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Do you think it is ok for senior citizens to act rude and disrespectful?  Some think it is a right of passage.

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      Brimstone1968 wrote Sep 9, 2011
    • I was at the grocery store and this senior citizen lady was in line infront of me.  She tossed her bags to the bagger to place her groceries in, literally tossed them.  The cashier greeted her and she was down right rude and insulting.  The guy behind of me uttered that he donot want to be like her when he gets old.  Some senior citizens think it is their right of passage to act any old how and pass it off as “old age, bad moment, medication“.  I am sorry I donot buy that.  Some cannot waite to reach the age to act out but looking from the outside it looks ugly and distasteful.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Sep 9, 2011
    • Brimstone I totally disagree with their nasty disrespect towards others. IF my mind serves me correct I was always told in order to get respect you also must give it! And respect has no age, creed, color, or any other status so why did she think she could be so nasty and get away with it, she better be glad she wasn’t dealing with one of those unruly young people, or they would have checked out on her fo‘real lol.estatic




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      Tuliplady wrote Sep 9, 2011
    • No it’s not ok.  It’s also not ok for them to not tip a waitress just because they are old.  If they are still moving and breathing, then it’s still neccesary for them to act like decent human beings.




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      Joanmarie wrote Sep 9, 2011
    • While we were in Lancaster, I had an older woman literally push me out of the checkout.
      There is no reason for anyone to be rude no matter what age they are.




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      Sonya Yount wrote Sep 9, 2011
    • I have mixed emotions regarding this subject. First I want to make it clear that I do no think it is ok to be rude at any age. Rude is rude; however, I have witnessed this in my grandmother. Grandmother was the epitome off graceful southern lady. She was a power mom doing it all long before it became fashionable. She gardened, canned, sewed, and has been know to throw a lunch together for 26 people in a moments notice....and she did this all without getting a speck if  dirt on her!!! But over the past few years, I have watched that gracious lady turn into a back biting, rude, obnoxious brat. She has become insufferable,attempting to get nurses in trouble who care for her, pitting family members against one another and even “stealing” things she liked from our homes. I attempted to have a talk with her recently about her behavior and she became very angry with me and others having the discussion and she took the opportunity to “dress us all down” and point out our shortcomings. It is both sad and a little more than aggravating, but then I try to look at life from her perspective. Before she became in need of round the clock care, she lives alone, and she is 87 years of age. While she was alone, she cries all of the time because she was lonely. I worked long hours as  a counselor and my brother worked seven days per week. My mother never took the time to visit with her. She treated grandmother like a burden and never ceased to let her know that she was taking precious time out of her day to “see to her“, although she didn’t have time. When I was laudboff my job, I would go get grandmother and take her to eat, do her laundry, and I let her live with me, more or less, three or so days per week. She was grateful, but the depression had already taken over and she was very bitter and angry.  She became that rude person at the checkout, the ungrateful patron who didn’t tip because the service was atrocious, etc. This level of anger kept on until she had a stroke. Now she cannot move the left side of her body and she is in the nursing home. We go and see her every day. So far she has complained about every roomate, moved out and then back to her room, and, as I understand it, she wants to move again. She continues to complain about everything and everyone and nothing is ever good enough. I can understand it to a degree....she felt abandoned and unimportant for a long time, and my mother reinforced that feeling in her.  Granny has a right to be upset, but she is taking her anger towards her family, and mostly my mom, out on anyone who happens to be involved with her in any way.  Getting old isn’t for sissies, at least that is what a lady in a senior citizens group I worked with told me one time. I am sure that’s true. But getting old isn’t a free pass to unload your bitterness onto the world, especially if you have support and love in your life.  

      Thanks for listening. I probably misspelled a lot of words because I am on the iPod. Lol, forgive me if that’s so. Thanks for listening, and I hope I was able to convey the message I was going for and didn’t sound rude and ungrateful myself.

      Sonya




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      Butterflyrose wrote Sep 9, 2011
    • Generally speaking, being rude at any age is unacceptable behavior. You can win people with kindness.  Good manners go a long way.  {Just shaking my head at rude people}ohhhh...frown

      An act of kindness is a gift given
      Butterflyrose




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      Marya1961 wrote Sep 9, 2011
    • Rudeness is just plain rude!  I have noticed some bad behavior, and vulgar language coming out of the mouths of sweet little old ladies..Ha!..who are they kidding?  Being elderly does not give you the right to be a foul mouthed senior delinquent.heartbreak




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      Cc-u wrote Sep 9, 2011
    • I remember when I went to college, I thought everyone would act mature now that we were growing up.  Ha!  I discovered that the mean immature people in grade school went to high school, then college & eventually became the rude adults we meet all the time.  As everyone has said already, We must treat others kindly no matter what our age




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      Vikki Hall wrote Sep 9, 2011
    • I don’t care what circumstances in life have impacted you. It NEVER gives you the right to be rude to others. Especially since it’s unlikely that the recipient was the one causing your circumstances. Let’s just call it what it is..... People think they are entitled to be rude!




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      Necy wrote Sep 10, 2011
    • @ccu—wow, I am so glad to see this...I have never seen people so disrespectful...going back to school...maybe I have been under a rock...rude is rudefrown...there are some people who don’t realize they are being rude...you never know a person’s story...some have the mentality...gonna get you before you get me...sad but true.




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      Monay wrote Sep 18, 2011
    • They were young once and the bad behavior is just who they are, they are just older.




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      Honeyrose wrote Nov 11, 2011
    • Regardless of age , no, one should be rude and disrespectful .




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      Nita P wrote Jan 27, 2012
    • rudeness and insults is not ok or acceptable from anyone.  the first thing that comes to mind is what is happening in her life that has made her like this.  a cover cannot always tell the true story of a book.  is she sick, is she abused, is she poverty stricken, is she grieving a loss, is she etc etc.  all i can say to the elderly out there that behave like this - i truly hope their situation gets better.




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      Kristina E. Bergman wrote Aug 1, 2013
    • Sonya, I feel you are talking somewhat about my 89 year old mother. She lived alone for about 6 years after her third husband passed away. I was called by the senior agency in her county with some ‘concerns’ about my mother living alone.  I brought her home to live with me a year and a half ago. My only other sibling, my brother, lives too far away to help. Her dementia brings much stress on not just me, but my fiancee’ and her grandson and she is getting worse. I have just made a very difficult decision to place her in a nursing home that is close to my house and work, and one that we can go and get her for holidays and weekends. I will visit her every day until I feel she is at least comfortable in her new surroundings. Her condition is getting too overwhelming for me to deal with. The negativity and the non-appreciation for the many things that need to be done for her is overwhelming, as well as the fresh mouth and vulgar language that she never uttered while I was growing up. I just wanted to share...Thanks.




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