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How do you help someone who has fallen so deep into a hole from life? My sister inlaw calls me so much seeking answers and I have given her the ultimate answer which is God and her faith because she is a Christian, but she keeps talking about being oppressed and all sorts of other negative things. I’m at a loss for what to do for her I love her and care for her well-being but she just can’t seem to get a grasp on life again?

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      Denise Richardson wrote May 17, 2011
    • I have been praying for her with her as well as touching and agreeing with her in the spirit that the Lord will deliver her out of her personal hell, but again with this she has to put her faith to work as well, she is so lost right now.frownheartbreak




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      Mzd3 wrote May 17, 2011
    • I would advise her to see her Dr. She may benifit from anti depressant meds, or some talk therapy.




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      Mary Clark wrote May 17, 2011
    • Neicy she does sound like she needs some professional help as well.




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      Msj wrote May 17, 2011
    • yes a doctor definately but also you can try telling her not to talk to you until after she comes up with at least one possible solution. That you love her dearly but she has to put some energy into self help. I hope that doesn’t sound to harsh.

      I don’t mean to be ugly.




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      Denise Richardson wrote May 17, 2011
    • @Msj, Mary and Dianne, all of your replies are valid and everything you have said has been tried she is currently on meds and is currently seeing a doctor, she was going to be placed in an institution but there isn’t one which would benefit her here in Michigan. Here main thing is that she has lost herself in my brother when they were together but now that he has left her she has lost herself totally.




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      LaTosha Brown wrote May 17, 2011
    • Neicy,

      Darkness is a bad place to be in but sometimes God uses the experience to help us grow.  Perhaps this is her Dark Night of the Soul to evlove into who she is really meant to be.  It is hard to see the people you love experience pain.  I am currently going through my own struggles.  All I can offer is what works for me so here is my list:

      1. Having someone to listen to me without judgement.  It can be a  friend, relative or pyschologist.

      2. Surrounding myself with beautiful things.  Flowers, sunlight, beautiful spaces, poetry, music, etc.

      3.  A bonafide pity party.  My girlfreinds sometimes give me a 2-3 hour pity party with ice cream, cookies, cake, crying spells, vent sessions.  And it works.

      4. Prayer or a spiritual word.

      She keeps calling you because she needs a space to vent but she may be looking for a deposit of a word.  You are gifted in that area.

      You will know exactly what to do.




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      Denise Richardson wrote May 17, 2011
    • WOW!!! LaTosha, you are so right as I type this I have been on the phone with her all this time and for everything I have said to her has opened up some insight for her and she is laughing and talking and quoting scriptures and everything. This is working thus far but she is still needing some help. Thank you so much!hearthappy




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      Mary Clark wrote May 17, 2011
    • Latosha...love your list!!heart




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      Frannie1964 wrote May 17, 2011
    • heartheart I do hope she finds her way again. Sometimes we do get lost and need a little push into the right derection and having you as a sister-N-law Neicy who is willing to listen each time is a wonderful start.




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      Vikki Hall wrote May 17, 2011
    • Neicy thx for asking this question!

      I can’t answer your question but the answers here may help me with my sister.

      She has fallen into that deep hole and does not have the wherewithall to climb out. I am trying to get her down here with me for a few weeks out of the MI gray and into some sunshine.

      Altho my niece has said she is already trying to make excuses to get out of coming.

      Please add my sister to your prayers as I will keep your SIL in mine.




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      Denise Richardson wrote May 17, 2011
    • Hello Vikki, I will definitely keep your sister in my prayers what is her 1st name? The reason I posted this was because my sister inlaw calls me off and on for spiritual support and of course I’m always there to be a help to her,but she has been in this dark hole for over 2 years and I feel enough is enough! Part of her problem is she has isolated herself from people and the world and when you make a prison for yourself from the outside world you begin to talk to as well as answer yourself I know it may sound crazy to some but this is so true, she is hearing voices which I truly know it is her own self conscious speaking back to her, and she was such an on fire for Christ woman, but as we chatted on the phone which ended up to be 3 hours I could tell all she needed was someone to talk to her as well as listen and not pass judgement on her and she began to let go and speak with such clarity and dignity which I think she loses when she tries to speak to those family members and friends who otherwise ridicule her, but she did well today, I just need her to step out of herself and let go of the past and move forward if she would only stop thinking everyone is looking at her and making fun of her, she has a horrible phobia that everyone is looking at her in a funny way or something.




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      Mary Clark wrote May 17, 2011
    • Vikki will add your sister to my prayer list....depression is an awful place to be....frown




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      Denise Richardson wrote May 19, 2011
    • Our visit went very well I posted it in my latest blog.




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