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Are you a smoker by chance?  

Please don’t tell me to quit - I am not ready!  

So I am not showing my face here.

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      Feathermaye wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • May 2009 will be 5 years since I quit smoking. I still smoked in my dreams (and I’m being serious!) until about 3 years ago.

      Quitting was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. I’d been a smoker since I was 13 years old.

      In moments of extreme stress (fewer and fewer of those, thank goodness) I still think I want one, but I really don’t.

      When a customer comes into my office and I can smell the cigarettes on them some (and some are waaaay worse than others), I’m always happy I quit.




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      Mztracy wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • No need to be anonymous. happy

      I can tell you from experience, you have to be the one wanting to quit. If you quit for others it does not work. I smoked since I was 14.

      I am going on 3 years smoke free. Hubz is going 4 years.

      I quit for both my pregnancies, then about 5mos after started back up.
      I always asked friends if they minded me smoking when with them. If they did I would not smoke, or I would go outside. I never smoked around people when they were eating, etc.

      We never smoked in the house, only the garage.

      My son goes to one of his friends homes and when he comes home we make him shower. The smell is so nasty. I always smell his breath to make sure it is not him. This kids mom and dad both smoke and in the home.  

      I loved smoking....it was relaxing for me. It gave something to do. And well I just liked it. I could easily go back and told my hubz that when the kids go off to college, I am going to smoke again. lol  

      I find, for me, not smoking makes me feel better. With my MS smoking made it worse, so mine was also more of a health reason. Yet, it was also, to hopefully show my kids that is not a good thing to do.  

      Like any other addiction, you have to want to quit. When you‘re ready you will. estatic




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      Daphne wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • I smoked from the time i was about 16 till i became pregnant with my first child (age 27).  I rarely smoked at home...most of my smoking was at work, in the car and when i was drinking.  I guess that would classify me as having been a social smoker?

      After i "quit", I would have a cigarette every now and then when i was out drinking until about 5 years ago.  Now, it makes me sick to smoke...and actually makes me sick to WATCH someone else smoke.  I'm that  adverse to it!

      My husband quit smoking in August of 2006 after smoking 28 years!  He has slipped up a few times but got right back on the wagon.  I’m very proud of him and i don’t miss the smell of cigarettes on his clothes, his hands, or his breath.  Even HE notices when a smoker passes by, and sometimes comments to me that he can’t believe he didn’t realize that he smelled just like that for so many years.




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      Daphne wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • Oops, i forgot to mention...

      GOOD JOB Feathermaye and MzTracy!




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      Mztracy wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • When I said ‘no need to be anonymous’ I meant that it is ok to smoke, and not be ready to quit and never be ashamed of it. lol It was not meant in a bad or anything.

      When I smoked people always made me feel bad. lol Even still, I smoked, so must not have felt that bad.

      In this site, I feel there is no need to be anonymous, but hey if it easier then go for it. It’s not actually a problem to get over though, as I tend to say what I say and others need to get over that. lol




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      Deborah Todd wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • I smoked for 23 years but quit 3 years ago after getting upper respiratory infections and developed asthma. I understand completely how difficult it is to quit. I think the thing that actually helped me to quit is I was sick for so long and taking medication; when I did get well, I was done with it all.  

      When you really truly want to quit...it will happen.




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      Djd258 wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • Hi, I am a smoker. I’ve smoked since I was 13, stopped for all my pregnancies and picked it up within a week afterward.  

      I really don't like it, I *hate* the smell, I only smoke in the house when my kids go away (which isn't often), and even then I usually don't I go outside. I brave the cold and the heat if I want one and have for almost 17yrs.
      If I do smoke inside I’m a maniac trying to get rid of the smell.

      If I’m not smoking I’m snacking or at least thinking of snacking until I smoke a cigarette happy. I want to quit and often find I’m promising myself I will. I often have so much time on my hands that it keeps me company. But the reality is I have no will power to do it.

      Sooo was there a reason you asked? or just curious?




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      Leeann wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • I will scare you so you may want to stop! my mom is dying because she smoked! I don’t share much about this but I have a tumor on my right lung that they have been watching for 4 years now.




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      Daphne wrote Dec 28, 2008
    • wow, leeann...if that’s not a wake-up call i don’t know what is!

      XOXOX




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      Mztracy wrote Dec 28, 2008
    • Annie, no problems. I said in one of your blogs, i take things to personally. lol

      See, my new years resolution! estatic

      leeann, I am so sorry!! keeping you and your mom in my thoughts!




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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Dec 28, 2008
    • My mom smoked all her life - over 40 years. They told her to quit or plan her funeral. She had tried unsuccessfully before that to quit, but when they had to take out a dead kidney due to hardened arteries, and the other was only partially functional... she quit, and has never looked back.
      It breaks my heart that my oldest daughter has picked up the habit, and I pray that she quits. She knows all the heath reasons that she shouldn’t, but I have little influence now that she has moved out.
      Quitting must be very hard. I don’t know if I could ‘quit’ chocolate, and I know that nicotine is far more addicting. I am so proud of my mom - and all the other Fab ladies here that have quit. Sometimes moral support is helpful. Being anonymous here is okay, but if you want to quit, find someone who can support you and cheer you on. :)




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      Leeann wrote Dec 28, 2008
    • Yes girls I had a wake- up call. I am not one to share but I will . Four years ago in April I was running up the stairs in my home, when I couldn’t breath I was rush to the Dr. where They ran a chest x-ray , Yes they found a tumor in my right lung. I had to have a scan of my whole body which then I was told I had ovarian cancer. I had many other test to say yes I had cancer. It was the worst weekend of my life I was trying to make Easter baskets for the kids,all I could think was this will be the last basket I make. I had a full hysterectomy. They sent the tumors in to lab to be tested. They came out negative.,The Dr was amazed . They call me their walking miracle! I still have a tumor in my lung. I have it scanned all time. It has stayed the same size for four years now. It would be more harmful for me to have it removed. So ladies I am thankful for everyday I wake up. I really try to take a negative and turn it into a positive. I really think if you want to live a long and happy life , taking care of the one body you have is important! Many smiles to all .




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      Anonymous wrote Dec 28, 2008
    • Thank you for all your comments.  I do understand all the consequences.  Again, I am not ready.  I really want to seek out some smokers friends here if you can all understand.  This way I can have my own support group - to vent, to share the fake joy, to share our embarrassed moments and so on, so forth.  

      I do appreciate your all and I really look forward to knowing more smokers here.  Do I make sense to you?




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      Leeann wrote Dec 28, 2008
    • I think it is your choice, I just wanted to help. Just because I not a smoker doesn’t mean I am not a nice person.
      Many smiles.




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      Anonymous wrote Dec 28, 2008
    • I don’t mean to come cross negatively.  I do appreciate all your suggestion and being passionate to help out.  Thank you.  You are all nice and amazingly friendly and caring.




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