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Who is tired o being a marital cheerleader? Is your marriage stressed out?




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      Tracy Lynn Brown wrote Jun 12, 2011
    • Im my sons, no matter how much i say i dont want in it. and yeah mine marrage is too, but i think it could be me. Im just not happy with myself




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      Peejay64 wrote Jun 12, 2011
    • I’m okay w/ myself, but it seems that everything he says/does bugs me. Aside from that the cranky, moody stuff comes and I’m stll supposed to be “available” for certain wants & needs. I’m seriously unhappy.




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      Tuliplady wrote Jun 13, 2011
    • Like Eva, I’ve been there.  

      You also have to ask yourself if your marriage is stressed out of if it’s your attitude that’s stressed out.

      I find that when I remind myself that I do not need this man or this marriage in my life, I choose to let them be part of my life, then the marital issues go away.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Jun 13, 2011
    • I was (note the past tense) and it’s a wonder I didn’t have pom poms too! Like Tulip, I’d chosen to have the marriage and the man, but in my case the man ended up deciding to end the marriage. (It’s a relief to me because was he always distant, cranky and moody.) Now I’m just my cheerleader. ;oD  

      Wishing you all the best.

      Cathie




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      Vikki Hall wrote Jun 13, 2011
    • I don’t stress in my marriage anymore. I used too but now I just say what I’m not happy about and what I would like changed. He complies or says what’s on his mind.




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      Jimmie wrote Jun 13, 2011
    • Know what you are feeling.  Still working on the soul searching and solution.




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      Angelcart wrote Jun 13, 2011
    • I don’t stress in my marriage much either.  I tell my husband what’s on my mind and he has his opinion too.  If we don’t agree we pretty much let it go.




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      Marya1961 wrote Jun 13, 2011
    • I hear ya, Vikki and Angel!  I don’t need anyone stressing me out, so when hub is in a mood, I walk out of the room.




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Jun 13, 2011
    • My husband has a big controlling personality so in order to avoid a heated exchange I tend to pick my battles. Quite frankly, though, sometimes it’s just exhausting.

      I’ve been quiet at home lately just keeping to myself. I’m doing things that I enjoy just for me. Not a perfect solution but for now it’s all the energy I have.

      I hope things get better for you soon, peejay!




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      Yashis wrote Jun 13, 2011
    • You are not alone.  We all have to be our own cheerleader to help us realize that  we are fabulous in or out of this marriage, job etc.    

      Pick your battles and voice your concerns whether he listens or not




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      Victorious wrote Jun 16, 2011
    • I was at that point too ...earlier this year....It was difficult as my hubby works abroad. We were so angry at each other and stressed.....I decided to make myself happy and did all the things I overlooked for so long to improve my self....It was the best thing I ever did in 15 years....When he came home I was a different person....I was much easier to talk to and we were able to talk about things that we needed to put out on the table...Yes there were moments we got real loud aboutit... but we had to get to that place to be where we are now.... in finding me that I lost ....We now have total respect for each other




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      Anonymous wrote Jul 18, 2011
    • I dunno.  the last two days we’ve been talking about separating from our 23 year marriage.  I had been doing the “for me” things thinking it would bring him out of his funk.  You know, the small changes in yourself bringing out big changes in each other theory?   But, He hates where we live, his job and is just miserable and I feel like we are spiriling downwards and I can’t help him (or us).

      Lots of soul searching here.  This cheerleader is losing her voice :(




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