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If you had unresolved issues with a friend from your past that did not care how you felt, would you let it go or would you find it to be a catharsis to let them know so you‘re completely free.....

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      Mztracy wrote Jul 30, 2011
    • If I no longer had contact with said person, I’d leave it alone. No use bringing them back in.

      If we still communicated, I’d let them know how it made me feel when they did not care. Then let it go...




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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 30, 2011
    • If you feel like they don’t care then why waste your emotional energy??

      This is the o e thing that I read repeatedly that MEN don’t like about women..... We bring up things from the past. So now I try to deal with MY feelings In the here and now.




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      Sandils1962 wrote Jul 30, 2011
    • Ditto mztracy and vikki




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      Msj wrote Jul 30, 2011
    • Well put. I ended a friendship of 18 yrs. and I feel like a weight has been lifted.  Sure at times I miss what used to be -then reality sets in.

      I realize I am in a better place.




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Jul 30, 2011
    • If it’s clear they don’t care then I’d not bring it up.




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Jul 31, 2011
    • heart it would probally hurt you more and why put yourself through it. Being happy and moving on is your winning.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Jul 31, 2011
    • I go with whay the majority has already said why go there walk away and move forward.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Jul 31, 2011
    • Just let it go. To say something would be trying to get in the last word to feel like you win and it’s not healthy to need to always win in relationships.  

      Cathie




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      Butterfly13 wrote Jul 31, 2011
    • Thank you all so much for your answers. I was questioning my mortality -lately in our local news so many untimely deaths everytime you turn on the tv. My mom died way too soon from cancer.  I thought if anything happens to me, have I let everyone know how I feel both good/bad?  I had only one person that I felt was unresolved/still opened needed to close to come full circle.  Even knowing she did not care-it was to release me of carrying the burden holding on to it.  We were friends for well over 25 yrs since age 13.




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      Saylor101 wrote Aug 31, 2011
    • I think it’s important for friends to understand - or at least hear how you feel and why with issues regarding our friendship...(previous or past) -  

      You may not truly know or understand thier side or feeling either*.  Sometimes you have to let them know for your sense of self and closure... even if it is a futal point and they are unable to accept it, hear it, believe it, or humbly accept it...

      Opening old things can be frustrating, sorrowful, and even hurtful - Weigh it out for you, know why it’s important to you - a card or letter may be healthier then face-to-face.

      *i’ve learned the hard way that some people truly can not hear you- no matter what approach you take, either thier mind is set, they are self abosorbed, or simply just are not WHO you think they were any longer...




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