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The holidays are a depressing time of the year for me.  I have my own family but it saddens me how much things have changed with both my husband and my extended families.  We used to get together with both sides of the extended family but now due to death, divorces, distances, etc. we no longer get together.  Is anyone else dealing with this?  How do you deal with it?  We feel so alone.




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      Tuliplady wrote Nov 20, 2011
    • Sure we deal with this, but in our case we LIKE being alone.

        For years, I always had to work on Thanksgiving, so that made it all a moot point anyway.  My kids spend Thanksgiving with their dad’s massive clan (aka Clan of the Cave Bear).  My in-laws always spend thanksgiving with their next door neighbors.  Hubby’s daughter hasn’t been home for Thanksgiving in years.  

      One year I let it all depress me.  Then I realized I was letting some stereotype image of Thanksgiving make me feel bad.  That big family gathering image has no relation to my reality.

      I don’t need a special day to be thankful, and I don’t need a herd of people around to be grateful, and I don’t need the calories of a massive thanksgivng feast, and I don’t like turkey at all....  

      .....I’m rambling and I forgot the point I was trying to make.  

      I think I was trying to say, alone is good, you at least like everyone at the table that way.  :)




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      Connie Wray wrote Nov 20, 2011
    • Our pastor’s sermon was from Luke 17v 11-19 The greater gift. Jesus cured 10 lepors of their disease,but only one was thankful,coming to Jesus and thanking Him. This man in those days was despised by most because he was a samaratin an outcast! He enjoyed a double gift of the cure but more importantly a thankful attitude! Unthankfull people may be heaped with good things,but their inability to be thankful leaves them miserable still! To be continually filled with thanksgiving is a gift greater than ALL riches...Isn’t it? If you are miserable...why? Do you know? I have a lot of things I’m sad about. We surely all do but I’ve asked myself why and what can I do about it? WOW was I surprised when I “Counted my blessings” and realized the balance hung heavily on the side of blessings! WOW!! Each day, when I talk to God,I feel SO MUCH... Love,Gratefullness,Blessings. These came from my Heavenly Father first,my church family second and then my own circumstances after that. I tell God thank-you EVERYDAY!! That was my first answer to the “why & How” and let me tell you it has been contagious! One thank-you turns to 2 then 3 and so on! I feel freer and yes,Thankfull! Happy thanksgiving everyone...EVERYDAY!!!




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      Kmarie wrote Nov 22, 2011
    • While my problem is not exactly the same it is similar. My Mother’s family the ones that I grew up knowing the best, have all passed away. My Mother died on November 23 so it is always a hard time of year. We had wonderful family times during the holidays and I miss them all. I just focus on creating new memories, of not trying to replace the old. I love my family, yet taking time to remember, but just not focus on what I miss




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