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Heard this one on the radio: Do you feel it is a must that the wife/woman keep a stash of money hidden for emergencies more so than the husband or significant other without telling him?

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      Saylor101 wrote Sep 1, 2011
    • “hidden“?
      I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship where I would HAVE to HIDE anything...but realize that some people are in that situation...

      I think it is vital to save for and keep a nest egg or cush for incidentals, TRUE emergencies... If you get lucky and have no need to use it for a year or so - PUT 75% toward a vacation and start saving again!




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      Kyah wrote Sep 1, 2011
    • If I was dependent on just my partner’s income, I’d stash some for emergencies. But if I’m making my own, it would just be my rainy day fund.




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      Butterflyrose wrote Sep 1, 2011
    • Succinctly put Kyah.

      The words “hidden” and “without telling him” sends up red flags in this relationship. In this case, it is better to be safe than sorry. Save, hide, stash that money, from what I predict a storm is brewing and coming soon! This may not be an emergency but could be your life!

                            Butterflyrose

                 I am so blessed! My family is the best!




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      Lazylola wrote Sep 1, 2011
    • If the writing is on the wall then by all means do what you need to do...I was in that situation and I did just that, I had kids I needed to think about.




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      Tuliplady wrote Sep 1, 2011
    • I have a friend who lives in a marriage where I advise her about once a week to get some money stashed away that he doesn’t know about and can’t touch.

      Unfortunatley this question is not outdated.  ATM’s do no good if your spouse has drained your account.

      Over the years I’ve been in a position to mentor a lot of girls who are headed into marriage or a relationship and I tell every single one of them to have a seperate checking account that is just hers and hers alone that no man can ever touch.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Sep 1, 2011
    • [Link Removed] this question was just asked on the radio yesterday lol.


      Neicy, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Sep 1, 2011
    • Having been divorced and separated I understand the question. And while I don’t feel the need to stash money now I do have a separate savings that I put money into. My hubz is not listed on the account but I go over my statements monthly. And if a rainy day comes along well I will be prepared.

      On a side note tho... this is where I use money to help my daughter or sister that lives in Michigan. I don’t take from the joint account.




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      Tuliplady wrote Sep 1, 2011
    • I’d say the emergency would be getting away from him, having the financial ability to leave if you need to.




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Sep 1, 2011
    • I have my own money but any time he wants to know how much there is in my own account, all he has to do is ask. If there was an emergency, I’d just use money in our joint account.




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      Anne E wrote Sep 1, 2011
    • Yes- especially if things aren’t going well.




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      Tuliplady wrote Sep 2, 2011
    • MoSher, we do that too.  His and hers.  It works best for us that way.




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      Saylor101 wrote Sep 2, 2011
    • there are still a lot of relationships out there where the women does NOT get any control of the cash - if she doesn’t earn any of the $ herself.  NOT fair, but true.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Sep 2, 2011
    • Annie thats the million dollar question! Why stay?

      I think more women are willing to open up about abuse or whatever may cause them to run but I think there are still slot of hiding out there.




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      Mztracy wrote Sep 2, 2011
    • Depends on why she feels the need to hide it.
      Abusive situation, something special for her. I could not do it as my hubz and I share all.




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      Kyah wrote Sep 2, 2011
    • I know the share everything aspect with marriage is something many women like to keep to, but it wouldn’t be me. I trust no man that much and don’t think I ever will. It’ll always be his, mine and ours, and he doesn’t have access to mine. And it doesn’t have to be obviously an abusive situation, just something you can not stand to be around.




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      Phoenix48079 wrote Sep 2, 2011
    • I know women who do not have any money at all in their wallets. It seems strange..but if I was in that position...I would have a stash. we have separate checking accounts..but they are joint. If either one of us wants..we can check the others. we each pretty much spend what we want without consulting each other. Of course If either one needed money from the other it would be freely given.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Sep 2, 2011
    • Wow, what a strong question. I always asked the X for emergency money when he went off on a camping/riding trip, but when he decided he wanted a divorce he didn’t want to give me any money from the start. We had separate checking accounts, but while mine had just a thousand dollar at the most, his had anywhere between $60,000 to $40,000. While I still had his check book with signed checks, I transferred $16,000 to my account. $9,000 of it went for my paying for the divorce he wanted.  

      17 1/2 years with the man and his mid life crisis was a surprise to me and so was the divorce going on for almost 2 years.  

      Cathie




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      Monay wrote Sep 3, 2011
    • I am not that kinda of wife,lol




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      Cathie Beck wrote Sep 4, 2011
    • Annie, some men are not good at saving money... they have it and blow through it with the idea there will always be more. Not true these days, one never knows when a business will fail or a job be lost.  

      Other reasons are just in case of divorce or his sudden death. Even with an insurance policy, there’s a wait for that money to eat, keep the lights & heat on, pay a mortgage.  

      Cathie




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      Marya1961 wrote Sep 6, 2011
    • Being a woman who has not worked outside of the home for a while, husband and I share the money, and he better not have a problem with it or else!..lol.




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      Nita P wrote Jan 25, 2012
    • no, why hide it..unless one is planning on a quick get away




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