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My son was recently left out of a group who was playing in the neighborhood.  He recently befriended these little boys and they have since left him out of their “group.”  I was very excited with his new friends only to be crushed when he was excluded.  He is handling the situation much better than I.  Are boys “clique-ish” like girls are (my son is 11)?  I would never ask the mom why her son isn’t playing with my son (I don’t want to be THAT mom), but I am wondering if there is an issue.  They seemed to be so close and then, nothing.  Any suggestions?




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      Daphne wrote Oct 4, 2011
    • If i’ve learned anything in my years as a parent (my children are now 21, 18 and 17) it’s that I (as the parent) RARELY know the whole story.  If your son is handling the situation better than you, that would indicate (to me) one of two things:  I wanted him to have the friendships with the other kids more than he did OR I don’t know the whole story.  Either way, at age 11, it’s important that HE handle it.  If he wants your advice, he’ll ask for it.  My son is 17 and TRUST ME...boys rarely want unsolicited advice or a conversation about their feelings.




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      Marya1961 wrote Oct 4, 2011
    • If he is handling it well, possibly he has decided they are not really the type of friends he wants to associate with, might be my thought.  When our son was young, he knew right off the bat if he would hang with a certain group of kids or not..and he always made a good judgement as some of the kids were really bad or bully types!




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      Mztracy wrote Oct 4, 2011
    • ditto Mary!!

      My 17 year old son went through that when he was younger. He did not like some of the things they did and he kept away. Glad, as now those boys are out of control.




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      Angelcart wrote Oct 4, 2011
    • @ Daphne, very well said.  When my son was 15 he had a friend that he used to go surfing with a lot and just hang out in general.  One day it seemed to just stop.  It really bothered me but it didn’t seem to bother him at all.  To this day I don’t know what happened.  None the less, he was fine about it.




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      Msj wrote Oct 4, 2011
    • Wow! Girls!

      Great answersheartheart




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      Tuliplady wrote Oct 4, 2011
    • Ditto what Daphne said.




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      Karen Morgan wrote Oct 4, 2011
    • You all have been extremely helpful!  I never even thought that these might be the kids that my son shouldn’t be hanging out with!

      He’s so bright, funny and smart - I will let him handle this and rest easy with the words of you wonderful ladies!  

      Thank you so, so much!

      Karen




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