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How many here has started over from a marriage whether it failed or you just decided it was a mutal departure or relationship? I mean are you living on your own and supporting yourself? What was the hardest part for you starting over?

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      Tracy Lynn Brown wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • I think getting used to be alone is difficult, you grow to think of yourself as a “couple“, so you have to learn to be on your own and it being a “You” instead. And i think even if it is a mutual thing, you go thru your sadness, guilt feeling like a failure somewhat, though i beleive there is no failures in relationships, theres just growth. Sometimes that grownth means the end, and a new begining.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • Well my hubz and I had separated for 3 years and did not support each other in any way. Since I am independent by nature ( caused insecurities for him) I just surrounded myself with my family and friends and worked even more.

      The hardest part for me tho was when it came to car issues or home repair issues and either having to wait for when my family was free to help or being raped when I went to a professional.
      It wasn’t easy to being alone but it was apparently something we both needed at the time.




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      Tuliplady wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • Starting from scratch financially was tough, but not as tough as those rotten feelings of failure I went thru.




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      Anne E wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • The hardest parts were realizing I would never celebrate a 50th wedding anniversary, that there wouldn’t be someone by my side watching my daughter grow up, and not having someone I could count on in an emergency.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Jun 4, 2011
    • Neicy, I’m a “hot mess” health-wise so I can’t work since I’m no longer part of the business, but I’ve been managing life on $700 a month while waiting for the X to release his greedy grasp on Our income and property.  

      The hardest part for me was finding out after the divorce how little the X cared about me. I believed him when he said he wanted a divorce that he loved me, but wasn’t in love with me... and I wished him well because I cared about him. Then I wished he’d grow a heart so he could love somebody. I gave that up this past winter. ;oD  

      Ok, maybe the hardest part is feeling like I wasted 17 1/2 years and I can’t rewind to have them back.  

      Cathie




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      Msj wrote Jun 4, 2011
    • Neicy,

      My guy and I are not married yet  but have been together 6 yrs. with 2 break ups.

      The hard part for me was the last break up and discovering via my own introspection; MY  part in the issues that played a role in the split.

      NO, it wasn’t all my fault, however, when I changed my reactions, and he figured out similar ideas regarding himself, we are now able to communicate and appreciate one another in a way that is undescribable.

      I can not wait for our wedding.




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      Victorious wrote Jun 5, 2011
    • Msj I endorse what you said as hubby and I after 12 years of marriage was able to identify our negative contribution to our marriage that was going very fast down the tube this year. This have made us appreciate each other so much and we are closer than ever now. He is back at work over seas although we will not see each other for another 6 months, it is so much easier to deal withheart




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