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I gave up driving due to health issues. Sold my new jag that I truly loved bought my son a new truck and waiting for hubby to choose new car. This was all before I realized how dependent you must become on son/hubby. Not that they haven’t taken me everywhere I want to go. But now I’ve lost more independence and I can tell they grow tierd of it even though said nothing.
Doctors said my seizures should be gone even with the bone cancer leading to more tumors. And possibility of seizures could come back.
Would you drive again? Keeping in mind I need to buy car again but that’s not the problem. Scared I’d have seizure and kill someone. Although minimal since tumor they removed causing them.
What would you do




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      Mztracy wrote May 9, 2011
    • I wouldn’t




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      Tuliplady wrote May 9, 2011
    • I don’t think I’d take the chance.




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      Cheekymonkey wrote May 9, 2011
    • I know. I don’t even know why I asked. Maybe i asked hoping I was wrong.... But I know whats the right thing to do and I’ve said thousand of times the right thing is never the easiest thing to do. But it’s killing me that I’m becomeing less and less of me. I know it sounds whinnying is being done here and maybe it is but I’m lossing me.
      It’s just a small thing to some but to me it’s HUGE....
      But thank you for honesty I knew the answer before I asked.
      I’ll never risk anothers life.
      I’m just so damn stuck but hell that’s what buses are for right!
      I am going to buy a bus pass that’s the right thing to do.
      C




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      Mary Clark wrote May 9, 2011
    • Cris...I’m very sure giving up driving...that bit of independence is extremely hard.  It would be for me.  But I agree with everyone else...driving and possibly have a seizure and having an accident or hurting or killing someone else would be devastating.  A very much unneeded stress.  It’s just not worth it.  

      You are doing the right thing.




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      Cheekymonkey wrote May 10, 2011
    • The right thing sucks lol but what else can I do? Nothing I know it. It just bites and this is the beginning. I know there is far worse that people here and other have to endure and I’m sorry this is a petty thing but at this moment in time it just sucks.




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      Mzd3 wrote May 10, 2011
    • Its not petty...would be hard for anyone to give up their independence. I had to stop driving for 3 months after my surgery (right ankle) and even that was tough for me, because I had to depend on others to do for me. And yes, it does suck..




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      Frannie1964 wrote May 10, 2011
    • I don’t drive at all but then again I never have. (Fear of driving) yes there are actually people who have that fear. I have been taking the public bus sence I was in elementry school. (Latch key kid)...lol, what can I say. But I am pretty sure it’s hard for those who have been driving to just stop. I know it was very hard for my Father-n-Law to stop driving after he had a stroke. He still says he wants to drive but he cannot. If you feel you don’t want too or that you cannot, then you shouldn’t. I am also sure if you are not able to your doctor would also let you know it’s not a good Idea and he would say so.




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      Vikki Hall wrote May 10, 2011
    • Cris I wouldn’t do it! Is that bit of independence worth all the risk? Frannie doesn’t seem held back by not driving. So look at all the other options out there and the impact you are making on the environment too!!!




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      Denise Richardson wrote May 10, 2011
    • Cris, if you know there could be a possibility of you driving and causing an accident I personally won’t take the chance of killing myself or someone else, honey I know its a life threatening thing but, don’t rush it, take responsibility for yourself and do the right thing which will lead to helping someone else, don’t drive honey, don’t drive, I’m sure you feel helpless and feel the family is growing tired of you which they shouldn’t be tell them if the shoe were on the other foot howwould they feeland how would they respond if you had to take them all about with an attitude? Try not to stress of this I know its hard but do the right thing and not drive, is there anyone else you can call on for chauffering you around? Will your health insurance pay for someone to come and drive for you?




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      Kandykahne 5 wrote May 10, 2011
    • Cris, I agree...I would not take the chance and drive. If it were me even though it would be hard not driving I personally would not take the chance.hearthappy




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      Cathie Beck wrote May 10, 2011
    • I agree too, Cris. I am a bit of a stubborn independent woman, but I can’t take that to the level of risking someone else’s life that I have no right to risk. My brother’s girlfriend of 10 years has seizures even after surgery to remove part of her brain. She feels the way you do about the loss of freedom, but goes beyond it into self destruct behaviour. It’s hard for us to understand why she doesn’t want to embrace life for every blessed moment instead of seeing a death sentence in front of her. We love her dearly!  

      None of us got a garuantee of our life span when we started.  

      Live, love and laugh!

      Hugs,
      Cathie




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      Angelcart wrote May 10, 2011
    • Cris I wouldn’t.  I really feel for you being in this situation.  My best friends husband went through the same ordeal and he was told not to drive.  We came home one day he had taken off in the truck.  She was SO WORRIED!  She fretted so much on whether to sell his truck or not and finally had to (medical bills and she didn’t want him driving).  It was so hard to witness as he too felt the last of his independence was taken away.heart




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      Marya1961 wrote May 10, 2011
    • Cris, of course it is difficult not being able to get around by yourself...with having to share a vehicle right now with my son, I know the feeling...but, if your family is willing to take you where you need and want to go, then that is a very good thing.

      Is there a reliable bus service or cab service in your area?




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      Kyah wrote May 10, 2011
    • I’m not a driver either, and depend on public transportation. If I miss the last bus, I have 3 taxi numbers in my cell phone, so I will get home.

      You may qualify for Access-A-Ride, since it’s a medical situation that hinders you from driving. I would check into it if I were you, esp. to get to and from your doctor appointments.




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      Cheekymonkey wrote May 10, 2011
    • I haven’t driven in awhile and I won’t. Doctor said I should be able but can’t guarantee and I sold my car. Already got my bus pass lol my son and hubby do drive me around.
      I love all of you for your honesty and I took none of it wrong. I would have told someone else exactly what I was told.
      It’s like you know the answer but you want a different one.
      My greatest fear is I’d hurt or kill someone else and your right I couldnt live with that.
      I took myself off the car insurance for both cars my sons and my hubby’s I even called the DMV and tomorrow I will get a ca I.d card and cut my licience.
      No, driving is no longer an option. And I know it.
      I really did love to drive and when I sold my dream car it was less than a year old with only 300 miles on it. I haven’t drove in a long time since I went in the hospital and left with seizures.
      Sigh . The right thing is always the hardest thing I’ll say again lol
      Good thing the bus drops me off right on campus because I’m still going back to school! I am all signed up for classes but I am taking most online. Glad university offers that. But I want to get out of house for at least two classes. I’m determined.
      Thank you all.




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      Mary Clark wrote May 10, 2011
    • Cris...I admire your determination!! And you‘re right...the “right thing” to do is sometimes the “hardest thing” to do.  

      Your decisions speak highly of yourself. I’m honored to have met you...even if it’s just online.  hearthappy




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