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Why am i stuck, 7 yrs apart from my ex husband and i am not moving on. His new wife has drove a wedge between me and my son and i am the one that has t back down




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      Tuliplady wrote Jul 5, 2011
    • Carol, only you can answer why you haven’t moved on.  At some point you have to put the past firmly in the past, and smile at the world and say “look out, here I come.”




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      Carols65 wrote Jul 5, 2011
    • Hi Eva,
      Thanks for your advise, ur right as yet again i backed down today. I feel like i no longer matter in any of this. I have not dated in 7 yrs because when i try and move on it breaks down




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      Cathie Beck wrote Jul 6, 2011
    • Hi Carol,  

      I don’t have an answer for you, but I do wish for you to find out why you won’t move on and enjoy your new life and its start over opportunity.

      Until my divorce is final, I am stuck on the property with the X just down at his huge “man shop” that has an apt upstairs. I plan to move to another town as soon as the X will settle, and then it will be a good time for me to have a boyfriend. ;oD  

      He has a girlfriend, for over a year now. I smile and wave at her if our paths cross when she comes to see him. My thought is, “Better her than me!“.  The divorce was his idea, and he’s been holding up the divorce for over a year & a half. I feel held prisoner here.  

      So where do you feel you‘re at?  

      Cathie




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      Carols65 wrote Jul 6, 2011
    • Hi Cathie, like you  i feel prisoner.  I live in a different town but when i plan anything my ex changes it. He only has my son 1 weekend a mth but he either cancels changes. i  am scared all the time. Its my fault i am stuck i need to stand up and sort plans for my self




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      Cathie Beck wrote Jul 6, 2011
    • Carol, dear....

      I’m not scared all the time and I’m sorry you are. Blaming yourself for your X’s actions is so not going to get you where you want to be. I’m angry about being stuck here, I have plans and getting tired of waiting on doing them because that dump dick of an X is thinking that I’m going to cave, that he thinks he’s not pissing me off. I’ve got news for him, my attorney is pissed off too.... and look out! LOL  

      You do need to stop feeling stuck and stand up for yourself, get some legal advice. That man has no rights to frighten you and change visitations at the last moment. He doesn’t have a key to your house and if he tries being dumb with violence, a 911 call will deflate his balloon of dominating you. My 1st husband kicked in my door only once and then he had to deal with going to court for a domestic violence charge.  

      I wish you all the best and please keep in touch. I care about you.  

      Cathie




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