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I have a dumb question. My soon to be x ’s birthday is August 1. That is also the day the x is finally out of the house. The x turns the big 60. That’s a milestone and my kids think that way also. Should I give the x a birthday card with all that is happening? I am concerned how the kids may view it if I don’t. I am I just feeling guilty or stupid or both?


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      Mztracy wrote Jul 25, 2011

    • what Annie said!



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      Tuliplady wrote Jul 25, 2011

    • What do you  want to do?  Really, that's what matters.  

       If you hate his guts and would rather see him underneath your car tires, why give him a card?  If you‘re having a somewhat amicable divorce and don’t totally hate him, why not give him a card?

      Tulip



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      Vonniegirl wrote Jul 25, 2011

    • I have a few days yet so I have some time to weigh the situation. I think what is most concerning is not if the x is angry, could care less or is grateful but how my daughters may react. I know it’s really between the two of us. We are trying to remain amicable but there are those days. Thanks ladies and I will take your comments to heart.



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      Momofthreeprincess wrote Jul 25, 2011

    • MMM no if the kids want to then by all means suggest it to them and you can help them but as far as throwing a party no I wouldn’t.  Explain your position to the kids and if they can not accept it then they will get over it sooner or later.  I have a decent relationship with my kids father but still will not go out of my way to throw him a party buy him a gift or pretty much anything else.  I do tell him Happy Birthday ( just to remind him that he is getting older), Merry Christmas or what ever other holiday it is.



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      Mamapan wrote Jul 26, 2011

    • Do you think the kids would really notice if you did/didn’t give him a card?  

      Is he going to walk around announcing “Vonniegirl got me (didn’t get me) a card!!”

      If he’s the ex, then I don’t think you are obliged to, but it’s a nice gesture.  

      Additionally, I’m assuming by his age that your kids are old enough to recognize that if you are exes, that it’s not a big deal that you don’t get him a card.



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      Cathie Beck wrote Jul 26, 2011

    • Just me, but I wouldn’t get him a card simply because the cord has but cut, it’s over and very likely it’s best for both that it’s over. Your girls can give him cards because he is still their father, but you‘re not obligated to.  

      Cathie



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      Cc-u wrote Jul 26, 2011

    • Take the high road; get him a card with civil greetings.



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      Butterflyrose wrote Jul 26, 2011

    • Be kind to yourself. Do what will bring you peace-to please yourself or your children? As women, we have a tendency to be “people pleasers“. Follow your heart.



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