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Planning to have my mother move in with us. What can I do to make her feel comfortable and independent?




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      Mary Clark wrote Nov 3, 2011
    • Give her space.....let her make her decisions (if she is able)....be respectful.....and just remember...no matter how things turn out to be...she is still your mother and she won’t be here forever! Just choose your words carefully....and remember...as your parents age...things change...they can develop not so nice personalities...due to medical issues....alzheimers...etc...and be mindful of these things...and don’t take it so personally.  

      I don’t know why your mother is coming to live with you but it doesn’t matter.  Look at this time as a gift...even if it may become difficult.  When you do what is right...and you take care of her no matter what...when she is gone...you will have no regrets! I’ve been through all of this...and I have no regrets....and it’s a great feeling. Best of luck to you and your mother!happy




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      Denise Richardson wrote Nov 3, 2011
    • I totally agree with what Mary has said, but you also must let your mother know that it is still your home and you are the queen of it, she has no place making decisions in your home as you and your hubby does I say this because my cousins mother inlaw is living with him and his wife in their home and it is a living nightmare she thinks she has reign over making decisions in their marriage, their home, their kids upbringing and even has moved her personal recliner into their family room whereas they gave her her own den upstairs next to her room. She is snooping trying to intervene in their personal conversations and gets mad when they are whispering amongst themselves, everything is not for her to know so please get an good understanding with your mother as to where her place is in the home. Good luck!




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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 5, 2011
    • I agree with both ladies comments on this. I would do everything I could to make the transition for her as easy as possible. While it’s not going to be easy for you it won’t be for her either. So have a sit down and find out what her concerns are. Then let her know what yours are. Sometimes compromise can be easy...

      I wish you the best!




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      Marya1961 wrote Nov 5, 2011
    • I agree with all the ladies, and do you have a private area for her to reside in?  I am asking because if your home can be re-arranged a little, it may be suitable for everyone.  I think about this sometimes if my mom were to live with me, we would have to make a small separate living area for her as she is a very private person and needs her alone time a lot.




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      Nita P wrote Jan 29, 2012
    • having her own private area to reside in is so important.  encourage her to remain in close contact with her friends.  make a point of introducing her to the people in your community.  the pharmacist, the local butcher, any ladies clubs. etc... help her establish connections in her new surroundings.  on another note, look after your own health physically, spiritually and mentally too.




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