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Personally, I have an issue when new members start out, they jump right into talking about their business. Friendships and others are not on their agendas. Is that just me? Please help to solve this negative feeling.
Wow!!
Maybe they have no where else to go
Maybe they think someone may be here that can relate
This is where I have the problem with ‘anonymous’
There will be a new member that will read this, and wow are they gonna feel good now.
I have an issue with anonymous in these kind of questions.
Is that just me, nope I do not think so.
Hoping it solved your negative feeling...
BTW, you DO NOT have to read anyones blog in the first place.
I agree...they may be reaching out to anyone that will listen. Why would you care if they did that anyway? If you don’t want to respond then don’t. So...why is this an issue? I’m sorry but I don’t get it.
Also if there is something wrong with the way a person jumps right in as you say some new members do...if it’s so wrong why are you hiding to ask the question?
I’m sorry you have a negative feeling about this but there is not a protocol in becoming a member here as far as posting to blogs or questions.
Everyone deserves to be listened to....whether they are your so call friend or not. That is the beauty of this site.
We are all women (well except for Storyseeker) and we are all here to support one another. Times are tough for people and everyone needs support. That is what this site gives to many women. (And men too I guess.)
I too hope that clears up your negative feeling.
Mz Tracy and Mary – how eloquently put.
I didn't know there was a time frame when you could comment. The best thing about this site is there is always someone on hand to give advice and support and the most important thing is – every bit of advice is given with wisdom or heartfelt love ....
Just my thoughts ......
anonymous, maybe you should look within to find out why this bothers you so much. we all try to support each other here, so we will try to support you as well. you asked us to assist with the negative feeling. it could very well be something that you are dealing with and aren’t ready to face. sometimes when things bother us, it’s because there’s something in our own personality that we realize rubs people the wrong way, and it results in displaced anger and other negative feelings. We‘re here to listen if you’d like us to...if not, you can do what my other sisters have suggested and not read the “offending” posts.
I totally agree Vicki...totally. You know all of us have some type of “crap” in our lives. We all have own problems and sometimes this site is relief or the help that gets us through those tough times. WE all need to lean on the Lord but having friends whether they are sitting in your living room or sitting thousands of miles away....are the best thing to have. I am very grateful for the friendships that I have developed from this site. I can only believe that those friendships were meant to happen.
So with that said....if you are a new member...I say dive in and say what’s on your mind. There are many fabulous women on here (and gosh and a man too..sorry Storyseeker lol)to support you. And most of all.....HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!
The way I’m reading this question is that people come into the site and immediately start promoting their business. If that’s the case, well, I’m guilty of promoting my business here as well. Anonymous, I understand where you may feel put off by this. I’d like to give you my perspective. I came here for friendship because I live on an island and I feel isolated. I got the fellowship I was after and find this site to be very enriching and caring. I also have a business. I found this site to be a safe place to promote what I do for a living and I’ve received quite a few orders from the ladies here. If I was wrong in promoting my business here, well, guilty as charged. But the friendships I’ve also made on this site just through human contact and the friendships I’ve made through the sale of my chocolates one cannot put a price tag on.
If you see a blog that looks like a sales pitch, don’t click on it. As for me, I’m going to continue to post pictures of my chocolates and tell my friends here when I’m selling a selection on my site until I’m told to stop.
I read this question and was thinking how to respond. It’s nice knowing that there are people out there that will listen to your thoughts. Whether they respond or not just putting it out there feels good. There is a release.
I like listening to all the voices that are on here and it is my choice who I read and respond to.
So I say WELCOME to all! New or Old! Loud or Quiet! Fabbulous or Silver! Mysterious or Open!
Bring it!!!!!!
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One cannot automatically assume someone isn’t looking for a friend, an ear, somewhere to turn with something personal or business related; good, bad, indifferent...or, just something. Perhaps a place to be or go. Some people literally have no one and/or no where in some cases.
I would advise that when you‘re thinking along the lines of having an issue with someone’s potential agenda, perhaps don’t click on something that may bother you for whatever reason. Feel free to discuss any topic, just like another should be able to.
That’s the foundation of our fab40. :)
OKAY...I went back and read you question. You are talking about people promoting their business. Well..you see....for me it’s not a big deal because I immediately did not realize what you were referring to. I apologize if I came across harshly. But I personally do not have a problem with it. I click on what I want to look at or read about. Very much like a newspaper. You have articles that interest you and some you don’t. Like Chocolatier said....it was a safe place for her to advertise and in the end she has gotten some orders. We are all here to support one another. I feel for the ones that don’t develop friendships on here won’t do too well in promoting their business either. Just my opinion.
But I say...dive in.
I like what you and Mary just said, Jen. You know, there may be someone who is brand new in business, hesitant, needing a supportive ear and they want to test the waters here. I say, more power to ya.
