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I belong to a social club of women that plans several activities during the month.  I enjoy being with these women but I have noticed that whenever I plan events, no one comes to them.  This has happened several times.  However when anyone else plans an event, the other members do come to the event.  Should I just stop planning events or should I drop out of this group altogether?  Am I being petty?




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      Lazylola wrote Sep 23, 2011
    • I would stop planning and hosting events quietly and see how things go from there...if nobody says anything I’d keep quiet and enjoy their company. If someone asks then I’d start asking questions and try to get some feedback.




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Sep 23, 2011
    • I agree with Ruby. And, I’m sure it’s hurtful so I want to validate that issue. May want to just go and not plan and see how things turn out.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Sep 24, 2011
    • In all honesty me personally, I don’t think you‘re being petty and I would be up front and ask why is it that when I plan an event no one, not one person from this so called social group shows up if there is an issue with me it needs to be brought to my attention and then if you feel that they can’t be honest and truthful with you I’d leave and find another social group there are several out there. It seems to me that these woman are getting together and chatting about you/your events and then they all decide NOT to show up sounds quite fishy to me, God’s Blessings to you.happy




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      Butterflyrose wrote Sep 24, 2011
    • No, you are not being petty. Since you enjoy their company, you can be silent and enjoy,  ask questions of a confidante or members in the group or resign from the club.  Be prepared for their responses if you choose to ask questions.

      When they don’t attend, do they give a reasonable explanation?
      Are the activities that you plan in line with the group’s taste or mission?

      Personally, I couldn’t be a member of a social group that treated me in this manner.  When they don’t attend your planned activities, that is not being sociable. How rude!!! The time and effort spent to plan and organize activities can be surmountable.  

      You are important, your time counts, you deserve better and your feelings matter.

      An act of kindness is a gift given
      Butterflyrose




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      Vikki Hall wrote Sep 24, 2011
    • I don’t think you are being petty at all. However I wouldn’t assume that something is wrong when you plan events. I would start limiting the events you plan and see if any comments are made. I would continue to enjoy and participate in the other womens events.




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      Kmarie wrote Sep 24, 2011
    • I do not think that you are petty but I would ask the ones that I feel closet too. It may have more to do with when you are scheduling the event or the type of event or where than that others are not willing to come. I would learn more information first then decide how to proceed. Life is not black and white




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      Marya1961 wrote Sep 24, 2011
    • I completely agree with Neicy..“It seems to me that these woman are getting together and chatting about you/your events and then they all decide NOT to show up sounds quite fishy to me.”  

      I have been in the same boat and I decided that the particular women involved were not worth my time.  There is so much jealousy and cattiness out there, and you sound like a very personable women, so you can either attend their functions or find another group that is sensitive to your feelings and eager to have fun with what you plan.estatic




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      Sonya Yount wrote Sep 24, 2011
    • I don’t think I would assume that there is a conspiracy against me if I were you. How do the ladies treat you to your face? If you enjoy your time with them, then continue going to their events. Look at it this way, it takes the pressure off if you to have to plan an event estatic




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      Nita P wrote Jan 26, 2012
    • find another group




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