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My friends soon to be new spouse doesn’t like me or want me at the wedding. But the rest of my family can go.
What would you say to them?




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      Mztracy wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • Does your friend want you there?




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • It’s alittle different. My friend of over ten yrs is named Michael. Mark and him get along great. He’s been to my in laws for turkey day. He’s like a real good friend.
      Until her. She is 14 yrs his junior. He’s 43.
      She doesn’t like our friendship. I have been respectful of their relationship. So anyway bottom line is I’m not invited but the rest of my family are.
      I have never done anything for her to act this way.
      Mike says she’s just insecure because her last husband cheated with friend.
      Ok not you and not me. Hell u spend more time with my husband.
      I don’t get it.
      He asked me to understand and hopes my family will go to wedding.
      This woman is snide and fake but I tried to get along but have no energy for her.
      But I’m mad and hurt.




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • Mztracy, he doesn’t want to upset his wife to be. And I get that so he asked me to understand.
      And I will respect that
      Just grrrr over Controling woman




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      Mztracy wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • In that case, no one would go!




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • He asked Mark to be a groomsman this morning. I just found this out 5 min ago when Mark called me. Mark declined. Him and Mark became good friends also. I feel bad because Mark is on the shier side and doesn’t make new friends as easy lol
      Do we send a gift?
      Damn I really love weddings too! Lol




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      Mztracy wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • OMG, no gift no congrats nuttin‘!! tongue out




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      Angelcart wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • I agree with MzT 100%.  If your not included then no one in your family should go.  Wow, she’s THAT insecure?  Best of luck to the newlyweds!ohhhh




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      Frannie1964 wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • Mark shouldn’t feel bad for declining. He’s doing it to make you (his wife) happy. Just like your male friend is telling you not to come to the wedding because he is wanting to make his future wife happy as well. So Mark should not feel like he’s picking sides. And sence you are not going to the wedding, No gift and No congrats like tracy said..Nuttin!heart

      I just hope your friend’s soon to be wife lets her guard down and lets you be apart of their lives or that would be sad to lose a good friend because of someone’s insecurity.frown




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      Mzd3 wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • I agree with the other ladies...completely!




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      Daphne wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • IMO...this friend’s soon-to-be wife will be making many more decisions for your friend and don’t be surprised if she takes every opportunity to exclude you.  This friend has put your husband in a very precarious situation and FRIENDS DON‘T DO THAT.  If it was me and my family, i would not go (even if she changes her mind), my husband would tell the friend that he, too, is not attending as long as the invitation was not for both of you....because, afterall, you and your husband are a COUPLE.  As far as a gift is concerned, perhaps a semester or two of charm school would serve this friend’s new wife well.

      She sounds like someone who likes drama.  As for me, i do DO drama!




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      Msj wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • Well put Frannie. This is so sad.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • Ditto to what Frannie said, my family can’t go places that I can’t go!




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      Tracy Lynn Brown wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • Im totaly with the rest of the group.. you guys are really great btw.. I wasnt invited to my daughter in laws wedding shower, or to my grandsons baby showers, because my ex’s new wife didnt want me there.  And now those lil slaps in the face are getting alot worse. So i have to commend your hubbys view of not going, Good Man.




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • My husband wasn’t going to go even before mike asked him. And it’s I who felt bad for my husband not Mark feeling bad. I felt bad not about the wedding for mark but because mark really liked doing man stuff with him and no longer will because of the slap in the face.
      Im still more upset than mark for Michael and I have been really good friends through his 1st divorce, business ect but what can you do.
      I’m really surprised he had the balls to ask mark knowing how his soon to be jailer feels maybe he did that in hopes it would all work out. Still the wrong reasons
      But ladies all of you thank you.




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • I’d say you‘re a package deal! Can’t be split up.

      all or nothin’

      She’s putting your friend in a tough position - not a great way to start a marriage.




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      Anne E wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • Nobody go to the wedding!  No gift!  I would say that if Mark wanted to have a very occasional lunch with the husband only, that would be okay.  I have absolutely no doubt that this marriage will break up sooner or later.  It’s unconscionable to invite one spouse, but not the other to a wedding!

      BTW, my sister-in-law’s mom refused to go to her wedding if her ex-husband’s new wife came.  So stupid!




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      Vikki Hall wrote Jun 4, 2011
    • I wouldn’t do it!

      And really what kind of “friend” says one part of the family can go but not the other part???????




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      Cathie Beck wrote Jun 4, 2011
    • Man O’ man, Cris! I hope Michael knows what he’s getting himself into? Oh and I say no gift, no congrats to the couple too.  

      Hugs,
      Cathie




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      Monay wrote Jun 4, 2011
    • So sad! I am sure this is the beginning to the end of a great friendship.  I hope things gets better after he puts a ring on it.




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      Mary Clark wrote Jun 5, 2011
    • If this girl is acting like this...and he is allowing it..then..I don’t see any future in this relationship  and your friendship.  

      I say no one goes...and as far as a gift...well that is completely your decision.  You could give it to HIM.  I always say don’t bring yourself down to their level.  If you give a gift then they can’t ever go back and say you didn’t acknowledge their marriage or give a gift...you just didn’t go.  But I wouldn’t spend a lot of money though.  But that is if you feel led to do so.




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      Marya1961 wrote Jun 6, 2011
    • I agree with all the ladies, no one goes to the wedding..but if your hub wants to give him a gift, then by all means.

      This girl is quite immature.




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      Erinsway wrote Jun 7, 2011
    • OMG!!! Does she know that areteminally ill? How could she possibly look her fiance in the face is beyond me. I thought my marraige was bad (my making) but this one is doomed.




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