I don’t have a problem with others promoting there business . It may be something I need and I would like to support other women who have there own business . We can use all the help we can get in this day and age . You go girls!!!
That is one of the things I love most about this site. I love that women are building business’ and showing such a powerful presence.
Just think if Fab40 had not been promoted....we wouldn’t have a place to hang our hats. Whether it be a business, friendship or both hat.
This is not daycare, what does it matter? If it doesn’t interest you or your preference, then just move to the next topic/post.
Fab40 Rocks!
*Lcm*
Cassandra, you can say that again!
We should all be very proud to be among such wonderful women such as, Chocolatier, Cindylou, Happy, Marie and Mztracy. These are just a few who have worked hard to get their business’ going.
Fab40 is a wonderful launching pad.
Personally, I am thrilled that, we women have the knowledge, power and the foundation of Fab40 to follow our dreams.
*Lcm*
Do you know I'm shocked now I know its business orientated – The US of A the home of entrepreneurial spirit where I thought it was almost a constitutional right to be able to grow a business and make good for yourself.
Most companies started with an idea and passion and their first customers were friends and family mine was and I made it from an after school activity to pay my way through college and then onto a PLC (public listed company – same as NASDQ)
So any woman trying to start a business in this climate needs all the friends she can get ... so go girls !
Thanks, Chocolatier! :)
I also think this is a great place to bounce business ideas around as well as advertise what we do or want to do.
There are some very smart & creative women in here who are very helpful & generous with their knowledge.
Sometimes they point out things we may not have thought of, which is also great.
Besides, how else would we all have known about your awesome chocolate or Hannah’s soaps or Fandango’s candles?
Anonymous
I have no problem with them promoting the business but down the road. I am just saying I PERSONALLY feel intimidated when their first blog is to get business or start to befriend with others with business intention in mind. As a consumer, I would personally like to do business after I know the person first. Thank you for all your encouragement. I think it is my personal problem and I will shut up. I wish there is a way I can delete or withdraw this question.
I’m glad when people put their business on here. I like supporting small business along with women in business.
It’s more personal and I feel there is more involvement in the business itself. Therefore more reliable!
That’s just me tho....
Vikki
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I worked with Graphic Artist for many years. I could tell you who’s work was who’s just by looking at it. I didn’t have to see a name because everyone has their uniqueness about them that is identifiable.
Same goes for questions and answers here. I have pretty much figured out that this one person post a question like this about every other week.
It’s almost like they thrive on the attention it gets them. Are people really that needy, that they will post anything to grab attention, even tho they think they are anonymous?
Sorry, I mean no harm by what I’ve said, but this is something I’ve been trying to figure out.
*Lcm*
I’ve been watching this before I want to comment for I hesitated so far. I can see where this person coming from yet I also understand all others. Though I have not been here long, I sometimes noticed one or two members post on other profiles and asked them to visit their site; some others are aggressive enough to send out plenty of friendship request. A few are here to get more traffic to their own sites. With all respects, I just don’t know what to say for I see both sides of the coin.
I, too, appreciate the question. And as always, I read Annie’s answer and she is forever the voice of reason. She says what she says in a very non threatening way and yet gets the perfect point across.
I, too, agree with Annie about some people coming on strong. I’ve felt that at times from those who appear to be here only for promotion. I think it boils down to intent. Someone who comes into any social networking site hard and fast with the intent of only self promotion and gain will be short lived. It’s the nature of the beast. But they have a right to do that if they choose.
I hope the answers here don’t silence you from further questions. You also have a right to ask what you what to ask.
anonymous, i just read your second post, and understand that some of the various answers can be overwhelming, and i’m glad you saw that others’ were encouraging. withdrawing the question would be unfortunate because it sparked some very good responses. it also showed the groundswell of support we have for each other, and some businesses may have gotten attention whereas before they may have gone unnoticed. this is a great forum to voice opinions, and you put yours in the right place—“questions.” No hard feelings from me.
Well anonymous you have now shown the real beauty of this site.... It's full of feisty Fab women who give support and their honest opinion most of all.
I thought Fab40 was a place to promote business and/or friendships?? I know Im so glad I found my way here. Sincerity, honesty, humor and heartfelt thoughts are what I found!!
I’m also trying new items from women who promote their businesses here. Im so enlightened!!
Anonymous, why be anonymous? I think that is what riles most up and not your question. We dont bite....at least not hard
xoxo
Vicki...I guess I would be one of the feisty FAB women..LOL..
Anonymous...no hard feelings...but really I didn’t take it as a business thing. I was thinking you were saying they were putting their “business“..their personal life out there...sorry....but that is how unaffected I am with the business promoting.
speaking of which, still feeling my way around this site, but is there a central place for the businesswomen to post their various businesses? i would love to take a look and see what’s out there instead of wading through each individual’s personal info (that’s for another time).
