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I need help, my boyfriend, just told what we are not having time for ourself, that we need to have time to do our own thinks. He is going to an other state this weekend and we and to go without me, do you think he want to break up with me? of really just time so we can miss each other like he said? help




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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 27, 2011
    • Well I can’t really second guess what his intention is. I would just ask without being accusatory. And then I would make plans for you to do things together and separately.

      Good luck!




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      Tuliplady wrote Jul 27, 2011
    • We all need our alone time.  Some people need more than others.




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jul 27, 2011
    • Perhaps only time can tell and please do not jump into any conclusion or start to act up.  It is hard but be cool about it and see how it turns out.




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      Mzd3 wrote Jul 28, 2011
    • good answers above, I agree.




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      Ivegon1 wrote Jul 28, 2011
    • thank you all. yes it is hard but I would do my best to be cool and wait to see how everything work.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Jul 28, 2011
    • I couldn’t tell you by one weekend trip on his own, and I agree with Tulip that we all need our own alone time to do just what we feel like doing by ourself. I wouldn’t panic.  

      Cathie




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      UK Girl wrote Jul 28, 2011
    • I agree with the ladies - how do you feel about time on you own




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      Msj wrote Jul 28, 2011
    • Another Agree!heart




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      Frannie1964 wrote Jul 29, 2011
    • I can understand what your boyfriend is saying. We do need our alone/private time now and then. It’s better then smothering each other to where you can’t breathe. My husband and I tend to do our own thing when we need time away. He will go on his 3 day fishing trips and I will go either to a friend’s place for the weekend and have girls night or to Vegas with a friend. But when hubby and I do get together, we feel good to see each other and do things together.happy




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      Ivegon1 wrote Jul 29, 2011
    • the reason why I’m not to sure it is because his ex is calling him a lot. she was sexual abuse last weekend and now , she is using this as an excuse to calling. I understand  that what just happen to her is not easy but it is that I know she still have felling for him because she had send him text messenger more then one time.  I was with him today and she calling during that time too. I was in the phone and I saw the call. I talked to him what he is thinking , and how he would feel if my ex call me at time and more knowing that he still has feeling for me,I asking if he would like it. And he talked me that he would not like it. and I said what we are going to do because I don’t know how long I  can go like this. He told me that he was just giving her sometime for the incident she had but that he would talk to her to stop calling him so our relationship don’t be affect for this.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Jul 30, 2011
    • I can relate to how you feel because my X’s girlfriend has to deal with his unresolved issues with me, but I wouldn’t call him unless it pertained to the house we owned together up till July 26th. I have family to call.  

      I’m sorry for your boyfriend’s X being assaulted, but surely she has someone else to call? I
      don’t know your story of how long it’s been and if he’s over it, but to me just the start of a divorce means it’s over. Maybe that’s the topic to bring up with him? Is it over for him?  

      Wishing you the best in this situation.  

      Cathie




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      Marya1961 wrote Aug 1, 2011
    • I guess time will tell.




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      Ivegon1 wrote Aug 2, 2011
    • yes, I know. to clear, he is  getting divorce for his ex wife, they were separated for almost 3 years and just know he is doing the divorce process.  the ex who i’m talking about was just his girlfriend.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Aug 3, 2011
    • Oh! Correct me if I’m wrong, but it sounds to me the X girlfriend was part of his life after the wife he’s now divorcing almost 3 years ago after their separation?  

      He sounds like he has a letting go issue by still being involved with women of his past, so now I don’t know what to think of his telling you he wants time alone.  

      Wishing you the best of possibilities.  

      Cathie




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      Ivegon1 wrote Aug 3, 2011
    • he is marry and separated for more than 3 years, after that relationship, he had a girlfriend and she is the ex who is calling and trying to get in contact with him all the time. He is getting divorce now, he just start the process.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Aug 4, 2011
    • Hi Ivegon1,

      My finally divorced X is on girlfriend #2, and he tried to claim it was me holding up the divorce, but reality is he filed for divorce and then just sat on it. My attorney is the one I can credit with getting me out of here 19 months later. I didn’t like being stuck here and I can’t definitely tell you what was behind the X’s inaction to finish off the divorce he filed for. Maybe money, maybe he couldn’t let me go yet? Scared of not having me as his “fall back on” comfort zone? Or an excuse for not committing to Girlfriend #2?  

      Cathie




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