and I don’t mind walking into a room where I don’t know anyone.  

      But I don’t like working out in a co-ed gym....go figure!




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      Vikki Hall wrote May 3, 2011
    • Hmmmm...... Social fear.......

      Accidentally passing gas in front of people! Hasn’t happened but I don’t want it to either estatic




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      Kyah wrote May 3, 2011
    • Large crowds. I’m ochlophobic for sure.




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      Monay wrote May 3, 2011
    • Falling down in front of a crowd.




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      Denise Richardson wrote May 3, 2011
    • I’m always standing in front of crowds speaking and I’m quite comfortable with that, but what I do fear whe nhaving to do so is that I may fall or trip or forget what I was going to speak about at times. (I do keep notes just in case I have to revert back to them)happy




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      Msj wrote May 3, 2011
    • My biggest social fear came true. I was invited to speak before the Burbank City council in a private meeting. Seated at the what seemed VERY long beautiful polished Oak Table sat; The Mayor, Chief of Police, Local Assemblyman, the Director (a backer of mine)one of the most prominant Burbank DV organizations Burbank Family Servic Agency,  oh, about 12 people, and someone of importance on speaker phone.( I don;’t recal as I was having extreme anxiety.

      This was year apprx 2005. I was invited to speak on behalf of the non profit organization that I founded to help survivors of domestic violence.

      Anyway, I have PTSD and Panic disorder (unfortunately many of you seen evidence of this via posts) - (my sincerest apologies!)

      So. There I was see, standing at the head of the table speaking passionately when all of a sudden- as I spoke I looked around the table looking people in the eye... (getting great feedback) and I had a panic attack = sweating, ears ringing, almost passing out, fear, heart pounding....

      WHAT was I to do? People of community importance were waiting for my next words!

      Well, I closed my eyes, did Chi Gong breathing (Bernadette will know)  and managed to choke out the sentence:

      “Ladies and Gentlemen, THAT is what a panic attack looks like“!

      Cheers and applause , made me smile but did not take away my fear, luckily I had an associate (a good friend and my project advisory board member,an MFT)to take up where I left off...

      That’s My Story of MOST embarrasing social fear come TRUE!
      Luckily it worked out, I made many contacts and realized that I can have panic disorder and THAT is one reason why my organization is so important.

      The passing of gas as mentioned in post above was a definate possible but thank GOD that did NOT happen!




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      Msj wrote May 3, 2011
    • Wait here is more! one more

      Ok, Ok, there I was see,  2007, I obtained rights to host the Vagina Monologue play.
      I also thanks be to God, and MANY sweet sweet people of burbank was able to hold the event via
      The owner of Gene Bua Theater in Burbnak CA (he and his wife met while being stars of ONe Life To Live) Toni And Gene BUA, anyhow, I walked into the theater scared to death and spoke with Toni (THE sweetest lady)  

      and told her of my organization, and long story short she and Gene Bua DONATED the theater and Alan Feinstien directed the play for free ( a prominant and respect Director in Hollywood, they had a event where the theater was filled with the actors and others in the industry....  

      She invited me onstage. IMPROMTU! handed me the mic I was PETRIFIED   standing in front of these Brilliant actors/actresses, Amanda Lyn, Pamela Clay Donna Kai, etc.. anyway.... first off the mic didnt work!  I was horrified!

      I Said “uuuhm Im not microphone literate!”

      Then

      I used the old line “That’s what a panic attack looks like and they loved it! this time it was much easier cuz they were so down to earth and NOT stuffy (not that the burbankofficers were, just more OFFICIAL)!  

      Bottom line, we held the event was a SMASH! I brought in over 3 grand for 2 nights in a small theater! and wala

      NOW er  WHEN I do public speaking again? Will I panic
      What do YOu think NONONO that was rhetorical LOL.... of COURSE I will!
      But you know what? It will be worth it, and you just never know SOMEday I just MIGHT get this whole Public Speaking thing DOWN!




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      UK Girl wrote May 4, 2011
    • no I don’t and I have had every worst night mare in public happen and jumped back so can say nothing fazes me now.
      Fell up a platform to speak in front of a very large crowd and head butted the microphone (swore) and recovered .....
      Sat interviewing someone for 20 mins and my boobs hanging out of shirt as buttons had popped .....

      I’m a text book screw up in public - best lesson turn into a joke and I agree with Annie nothing to fear after that ..




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      Marya1961 wrote May 4, 2011
    • Large crowds, food in my teeth and no one tells me (boy, that burns me up, take me aside and tell me), stomach growling, running out of something to say and the conversation falls flat.

      I could write a book!tongue out




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      Myrna Perez wrote May 4, 2011
    • I have social anxiety speaking in front of a group of people/crowd.




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      Angelcart wrote May 4, 2011
    • @ Vikki now that’s funny!  Oh come on now, tell the truth......that’s wasn’t you in the grocery store on isle 8?  LOL (just kidding!).  I’m sure we’ve ALL pushed our cart down an isle right after someone passed gas and thought “lordy!“.  And if there is someone still there they are usually looking at the label and acting like they don’t notice anything!ohhhh




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      Vikki Hall wrote May 4, 2011
    • LOL! Nope not me estatic




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      Cathie Beck wrote May 4, 2011
    • Only unknowingly talking to someone that is a friend of the almost X’s at a social event. I
      think I’ve done everything else listed and they‘re a part of my humorous past that I use to get others laughing. ;oD  

      Cathie




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      Maisen Mosley wrote May 4, 2011
    • Most definitely speaking in public!!




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      Tuliplady wrote May 4, 2011
    • Public speaking terrifies me.  I don’t mind getting up and reading something that someone else has written, or doing the Bible readings for church, but if it has to be my own words, yikes!!!!




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