I wonder if there is an existing business directory here? I know Cynthia has a topic on post your URL and it will take a long time to find out who for what and it is a great start.
Hi Gals,
As most of you know I’m in Moscow http://fabulously40.com/blog/id/moscow-my-first-impressions/ , and my connection is as things used to be in Russia....sometimes you have it sometimes you don’t. I had to log in four times and got kicked off three times before I could post a respond, but I just had to say:
Girl, I’m sending all of you big hugs...big big big hugs.....
I’m reading everyone’s answers and smiling it’s so nice to know everyone can voice their opinion without anyone getting bent out of shape.
THANK YOU
I think I’m going to write a blog on Russian Fashion....what say you?
Who’s interested?
Please respond here http://fabulously40.com/blog/id/moscow-my-first-impressions/
for some reason I can retain a longer connection on my blog then any where else.
This has been an interesting conversation to come into at this point.
To be completely honest, prior to my own discovery of Fab40, my experiences with "social networking" is that they were about promoting (business, blogs, writers, etc) first and about the social aspect *second*. The concept was designed with self-promotion in mind. To judge anyone for approaching social networking in that fashion simply speaks to the misunderstanding of the concept.
Fab40 has kind of broken the mold, in my opinion. It took me some getting used to the over-riding social aspect of a "networking" site. The poll that Yana had on the front page some time back basically proved that the majority of members here are here for the social side of the site.
I wholeheartedly encourage women to promote their businesses here, whether right out of the gates or down the road, when they personally might feel more comfortable. But, let’s be honest: no one opens a store front on Main Street and then just stands outside and makes friends. Starting a business and promoting a business takes moxie and initiative.
I think those who jump right in with the combination personal/business introduction are to be commended for their courage. Maybe they’ve arrived here assuming that this is a traditional network of women promoting their businesses. To discourage them from doing so could be really harmful.
Great discussion, ladies!!
Fab 40 ladies, I feel you handled this question appropriately. I am trying to catch up with all the questions this evening.
I agree with all of your comments
Annie, smack me!! lol I did it again and I am sorry. I took this personally and felt the need to defend the underdog...
my mistake.
So, on the premise it is about promoting a business...this is my perspective.
Anything in life, we can take it or leave it. I wish I had the funds to buy from all the fab ladies on the site. There are some amazing things being offered.
For me, personally, due to my MS I am not able to work outside of the home. On a whim, a few months ago, I tried my hand at making jewelry. I opened an etsy shop. I do not make millions, but it is fun and keeps me out of trouble. lol
It is hard to get the word out when running your own shop etc. This is a place where we can promote our things while making friendships with others interested in the same things.
Would it be annoying if someone kept at you with it, yup. That’s when you say enough, thanks but at this time I am not interested. As for blogs doing this, reply or not it is always your choice and your right!
I just have to say that I love the site and all it has to offer. I have no problem with someone promoting their business. I myself am a business owner and know how hard it is sometimes to make ends meet, especially in this economy. I have the freedom to read and comment on what I want. That is the beauty of this site. I just know that I have met wonderful people here and I am so glad that I have the opportunity to be a part of it.
I don’t mind others promoting their businesses. I’ve made great friends here and would be so pleased to buy their products and help them be successful.
I’m more sticking my toes in the water. I like the idea of being able to relate to women of my generation (fantastic fifties). I don’t want to offend any one and really am not sure of the etiquette of a site like this.
well...when I first joined the site I had noticed a lot of advertising if you may call it...and I kind of felt out of place as I have nothing to advertise...lol...except for me...
I can honestly say that I am not offended and I do enjoy looking at what products are offered...and in the near future do intend on doing some personal shopping...I would rather buy from my friends...to me it just seems more personable buying from your friends...I know where I am going to be doing my shopping for birthday gifts and Christmas gifts....
I now can truly understand the question. Yesterday we have a few incidents. I am one to blame. I thought someone came with a bad intention and lately only find out she has much personal issue. However, later, I see 3 others.. oh well, I personal will only do business with those that contribute to the site, like Chocalatier, Lou, Mztracy, Happymomma ...etc because not just I know them, I love them for they are fabulously Fab members.
Exactly Teeky.. I really need to feel the connection first. Otherwise, I can just look up the phone book or google. Why bother.
So far, I have had such a wonderful time meeting many of you, writing blogs, commenting on blogs and questions—that I forgot to mention or advertise my business!!!!!!!
I’ve been making and selling jewelry retail/wholesae for almost 20 years. Although, I’ve taken a break to design and create more innovative pieces.
But, I do understand the question Anonymous -- I know where you're coming from. Please don't feel that you're being ganged up on.
I met a lot of nice ladies on this site and I’m thrilled of all the talent, skill and creation under one roof! There are many business owners here and I am so glad. I’m looking forward to going shopping!
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