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How do you respond when your husband/significant other/family member - someone close to you says something hurtful or insensitive?

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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Jan 5, 2012
    • I admit I tend to clam up. It’s a bad habit of mine. Just a few minutes ago, I was about to say something to my husband about my sister, he interrupted me, I lost my train of thought and said I didn’t remember what I was going to say. I wasn’t really upset at the time, I took a deep breath and let it go. His interruption was very abrupt and I honestly just lost my train of thought. But a few minutes later he said, “if you remember what you were going to say about your sister, let me know. It probably wasn’t a big deal anyway.” It HAD been a big deal, actually. I was saying something about her situation earlier so he was aware this wasn’t idle chatter. But that comment infuriated me! I removed myself from the room because I was afraid I would just explode and unload on him which would only make it worse. Now I’m sitting here with this awful anger.




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      Mary Clark wrote Jan 6, 2012
    • Cynthia...

      My husband does this too but most of the time....I don’t hold anything back..lol.  Maybe not good sometimes but I just let it go.  When I hold things in it just makes it worse for me.  So for me....when I let him know how that comment made me feel...it makes me feel somewhat better because I put it out there.  I will notice that I get over stuff a lot quicker than I use to.  Maybe that is age.  I use to could hang on to something for days...not speak...etc.  Now...I try to deal with it and let it go.  I’m learning to detach from people and situations with love.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Jan 6, 2012
    • Cynthia I’m so sorry.......  

      I try not to let it bother me when that happens but I tend to make a sharp reply in most cases. I used to bottle it but found that to be counterproductive. I don’t explode either since that is also not good. But I do let the offender know in no uncertain terms that I am displeased with their behavior.

      Such is life......




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      Marya1961 wrote Jan 6, 2012
    • Cynthia, speaking from experience, my hub, a wonderful person in his own right, many times forgets that I have feelings and will interrupt me, bother me or aggravate me.  I used to think he was funny when we were young, but know it is annoying.

      I have learned that a gentle and quick to the point response to him is best...“I am hurt by your words, maybe we can talk some other time.” is my favorite and that gets him thinking..believe me, my hub is tough, but I can bring him down a notch.




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      Diane17 wrote Jan 6, 2012
    • I think I’ve toughened up over the years being with my hubby, LOL!  Sometimes when we fight, he’ll cuss at me and I used to get all upset but now, I just cuss right back at him!  Maybe not the best thing to do, but it’s better for me to just let out and not hold it in.




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      Joanmarie wrote Jan 7, 2012
    • I usually keep my mouth shut and walk away until my husband cools off. He can get very mean with his words. He usually cools down quickly. Then if it’s still bothering me I try to get him to talk about it.




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      Brimstone1968 wrote Jan 7, 2012
    • I used to be very slow to speak and let things grow and let it bother me but hey age is really honor because I sure have shaken those shackles off and I do say what I have to say.




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      Monay wrote Jan 10, 2012
    • I let them know how, I feel especially if it is something that makes me upset.




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      Nathalie Girard wrote Jan 11, 2012
    • I always bottle up when hurt. I am not witty enough to snap back a smart answer at the person and I hate confrontation. But I don’t let things linger too. When I am calm inside (even if it takes a day or two), I go to the person and tell them that what they said or how they said it hurt me. Most of the time people are not aware their behavior can be hurtful.




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      Ameena wrote Jan 14, 2012
    • I usually shut down and eventually pretend to not be bothered by things especially with my husband. It’s that problem with communication thing and not believing I can explain how I really feel because I cannot identify any other emotion but anger. Definitely need to improve on that but I guess by being on this blog it’s a start.




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      Msj wrote Jan 18, 2012
    • I try to be rational but usually let him have it with both barrels.




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      Nita P wrote Jan 24, 2012
    • i tell the person that what they have said is insensitive and hurtful and then i ignore them and do my own thing....this can go on for days.




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