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I lost my Mom on june 1 2011 very sad when will I stop crying at night and be aloud to sleep all night?



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Aug 21, 2011
    • I’m so sorry for your loss. All of us grieve in different ways; it’s such a personal thing. There’s no telling when the hurt will begin to subside. Most important thing is you‘re allowing yourself to feel this in your own way and in your own time. Perhaps, also, midlife is contributing to the emotions. In any event, I’m very sorry for your loss and hope that the hurt you feel will eventually be replaced by sweet loving memories.heart




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      Denise Richardson wrote Aug 21, 2011
    • Ditto to what Choc said, and I’ll add to that no one csan determine when they will stop grieving over a lost loved one I lost my mom in 1999 and I still weep over her some nights. You never truly get over losing a loved one it just gets easier to manage without them as the day go by, but God will help you get through it just lean on him, he is near.happy




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      Jc2222 wrote Aug 21, 2011
    • I am sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom and Dad in 2004 within two days of each other. Grief is a personal thing. We all go through it differently, but we all experience the same stages. How you progress is entirely up to you and it is important to go through it at your own pace. Losing a parent isn’t something you actually “get over“. You just learn to live with it. There are still days when I will hear a song on the radio and think of Mom or Dad and that ache in my heart starts all over again. I will suggest you look for some books on grief at the library. John Bradshaw has a book on tape that I got at the library about grief. It really helped. Good luck to you.




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      Diane17 wrote Aug 21, 2011
    • I am very sorry for your loss.  Like others said previously, grief is a personal experience and people grieve in different ways.  I too lost my Mom in July 2007 and I think my grief experience was different than my brother’s.  My brother gave me a pretty good book, “Grieving the Death of a Mother” by Harold Ivan Smith.
      Good Luck!




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      Vonniegirl wrote Aug 21, 2011
    • So Sorry for your loss. I am not sure when the grief subsides and lets you live with the good memories rather than the said feeling of loss. I lost my father in 1991 and still to this day I miss him so much. But somewhere along the way my feelings turned into wonderful memories of him and my love for him is still deep within me. I never want to loss them ever. Your grief will change and you will grow stronger every day. Always keep her close in your heart and mind.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Aug 22, 2011
    • I am so sorry for your loss heartbreak

      As the ladies have already said it takes time. And the time is different for everyone.

      My sisters and I all lost our mom on the same day however we each mourned her loss differently. One of my sisters is still mourning her and my mom passed in Jan 2008.

      There is no time frame or limit. But I do find that talking about my mom helped me. I do know that the fabulous women of Fab40 listened whenever I posted things about my mom. So that helped me. Also I keep memories of my mom around. Her favorite book, knick knack, piece of jewelry, etc. It helps me to still “hear” her.

      Take your time heart




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      Connie Wray wrote Aug 22, 2011
    • It SUCKS, no sugar coating that’s the way I felt. I lost 7 family members in only a few years.I was so NUMB! What helped were actually the funerals. More to the point the days after were as helpful. There was the feeling of support from the people that came to the funeral and at the wake we talked about the stories and memories. I heard things about my loved ones I hadn’t heard before. It was bittersweet but I was grateful for those memories that others shared. These were of course, positive,funny stories that bring a smile to me when I am missing them. I dreamt about my mom the most afterward. The dreams were sporadic and never specific.Once after my dad died I had emergency surgery. As I went under I felt my dad’s presence. I told him I was scared and in a dream state I looked up above my left shoulder and his hand was there. I reached up and he took my hand. Your mom IS STILL THERE! Believe and it shall be. The road is as long as you need it to be. Take your time and be kind to yourself. Try thinking of a positive memory when you‘re missing her. I bet she would be sad to know you were so depressed. Look for local grief groups and make yourself go. It’s the first time going that’s the hardest. One foot in front of the other. One day at a time. Do something daily to keep your mind busy. Feel free to directly message me if you want to talk. Good luck, Connie




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      Cc-u wrote Aug 22, 2011
    • I lost my dad in 2009 then 1 year later my aunt.  I still can’t sleep great (though I never was a good sleeper).  I try to focus only on breathing & sometimes tar helps.  I’ve also been doing genealogy & that’s been a neat way to connect to our family tree.




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      Louisaf wrote Oct 23, 2011
    • I agree with the above. I really feel for you and hope you will feel better in time, which you will. I am very close to my mom and can’t even think of what I would do without her, grief is something we will all face at some point in our lives. I hope you are managing. Xx




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      Marion Licchiello wrote Nov 10, 2011
    • I’m really sorry for your loss... I lost my dad July 12th and I can usually bounce back quickly.. this is a toughie.. it feels like it’s never going to end even though it is getting better and better each day... just when I thought it was getting better my favorite uncle/godfather passed away on November 2nd... OH BOY...  I lost both my parents in the past 3.5 years and some days I feel lost and some days I feel great... I miss my daddy so much though.  He was my bestest friend...we Instant messaged all day.  I taught him at 80 how to use the computer.  

      Has it gotten any better since your post? I’m sure it has... mine has... I still break down and ball sometimes and woke up crying in the middle of the nigh last night but it’s definitely much better.

      I do find the first of everything is harder though.. his birthday was Nov 7th - that was hard.. now the holidays...but I made a decision I am still having them.  how bout’ you?




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